The advice thread for random problems #6

[bozlem3080]

You should still be getting something. Did you actually go through the whole application process and told no? Nobody should have only £10 a week to spend on food.

I went for a face to face interview at the job centre to be told I can’t apply for additional help with my rent as basically I should be earning under what I earn I think they said it equates to what I would be on if was unemployed on UC can’t remember how much that is? They did advise me to move to cheaper accommodation, again I’ve been looking but can’t raise the deposit for one unfortunately, I can’t get help with a food bank again because I’m not any benefits. I’m hoping these jobs I’ve applied for will get back to me.

 

[Happy Lady]

Random question. When we read signs on public transport stating front seats are for the elderly, what age would you expect that to be?

 

[Snippysnips]

It’s looking like my work is going to be relocating. It’s currently a 5 minute walk from my house which is fabulous but if we move to where they are thinking, it will be a 50 minute walk. I could get a bus there, but I finish late at night and there will be no buses home meaning I will need to get a taxi which will be at least £10 each day. Would it be cheeky of me to say that work will need to pay for my taxi home? Otherwise I will have to leave as I do not feel safe walking all that way at that time of night. I did have a bike but that was vandalised in the bike storage shed at home and I cannot afford to buy another. Having to look for another job will be a ball ache but I can’t afford to be down £200 a month on my current wage just trying to safely get home from work.

Is there anyway you could work from home? Or maybe do some hours at the office an then get the last bus home an do the rest at home?

You might need to look at your contract, if it's got anything in it like the job might move then there's probably not much you can do

 

[Rodneytrotter]

Any experts on teenagers here? I have a 15 year old daughter, totally addicted to her phone, not doing revision for her Mocks, not meeting friends, nothing. Just in her room on her phone. I have to remind her to shower, do her normal homework etc. I'm at the point now where I want to take her phone from her completely. I've tried limiting it but I find it hard to manage as she sneaks it or I will forget because I'm busy with other stuff or my other children. I'm ashamed to say that it is half term here and apart from the day I took her to the wildlife park with her siblings she has spent every morning, noon and night on her phone in her room. I see her at meal times only.

It's worth nothing that my daughter is very happy girl, always smiling. She is autistic and needs lots of support, e.g. she is still unable to do her own hair, get to places alone and doesn't really like conversations unless she's asking for something.

I wish I'd never bought the phone but she has always struggled to fit in so it was for that and to contact friends (which she never does).

 

[miss n thropy]

When I sell on eBay, can I show the qr code on my phone at the post office and they scan that , to get the postage label ?

It depends what carrier the buyer has chosen.

If it’s Royal Mail all post offices should do it but not all post offices do Evri for example. If you do a search on Evri for carriers near you it will list your post office if they do it.

 

[Thank(space)you]

Spilled CC red corrector on a jumper this morning. I love the jumper, just bought it and only wore it once plus it was £45 I sprayed some pink stuff on it and then put it in a wash. It's still there, looks like a bird did a poop all down the front.
Any advice on cleaning it? I'm waiting for it to dry and will then try some micellar water and see if it goes

What colour is the jumper?

 

[BearOnChair]

Wondering if anyone has done anything similar and if this could work...

We're selling our house and it's looking like our marriage is coming to an end. I can afford a small mortgage on my own but I will need more than half the equity of the house. I think he will be agreeable to that so the kids have a house we'd be happy with.
Will it work if we sell this house together, I buy a new one with the proceeds I need with a mortgage and he gets the remaining equity?

And then we deal with a financial order once the house is sorted? There's other assets involved that would mean he'll be able to get somewhere to live that's suitable.

Does that work??

 

[GlennCoco]

Please can anyone help with a passport issue that we have?

Basically we need new passports as ours have expired but we also need to get passports for our children. They will be first passports and the passport website is telling us we need to send off both paternal and maternal birth certificates, along with both marriage certificates for each set of grandparents, as well as our birth certificates and our marriage certificate.

We’d need to send them off twice if we order online wouldn’t we? One for each child as they would have different order numbers so to speak?

Would it be easier for us to go down to our nearest passport office and do it all in one appointment? Can we even do that??

 

[Melian]

What do people use for itchy scars? It's a new scar. And how to improve the appearance of it? Tad self conscious of how visible it is

 

[Kim Mild]

Thanks for all the replies... unfortunately I can't quote them all 🫠🫠

Tbh I think it was just the 'significant' people forgetting if that makes sense, bridal party, siblings for example. I have a large family and we're all exceptionally close, to the point that certain people do remember these things.

I am totally aware that not everyone remembers every anniversary I made myself sound like a total brat but obviously I can't write all details as don't want to out myself.

Mr frog is the complete opposite of me, he doesn't make effort with anyone for anything, doesn't overthink anything and is just laid back to the max! Although he did understand my upset at me not hearing from my bridal party etc it didn't bother him at all

Anywayyyyy looks like it's a me problem I shall get thicker skin for next year & beyond!

I think it depends how 'significant' an anniversary it was . But if it was your golden wedding, I'd expect people to remember previous anniversaries, rather than your actual wedding day , if that makes sense.
However, if you think of other people and make the effort to make them feel special, you are justified in feeling upset when they don't do it in return.

