I just had my nails done for the very first time (finally stopped biting them long enough) an it was gel she used, am into the second week an mines are still perfect, no chips or any sign of lifting so it sounds like maybe she's not set them right? £40 is also a lot for them not to last, places around me are £20, personally I'd be cancelling an either finding another or going back to the original lady, is the original too far out to go too?
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The original has moved to the Netherlands so way too far
. New lady has been doing it for a few years, I suspect she’s not done the gel thick enough. I’ve never had this before so I know it’s not the gel product. Sadly (in the south) a plain biab colour set is £35-50. Add on nail art for an extra £5-15.
The reason gel nails lift is always due to poor prep. I definitely wouldn't go back to her.The original has moved to the Netherlands so way too far
New lady has been doing it for a few years, I suspect she’s not done the gel thick enough. I’ve never had this before so I know it’s not the gel product. Sadly (in the south) a plain biab colour set is £35-50. Add on nail art for an extra £5-15.
Ahh so just a little bit too far thenThe original has moved to the Netherlands so way too far
New lady has been doing it for a few years, I suspect she’s not done the gel thick enough. I’ve never had this before so I know it’s not the gel product. Sadly (in the south) a plain biab colour set is £35-50. Add on nail art for an extra £5-15.
that's a pity lolI know when I was getting the gel they put on what felt like 300 layers, so am guessing she's just not put enough on, that's so much for nails as well, I was double thinking about it at £20, but if I was paying more I'd be wanting them to be staying on an not chipping off, so I'd have another look around for someone else an fingers crossed you can find someone
I know businesses all mostly use social media now an at times it can help them, but personally I feel like if a place is good enough then they don't need to use social media, they get the customers on how good they are, the place I go to for mine I don't think they even have social sites because word of mouth has them out the door with customers
Hello all.
someone on the celebrity gossip thread sent me here and I would appreciate some advice on a very specific issue, although I have already got one very good suggestion from there.
My dearest friend of over 40 years, we are now both over 60, has, as is fairly typical with aging, put on a lot of weight and is now medically classed as obese. It is also causing her health issues. I know her husband mentions losing weight to her because he is genuinely scared for her health, she had a heart scare only last year.
She has been very good to me over our many years of friendship and I want to be kind and supportive, but every time I see her, her first and most common topic is her weight. ”I’m so large” “Nothing fits” “I’ve put 5 pounds on this week”. It’s been at least thred years now that this has been the main thing she talks about. When we go out, she will constantly point out women she thinks are fatter than her, and sometimes make disparaging remarks, which just makes me uncomfortable. (I know this is projection and she does it because she feels bad about herself.)
I am going to sound awful, but to be honest, I’m tired of this topic.
My main need for advice though is what do I actually say? Does she want me to sympathise or give her a pep talk or just listen?
I have some extra weight but it just doesn’t bother me that much. That said, everyone is different and I know it bothers her not just in terms of health but mainly how she looks. She is actually pretty active as she has a Dalmatian that she walks for miles every day. Any advice would be much appreciated on what to say to be a good friend, but also, maybe I don’t want to talk about this every time we see or speak to each other, which is pretty much every day.
someone on the celebrity gossip thread sent me here and I would appreciate some advice on a very specific issue, although I have already got one very good suggestion from there.
My dearest friend of over 40 years, we are now both over 60, has, as is fairly typical with aging, put on a lot of weight and is now medically classed as obese. It is also causing her health issues. I know her husband mentions losing weight to her because he is genuinely scared for her health, she had a heart scare only last year.
She has been very good to me over our many years of friendship and I want to be kind and supportive, but every time I see her, her first and most common topic is her weight. ”I’m so large” “Nothing fits” “I’ve put 5 pounds on this week”. It’s been at least thred years now that this has been the main thing she talks about. When we go out, she will constantly point out women she thinks are fatter than her, and sometimes make disparaging remarks, which just makes me uncomfortable. (I know this is projection and she does it because she feels bad about herself.)
I am going to sound awful, but to be honest, I’m tired of this topic.
My main need for advice though is what do I actually say? Does she want me to sympathise or give her a pep talk or just listen?
