The advice thread for random problems #6

[FlipFlop0706]

Get 111 and ask to be referred to an emergency dentist. There’s something called the low income scheme that you might be able to use?

 

[FlipFlop0706]

I’ve got allergies and take medication for it. The medication I take isn’t working anymore so I’ve rang the docs who said I need to physically see the gp. Didn’t really want to as I know it’s allergies as it’s been confirmed previously and really I just need a change of medication.

Try to make an appointment with my gp to try and move to a different medication. I can’t do this as they don’t have any appointments for the month and you can’t prebook after that. Told receptionist that I don’t feel I need a physical appointment but a phone one would be fine if they are available. It’s literally a 5 min conversation of “my pills don’t work, can you put me on something else please? But nope I can’t book one of those either.

She advised an e-consult. So did that, was told I’d hear back yesterday via email. Haven’t had a response.

I really don’t know what to do! Do I phone up the gp AGAIN saying I haven’t had a response? I don’t want to be a pain in the arse as I know it’s just allergies and other people have more serious health issues but honestly I feel shit and slightly annoyed that a simple request is being so problematic. I’m tempted to just double up on my current meds to see if that works but I’m a bit iffy about not being advised to do that and plus that means I will go through my current prescription too quickly before I’m able to order more.
Help!

 

[chickhicks86]

Has anyone got a preteen girl and can point me in the direction of appropriate gifting please? I was thinking maybe a gift card for Boots or Superdrug, or am I officially in old fogey territory with that suggestion?

My 2 nieces age 12 and 15 have just requested Superdrug vouchers for their birthdays.

 

[TheGlossy]

Didn't message my sister or my mum. I saw them 30th but didn't say anything 31st or 1st about new year and we didn't celebrate together.

Thanks.

I forgot to specify the context - we all live in different countries, so I don’t see them regularly.

 

[dressinggownofdoom]

I need advice about my child’s sport! He’s played football for the last 2 years, he’s 8. He’s alright but not brilliant at it and he doesn’t put very much effort in at times which frustrates the coaches during matches. He wants to give it up. It would actually suit me very well for him to give up football - training and matches are time consuming and he’s starting to get to the stage in school where there’s more homework and we’ve been rushing homework in the afternoons to make time for dinner and football practice.

But despite all this i just can’t manage to cut the cord. The season is about to start and i have to decide what to do. I think team sports are so good for kids and i love that it’s improving his fitness. The football club is near our home and it’s a community thing too, being part of a club and all that comes with that. And once he’s out he won’t be getting back in.

He does have the opportunity to play football with friends in our estate as we are lucky enough to have a football field nearby. Could this be enough? Should we keep at it even when it feels sometimes like flogging a dead horse?

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

I need to think of a gift for a 95 year old man and I’m absolutely stumped! He can’t read or write anymore, he doesn’t know how to use any tech, he’s not allowed any sweet treats and he’s in a nursing home so can’t give him a gift card as he doesn’t leave he doesn’t want filler stuff as he says it’s more clutter for others to clear when he dies (cheery I know!) I’m thinking maybe something to make his time there more comfortable/enjoyable, or maybe something to pass the time? Help!

Don’t older people get cold? A nice robe or slippers? How about a nice radio maybe?

 

[Snippysnips]

What about something like this

I can't see it, guessing the image went during the change of the site

 

[Captainmouse]

What about something like this

 

[allthingschocolate]

You should've stated with the invitation that it's "pay-your-own-way". I do think that there might be some who are assuming the invitation included you paying. If I were you I'd phone up everyone and have the conversation before the meal. Not everyone might want to come and despite all their "flash cars" might not have as much disposable income as you think

Fair comment I don’t think they will assume anything as when I arranged it, it was more a case of are you free such and such date and then I confirmed that the Table was booked sort of thing but your right perhaps I should have made it clearer I guess I will likely take the hit on it this time nevermind.

 

[boomska]

Fab thank you! Payday is in a week so I’ll get them then xx

 

[allthingschocolate]

I don’t think there’s an automatic expectation that the arranger pays the bill but to avoid any awkward discussions when the bill lands, I’d probably suggest beforehand that it’s split.

Thankyou yes good point I will do

 

[cowtastrophe]

One of my dogs is quite vocal and because she's a terrier breed, her bark is squeaky and annoying. I'll preface this with saying the following:

1. We know how annoying it is for everyone within earshot to hear dogs constantly barking.
2. We don't let her bark for ages in the garden.
3. We bring her in if she won't stop.

The problem is she's very reactive but very social and every time she hears another dog bark, she starts barking too. Either that or she will try to get the neighbours' dogs to 'talk' to her by standing in the garden and barking. We've tried numerous things to train her but she's just very stubborn and nothing has stuck. Often she stops fairly quickly but sometimes she just goes batshit and won't shut up at all. She also then runs away from us if we try to catch her and bring her inside.

I'm honestly at my wits end with it and I've had a complaint (not a nasty one) from a neighbour because she's barked a couple of times in the garden when she's gone out for a wee first thing and woken them up.

