The advice thread for random problems #6

[Former_Antelopee]

Yes, they can put one person on 30 day or more approval. You would still be able to participate in the group just your posts would need approval

Ohh okay can you tell? If so it's nearly been 2 months since I posted so would be a long one. I'm just trying to figure out if the owner (it's for a hobby) is ignoring me about booking in classes or not. She's never been a good replied so I'm not sure if it's on purpose or not. So I thought I'd post on the group to see if she reacts to what I post so I guess if she doesn't accept maybe she ignoring me

 

[Snippysnips]

Has anyone taken period delay tablets?
I have a spa weekend on 25-28th, period could come anytime from 19-28th.

Can I get something to take for that and also cover my holiday on 15th-25th following month? Or will I literally be in agony with the delay

Worst case can I get two lots to cover both things? I did this over 20 years go but was doctor prescribed but now I can see boots/Superdrug offer it.

Need to order ASAP so I can take it in time so any advice appreciated!

Thank you

I used to take the pill, always worked for me, I'd start taking them two days before the date that I didn't want my period an it would stop it, then as soon as I come off them it usually started around two days later

However, side affect it does completely mess my patterns up an I could take my next periods early or late, I'd even take two a month at times out the blue

 

[Former_Antelopee]

I have an issue with a friend. He told another friend I said something to him which I definitely would not have said. Another friend asked me about it as he had gone to her about it and she also asked another friend who was there that day. The other friend had said I hadn't said anything and a really thinks it was him who mentioned it and I wasn't involved. I've been thinking and I think the friend who said I'd said something did bring up the topic of conversation but I said I didn't agree and actually said I don't think it would happen (I still believe this) whereas he was saying he thinks it will.
Because my other friend said I wasn't involved in the convo do I just leave it or should I tell the friend I thought about it he did bring it up but I said I didn't think it would happen whereas he bought it up thinking it will and that I definitely did not say the thing would happen to him?
When I was asked about it I forgot about the conversation as it was shortish and because I said I didn't think it would happen I didn't think about it again
Don't want to put any details so I hope this makes sense

 

[griftalo]

If your home is not habitable, they should be covering alternative accommodation and the repairs. Have they covered anything?

Do you own your home? Do you have insurance? I would be looking to put in a claim via your insurer who can claim for any costs from the other party.

No to everything.

 

[Jas28]

What does it mean when someone looks at you and always goes bright red ? Even when speaking to them and engaging at work. I thought they were angry with me but I haven’t done anything to them so it’s not that but they look visibly fuming?

 

[Jas28]

Where is the best place in the UK to get breast implants? and which ones would be the most natural looking if anyone has had theirs done. I’ve recently lost quite a bit of weight, I’ve kept my curves through glute focused workouts but I’ve lost my chest completely. Posted in the cosmetic procedures thread but it’s very quiet in there

 

[cowtastrophe]

Thank you all, by the way. I was a bit worried about asking for advice in case people thought I was one of those neglectful owners who leaves their dogs alone all day to bark. We really aren’t!

 

[Kim Mild]

When I sell on eBay, can I show the qr code on my phone at the post office and they scan that , to get the postage label ?

 

[Jas28]

I’m having really bad neck back and top shoulder pain from sitting at the desk all day. Not sure what to do because that’s part of my job to sit at a desk. Our office chairs are all old too and they don’t move up or down with no back support. I’m not sure what to do to relieve the pain it’s not good as I’m constantly wriggling around in my seat stretching and clicking my back because it hurts so much. Does everyone sitting at a desk all day experience pain

 

[Penguin2022]

This is a nice problem to have but I need help!

I currently have 2 job offers on the table and I don’t have the first clue how to decide. Salary wise there is £1000 in it so that’s not a dealbreaker. Commute time broadly similar. Both roles came us as a result of internal restructures so would be very similar in terms of being able to make the role my own and no existing hierarchy. For context I do something which is transferable across multiple industries (eg admin, finance, comms etc). Need to leave current role asap as redundancies are afoot and I’ve been there less than 2 years so payoff would be bugger all.

Job 1 - an industry I LOVE the idea of working in. Got a nice feel from the team at interview and would definitely work well with my immediate manager. Probably less varied work but then in turn “easier.” Less forthcoming on how flexible the role would be in terms of wfh / flexing when required. More of a “serious” role and company. It’s worth noting I interviewed for this first and really wanted it until job 2 threw a spanner in the works!

Job 2 - not an industry I’ve ever worked in before but the role is very close to what I currently do. More open about flexibility. Interview was much more informal and I very much got a sense of the people I’d work with and think we’d get on really well. More creative which I’m less used to.