I have some extra weight but it just doesn’t bother me that much. That said, everyone is different and I know it bothers her not just in terms of health but mainly how she looks. She is actually pretty active as she has a Dalmatian that she walks for miles every day. Any advice would be much appreciated on what to say to be a good friend, but also, maybe I don’t want to talk about this every time we see or speak to each other, which is pretty much every day.
I think I'd probably say something like 'I can see weight is really bothering you so what do you want to do?' then try to have a non judgmental chat about taking charge of our lives. If she's on a downer then losing a stone is a realistic goal but she has to want to help herself.
If she does say she wants to lose weight then it's calorie control in some form. She could go to her GP to see if she has other symptoms that could be linked to perimenopause or mental health maybe too.
I had a neighbour like that and had to partly avoid them to reduce it but I changed tack and stopped nodding and sympathising and one day just said 'at least you're still here, plenty aren't at your age' then gave her a big smile and walked off.
Having a very honest conversation with such a dear old friend is hard isn't it - it shouldn't be as you've known each other for so long, but I understand where you are coming from. You don't want to cause upset/falling out, this is something that is clearly causing her upset...
As peitispois has mentioned, I think that's a good way to start... Ask her what she thinks she needs to do to bring some change to her life. A referral through the gp to a clinic within the NHS.. My Mum accessed a clinic because of her heart condition - there could be something.
My Husband has a similar situation with our neighbour - he just doesn't reply to him when he starts talking of his constant problems. Unless it's something we can help with, he has found it easier to just listen, but stopped replying or pacifying him. They walk the dogs most days, so my husband had got to the stage where he didn't want to they go. I'd find that terribly hard, but he said that our neighbour has stopped talking about this "constant" subject that he had been doing.
I think you can only be honest with her - it may hurt you Both, but if it's making you feel
, than time has come to confront it. If she isn't listening to her Husband or hasn't made changes due to the heart scare, than I wonder if she does need some counselling support.
I wish I could help more - I'm sad for you - long friendship is a gift
. I hope you find a way that benefits you both. xMaybe strange but I have really given this kind of thing a lot of thought as I often seem to get saddled with people grumbling at me and I used it to really change my outlook. It's actually made me a much more positive person as I'd absolutely hate to be a moaner.
I feel the same - moaning/complaining is
... I thought after re my Mum - she has a very down outlook - it's draining to be around, and always the same thing, over and over. As it's my Mum I listen, and where I can try to give her things to think about that could bring her changes - hers is about weight also, and becoming old, what she can no longer do due to medical/illness issues. If it was an old friend I think I'd have to be firmer - where I'd get that from I don't know, but life is so short, I appreciate we can all be upbeat all of the time, but being around negative drives me nuts.
If the weight gain is also unexplained - no changes in her diet etc then maybe you could put the concerned spin on it and suggest she gets it looked into.
Maybe also make comments about how you find it uncomfortable when people speak about other peoples bodies.
Is your friend the type who can cope with tough love? If she is you could be very direct and say that all the effort she puts into talking about her weight or pointing out other people could be put towards doing something about her weight, OR if she intends to do nothing about it then she might as well stop talking/thinking about it because she could think about more enjoyable things if that’s the case. I only have one or two friends who could hear that kind of thing and not fall out with the person who says it, but there are some types of people who take that kind of thing on board.
If she is a very oversensitive person I would probably just make up something like “my weight struggles are bothering me too much and it upsets me to hear weight talk so can we just avoid the topic altogether.”
Is just like to thank everyone for their advice!
Having read all the responses you were kind enough to take the time to write I’ve got some good ideas now on how to respond and can mix and match a lot of them and hopefully maintain my relationship with my long term friend as it means a lot to me.
Thank you again xxx
Having read all the responses you were kind enough to take the time to write I’ve got some good ideas now on how to respond and can mix and match a lot of them and hopefully maintain my relationship with my long term friend as it means a lot to me.
Thank you again xxx
My husband is at the doctors tomorrow because he has discovered a lump on his testicle.
I know there is more chance of it being something easily fixed and not life-threatening, but I'm still scared and can't help but worry.
I'm sorry if I haven't spoilered properly, I've never done it before.