I've always been opposed to anti-bark collars but I've found some that use vibration and sound rather than shock and I'm wondering if anyone else has tried these and if they work. The last thing I want is to give her any discomfort - she's a gorgeous loving little thing and it would break my heart to hurt her but I need to find a way to address this. TIA.

 

[Snippysnips]

Now my question is, I cannot see his name listed on the Court websites for tomorrow. I have 100% got the date and location correct but he’s not on there. Is there any way I can find out what he’s being sent to court for, can I ring them and enquire? If so do I have to give them any information?
Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Could there be a delay on the information on the websites, am not sure how up to date they will keep them, I think you can phone but they might be rather confidential about what his case about until it's been done, I'd think it would need to go through court first before any information is released

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Don't wait for it to dry!

Best stain remover I've found for anything is the Elbow Grease bar, it's only a quid!

The jumper is dry this morning but I'll have a look for the bar.

Its stunning. I would look up Nancy Birtwhistle, she has some amazing tips for these sort of things.

Thank you, I don't normally buy what I consider a "fancy" jumper but it was for Xmas. Will look up the lady you mentioned

 

[Savewaterdrinkgin]

thanks for the heads up

 

[griftalo]

We used to get my teen cousins those gift vouchers that cover a few places, I forget the name but it had shops like boots, superdrug, river island, new look, superdry etc all on it, it gave them the choice since one year it was usually make up they wanted an the next it was clothes etc, they change their mind like the weather lol

One4all or love2shop

 

[Rodneytrotter]

I need advice about my child’s sport! He’s played football for the last 2 years, he’s 8. He’s alright but not brilliant at it and he doesn’t put very much effort in at times which frustrates the coaches during matches. He wants to give it up. It would actually suit me very well for him to give up football - training and matches are time consuming and he’s starting to get to the stage in school where there’s more homework and we’ve been rushing homework in the afternoons to make time for dinner and football practice.

But despite all this i just can’t manage to cut the cord. The season is about to start and i have to decide what to do. I think team sports are so good for kids and i love that it’s improving his fitness. The football club is near our home and it’s a community thing too, being part of a club and all that comes with that. And once he’s out he won’t be getting back in.

He does have the opportunity to play football with friends in our estate as we are lucky enough to have a football field nearby. Could this be enough? Should we keep at it even when it feels sometimes like flogging a dead horse?

I would say it's completely up to your son if he wants to give it up. But make sure that he is aware that he won't be able to change his mind.

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

I hope this is the right thread for this as I couldn’t see a particular one more suited.

Is anyone clued up on how court listings work?

Basically my FIL got arrested last year and his court date is tomorrow.
All we know is that there was potentially a child involved (his bail conditions was that he wasn’t allowed alone with under 16’s and had to moved out of the family home), he had his devices seized too and the arrest came after a trip to the leisure centre.
He will not tell anyone what he’s been charged with or arrested for, the only thing he’s said is he’s been accused of something he didn’t do.
Obviously this is extremely concerning given the secrecy & I have just had a child myself into that family.

Now my question is, I cannot see his name listed on the Court websites for tomorrow. I have 100% got the date and location correct but he’s not on there. Is there any way I can find out what he’s being sent to court for, can I ring them and enquire? If so do I have to give them any information?
Any help would be greatly appreciated.

On a side note would the police not give you any information?

 

[Mamacita]

Cat owners have no obligation to contain their cats, I would certainly never do that to my own.

My point is, this woman isn’t prepared to accept the options the cat owner has offered. If you’re not prepared to try then it’s on you to accept the situation.

Yeah she can try those solutions but for some cats they don't work at all. My neighbours have the noise repeller and cats just chill next to it fine i understand legally they have no obligation to contain cats but i don't agree that’s how it should be.

 

[Rodneytrotter]

It's really difficult. Do you know what kind of thing she is doing on her phone? chat rooms? games? my first thought would be to suggest you all put your phones away for a few hours each night and do something as a family like a walk or a film or board game and keep it up for a month and see if there's any difference? that way she can still have her phone but less.

Every single thing I see about teens recommends to take their phone off them at bedtime too. I succeeded with one and failed with the other so I can't talk!

Thanks for replying she never has her phone overnight and is very good at bringing it down at night (although I have to tell her every night). On her phone she watches shorts, looks at clothes stores and puts outfits together. I do check her phone regularly and there is never anything untoward, it's all fairly innocent. She has two younger siblings who are 10 and 12 who are never on screens so it's a big contrast. She will come down for a family game like when we play bingo but then is straight back to her phone the minute the game ends.

It doesn't help that she doesn't like being with us out of the house in case someone from school sees her and makes fun of her for hanging out with their parents. But then she won't meet anyone from school. Ive checked her WhatsApp and some girls send her really nice messages and she just ignores them. One girl had even asked her if she wanted to be friends and she just sent back 'ok'. I wonder if I shoukd ask on the autism thread too