I’d feel bad about turning down either and as a lot of the key factors (travel, pay) are so similar there’s no obvious choice for me….

 

[JoeBloggs]

Hi all, hope it’s ok to post.. I thought I’d caught myself on a rose thorn while gardening last night but it’s still sore and a bit itchy, I’m wondering if it’s a tick. What do you guys think?View attachment 3583328

Could be a thorn, I would get down to pharmacy or to the GP if it’s still bad on Monday. Take an antihistamine if you can.

 

[Kim Mild]

Has anyone done their cbt motorbike training, or even gone for a full bike licence?

 

[Sunflower91]

I currently have a bit of a situation with an online friend. We talk pretty much every day/ all evening usually and I recently went on holiday to their country and got to meet them in person and things were fine until a few weeks after I got back home.
I think they’ve been struggling mentally. But it’s hard not to connect the dots and think it’s about something to do with my holiday or something because it started to get worse from there.

I feel like I put far more energy into the friendship than they do at the moment. I’m sick of sending messages and getting blanked or that the only topic he seems capable of having a conversation about is the current game we play. I raised it as an issue a few weeks back. We talked it out but it’s just happened again and they’ve apologised but I find myself not wanting to accept the apology.

I feel like I’m convenient and the friendship doesn’t matter as much to them. Their argument is always “we talk every day, you’re not just a random person to me” but I’m finding it hard to communicate that for me friendship is about more than just being there as a presence. They once got quite upset about the prospect of losing the friendship but it’s hard to keep that in mind when I don’t feel like they do enough to warrant it at the moment. I’m a good friend to them, I’ve helped them out financially, got them a birthday and Christmas gift, move times around for them, check in on them when things feel off and try and support them in the best ways I can but at the moment I don’t feel like they even want me around- which could be them isolating themselves due to their mental health but it’s hard to rationalise that when I feel ignored.

I was planning on going back out to their country to do things that I didn’t get chance to do on my last trip and I feel like I’m getting red flags. They said “I hope you’re coming because you like it here and want to see things and not just because of me” which struck me as odd. I keep checking in that they’re going to hang out with me while I’m there (because I don’t want to go out there and be a complete loner) and they make me feel quite irrational for feeling like they might not want to hang out as much as we did last time.

 

[dax]

Thank you, have done it and waiting for them to come back to me!
Boys have all this SO easy!

 

[Snippysnips]

Does anyone know who you would go to, to get a ring checked an valued? If it would be a jeweller's or someone more specialised? An if we would be allowed as well

We have a ring that's been passed down the generations, the problem is, it's a rough cut diamond that technically I think would be illegal to have in today's terms, we don't know what type of diamond it is but we have a suspicion it was smuggled over from Africa, apparently family/friends? (We aren't sure) Went over to mine because they needed people who knew to mine back then an that's how it come back here

Would I even be allowed to have this looked at or even valued, it's years an years old

 

[griftalo]

I hope you're ok. The LegalAdviceUK sub on Reddit would be a good place to ask about this if you can manage to do so without giving personal info away.

Thank you for this
. It keeps saying too short

 

[boomska]

Thank you for this and to put it into perspective with your own experience. You are right that in a friendship sometimes they don't act the way you would have done but it doesn't mean they're not a good friend. If you have a good enough friendship communication and then moving on is just part of that. Not trying to put someone down or thinking of a way to cut communication with them when it's convenient to you and then picking things back up when it is.

I think I stopped caring as much about 5 years ago and now I've got to the point where I was the one to delete him off everything and not feel bad about it which I've never done before.

You’re welcome I currently have an issue with a friend which we never dated, but my friends think he fancies me with what he says and his behaviour and I’m one of those people that ending friendships are really hard for me. But being in his friend is way harder than ending it and potentially waking up to sassy messages, or uncomfortable behaviours.

I think you know what you want to do Espically if this isn’t something you’ve ever considered before. Sometimes you’ve got to look at short time pain vs long term gain.

 

[Piff paff puff]

Any techies? Just wondering if it's possible to access the internet on a smart TV without any other cables or things? For example could I use my phone and WiFi to do all the things I do on my phone but on the big screen? I have Google home also if that helps.

 

[Jas28]

Can anyone recommend a good office chair for home use which fits the health and safety requirements. I’ve got back issues at the moment and I think it’s from my posture when working

 

[Jas28]

That sounds like something that needs to be checked with a doctor tbh
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As far as I'm aware only a face lift would really help with that. Some people get cheek filler with mixed results. I think weight loss would make it worse

Thanks, a face lift sounds a bit extreme as I’m only in early 30s