I know there is more chance of it being something easily fixed and not life-threatening, but I'm still scared and can't help but worry.
I'm sorry if I haven't spoilered properly, I've never done it before.
There’s nothing to stop you worrying however, he’s seen a doctor and if they have concerns he will be fast tracked so you’ll know what you’re dealing with in 2-3 weeks.
Testicular C would likely have other red flags, benign lumps in that area are common and they’re are many other explanations. However if it were C, it’s one of the most treatable and survivable, close to 100%.
landlord has found I’ve been renting illegally for eighteen months so can’t evict. They’ve offered new contract but must pay extra rent (to cover cost of contract/solicitor they tried to legally evict me with) and can’t, it’s shortest possible time for them to then legally throw me out. I now need to find £200 a month just to cover basic living costs going up from april (water/electric standing charges going up, food going up plus now rent) and I can’t. Spiralling and couldn’t even speak to Samaritan who advised I rang back later as had a panic attack 
landlord won’t even give me a full contract as it’s a “waste of paper” it’s on email and it crashed my device and now can’t get into my email at all. Council won’t give me top up or can help as they’ve said I’ve been illegally living in property for eighteen months paying rent I didn’t need to and the council want their money back!! The council had a pop about the street lights being broken (it’s pitch dark, impossible to see to get in pitch dark) and said I was being too demanding expecting it done - takes five to ten days, and, why didnt I report when it first happened I DID!! I can’t afford basic costs on esa etc and UC is going to be so much less (not that I can get official post where I live so it’s just going to stop)! if I’m caught begging/stealing again I’ll be prosecuted. THAT was after they threatened me with hospital (who I know won’t see me, just wait for police to leave and chuck me out) as I didn’t get meds again and pharmacy rang them
landlord won’t even give me a full contract as it’s a “waste of paper” it’s on email and it crashed my device and now can’t get into my email at all. Council won’t give me top up or can help as they’ve said I’ve been illegally living in property for eighteen months paying rent I didn’t need to and the council want their money back!! The council had a pop about the street lights being broken (it’s pitch dark, impossible to see to get in pitch dark) and said I was being too demanding expecting it done - takes five to ten days, and, why didnt I report when it first happened I DID!! I can’t afford basic costs on esa etc and UC is going to be so much less (not that I can get official post where I live so it’s just going to stop)! if I’m caught begging/stealing again I’ll be prosecuted. THAT was after they threatened me with hospital (who I know won’t see me, just wait for police to leave and chuck me out) as I didn’t get meds again and pharmacy rang themI’m spiralling so badly right now
What I’m about to ask is probably really trivial but it’s really starting to get to me. How do you tell someone you don’t like someone without looking like a bad person? My friend has this friend who I find really difficult to be around because I find she’s one of those that negs you, keeps her back to me, talks over me when we’re out. She met my friend through work and I’ve known my friend from when we were really young. I don’t really like this girl who is friends with my friend and she’s now been invited to something we were doing together with two of our other friends and to be honest it’s really taken the shine off it for me. I’m worried I’m going to come out looking like the bad guy when really I’m trying to protect my own mental health by keeping my distance/not wanting her there cause she doesn’t make me feel good about myself given the way she presents herself and treats me (as I’ve displayed with the behaviour above).
I’ve never had to do this before or when I’ve found myself in a similar situation I’ve been able to let it run off me like water off a ducks back but now I’m older quite frankly sick of being a people pleaser and making myself feel like tit in the process
I’ve never had to do this before or when I’ve found myself in a similar situation I’ve been able to let it run off me like water off a ducks back but now I’m older quite frankly sick of being a people pleaser and making myself feel like tit in the process
“I know x is obviously a good friend to you and you like her a lot, but she’s just not my vibe”
My two closest friends don't like each other and have both told me- they'll be nice if it's a special event but otherwise I don't invite them to things together. I didn't hold it against either of them so hopefully your friends are the same. We can't all like each other
I agree with others just be honest with your friend. I would just say I don't gel with X, do you mind if we don't always involve her
Thanks everyone. It actually is really as simple as the three of you have put it and I’m just way too in my own head about it 
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