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Does anyone struggle with family dynamics/disagreements that never get discussed and can help me settle my mind? (If that even makes any sense lol)

I have two family members who I was close with, they have done numerous things to upset me that have been ignored until a few months ago when I told them straight they then ghosted me, they then ignored a few significant dates events for me so I decided enough is enough I'm done. One of them has been silent with no contact but the other messages me about random scenarios ignoring the events of the last few months, I have now muted her so at least I don't see the messages. I have also ignored the past few messages since I have put a line under it. She has since rang me which I have ignored but she isn't taking a hint!

Just message the person and tell them you need some space. If they still don’t get the hint then just keep on ignoring them

 

[Snippysnips]

Why are they sitting in their car for an hour ? Wtf id be asking them to cut that shit. Alternatively I'd get a massive torch and shine it straight at them whenever they do it

I've been tempted to do that as well, they are in an out the house doing whatever an just leave the car sitting there with it's lights on an engine running, theres also been numerous complaints made to them by other neighbours (particularly those with young kids) about them blasting music ridiculous loud when they are in an out at all times of the night an morning, got woken myself at around 2 this morning with that thump thump thump you hear with loud music, apparently the house was bought for the owners mother an two nephews an it's the nephews that are the problem

The only reflective firm I can find though is only suitable during the day time an is useless at night which is when I need it to work

 

[Snippysnips]

So not sure where else to post this but I'm torn what to do. My current housemate has thrown a curve ball and is moving out. I found out yesterday so I was straight onto looking at places as I can't afford the current rent by myself. I mean, I could with bills on top but it's a stretch, but funnily enough, my friend asked me to move in with her as she's looking someone to look after the house and her cat while she's away (she works as cabin crew) and she's suggested I pay £600. I have 4 weeks to find a place lol

I went to view a place for £625 for rent for a flat only, and I think I'm in a a good position to get it, and with bills ontop, it leaves me with £1000 to pay my own bills, save, groceries and live basically.

But if I move in with my friend, it leaves me with £1200 a month to play with. I currently pay £600 with my housemate who pays the same but we overpay on gas and electricity etc so my current bills are only £500 maybe.

So I'm not sure what to do. I like the idea of living with my friend as we're the same age (34), similar attitudes etc, but do worry it might go tits up and I lose a friend. BUT then it oculd bring us closer together and she could be gone for a week at a time so i'll have a house (as she's got a 2 bedroom house with a garden) to myself.

I know this is an extremely lucky problem to have in some ways, espically with the state of hte world is in the UK. so any advice would be appreciative

I would be tempted to get my own place, while it might be good to be at your friends, are you still going be fine months down the line or when she or you want friends to come over an the other doesn't? Obvs I don't know what your friend is like an you have said you both have similar attitudes but do you know fully what she's like in her own home? I know for me if I was with someone I'd need the place kept in strict order which would cause stress if I ended up with someone who couldn't/didn't live like that, but that is just me, if you are fine to go with the flow then maybe you could try it temporarily till you find somewhere

 

[L1fe0nM@rs]

Thanks for your reply. It’s been published now, I think I just needed to wait until after 5pm to see it.

Hope it’s not too awful

 

[Bobbleowl90]

I’ve just restarted the gym after 12 months (had a baby and didn’t have time to go). I’m at the weight I want to stay at but I have no muscle tone at all! There’s a poster for a free PT session. I’m tempted to do it so they can show me what weights to do and keep it with it myself as I’ve absolutely no idea wtf I’m doing unless it’s cardio. My question is, how do I do it but not get caught into signing up whilst staying polite?!

 

[Snippysnips]

Anyone know who you can go to with disputing a banks credit card

So folks have a credit card, balance let's just say was for example £3,700, this was paid off fully last month so they cleared the entire amount, it was paid within enough time as well, however this month they have had interest added to it

Now with my own credit card if I pay off in full I get 0 interest, so we aren't sure why they are able to add interest to my folks bill, her balance was due 3rd may an balance was paid in full 22nd April, more than enough time before it was due

There was nothing stating there was interest to pay on her bill, so basically she paid what the balance was showing

Honestly seems like such a scam to me, like how are you supposed to know what your full balance is to pay if they refuse to add whatever interest onto it in the first place

 

[Jas28]

Does anyone know whether puregym personal trainers can see your personal details when you sign in and out of the gym with your pin? Would they be able to have access to your date of birth address name telephone etc from their computers in their staff room. I’m just worried a guy from a dating app is a trainer there and I really don’t want him knowing anything about me as I dont talk to him anymore

 

[Bobbleowl90]

If my profile views are turned off on TikTok, even if someone else has them turned on, can they see I’ve looked at their profile?

 

[Snippysnips]

Has anyone got a preteen girl and can point me in the direction of appropriate gifting please? I was thinking maybe a gift card for Boots or Superdrug, or am I officially in old fogey territory with that suggestion?

We used to get my teen cousins those gift vouchers that cover a few places, I forget the name but it had shops like boots, superdrug, river island, new look, superdry etc all on it, it gave them the choice since one year it was usually make up they wanted an the next it was clothes etc, they change their mind like the weather lol

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Am I crazy to consider buying a little cottage in the woods and moving there?

It's basically got no modern amenities (well water, solar panel only electricity, wood stove for cooking and heating) but I just... yearn for the quiet and silent and I think either I tear apart how I currently live or it will tear me apart.

Not crazy. Well water or is it a bore hole? Both should be some of the best water you can get and it's free! You can get a little gas hob that works of gas cannisters or get proper propane gas which is kept outside but you use it like we use mains gas.
This is not so unusual for country living
If you feel comfortable share a photo of the cabin!