The advice thread for random problems #6

[Snippysnips]

Not really advice as such, more just curious

Has anyone else been getting a ton of spam calls from mobile numbers recently? My phone's contract was up November so I switched to a new phone (same number) but ever since then I feel like I am getting a ridiculous amount of spam calls, I've had 5 today so far, it's all mobile numbers an they don't show up as spam (like my last phone did) so I end up answering then because I am trying to find morning work an don't want to end up missing a call from what could be a company

It just feels like it's getting out of hand, every single number is a new one so even blocking them doesn't slow them down, am not sure what I can do an changing my number is going to be a straight up nightmare for the chance that a new number might not be as bad

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Anybody living around London /the M25. I have a question.
We are flying from Heathrow this wkend and BA just informed us that the M25 is shut between J10&11.
Does anybody know how badly this affects traffic? Do we allow an extra hour? Or two?

 

[Piff paff puff]

Mr energy company have been hassling me to get a smart meter before they switch over. My they fitted one in my neighbour house and now his water boiler doesn't work properly and after numerous phone calls they won't come out to sort it.
So my problem is that my storage heater and my water boiler aren't going to work after the switch over with either meter. How can they leave people with these problems without any provision?

 

[Savewaterdrinkgin]

Thanks all I used tweezers on it because I was convinced it was a left over piece of tick but it was a blood blister, nothing inside. Still really sore but I’ll keep an eye on it.

 

[dax]

Has anyone taken period delay tablets?
I have a spa weekend on 25-28th, period could come anytime from 19-28th.

Can I get something to take for that and also cover my holiday on 15th-25th following month? Or will I literally be in agony with the delay

Worst case can I get two lots to cover both things? I did this over 20 years go but was doctor prescribed but now I can see boots/Superdrug offer it.

Need to order ASAP so I can take it in time so any advice appreciated!

Thank you

 

[Thank(space)you]

It’s looking like my work is going to be relocating. It’s currently a 5 minute walk from my house which is fabulous but if we move to where they are thinking, it will be a 50 minute walk. I could get a bus there, but I finish late at night and there will be no buses home meaning I will need to get a taxi which will be at least £10 each day. Would it be cheeky of me to say that work will need to pay for my taxi home? Otherwise I will have to leave as I do not feel safe walking all that way at that time of night. I did have a bike but that was vandalised in the bike storage shed at home and I cannot afford to buy another. Having to look for another job will be a ball ache but I can’t afford to be down £200 a month on my current wage just trying to safely get home from work.

BIB, absolutely yes, apart from certain jobs, how you get to and from work is your responsibility, not theirs.
Does anyone from work live near you & could give you a lift?

 

[Thank(space)you]

Has anyone got a preteen girl and can point me in the direction of appropriate gifting please? I was thinking maybe a gift card for Boots or Superdrug, or am I officially in old fogey territory with that suggestion?

Boots and superdrug are both filled with teens when I go so I think it's fine
Lush as mentioned above is another really good option

 

[HelloStereo]

I was once super needy as a friend because I hated my own company and hated my living arrangement so I used to want to see/talk to my friends all the time espically those I'm close with. One close friend of mine and I stopped talking for a bit because her girlfriend got really insecure with mine and close friend's friendship (strickly platonic, we're just very similar in a lot of ways!) And a close friend told a mutual friend that i was needy but she didn't want to stop talking to me. Now, me and close friend are closer than ever and I know that if I do become needy again as a friend, she would tell me (and vice versa) but still would appreciate our friendship.Same with being annoying; she can annoy me, I can annoy her but we look at the bigger picture which is that we care about being in each other lives and know that we might be annoying each because of the circumstances, feelings like we might be tired.

EVERYONE can be annoying at times but he definitely sounds like a user and emotional fuckward with the blocking/unblocking. He definitely doesn't sound like a friend, and sounds like he's calling you a friend to keep you in his life when it suits him. I wouldn't take on board what he has said about you.

I would reply back going "I've reviewed everything you've said and I do think this friendship has ran its course and I no longer want to be friends. take care "

Thank you for this and to put it into perspective with your own experience. You are right that in a friendship sometimes they don't act the way you would have done but it doesn't mean they're not a good friend. If you have a good enough friendship communication and then moving on is just part of that. Not trying to put someone down or thinking of a way to cut communication with them when it's convenient to you and then picking things back up when it is.

I think I stopped caring as much about 5 years ago and now I've got to the point where I was the one to delete him off everything and not feel bad about it which I've never done before.

 

[didisaythatoutloudoops]

When you're away with friends is it unreasonable to expect to actually do stuff with them? I've just had several shitty messages from a "friend" because I was away with them over the weekend and expected to do things with them? I don't want to wander around a strange city by myself. Hardly anyone told me where they were going or what they were doing

I think holidays with friends can vary from spending 24/7 together, to splitting up for the day and meeting up for dinner.

I personally prefer the latter, because holidays where you're spending every minute together for me can get a bit too much - and having that time apart can give you something really fun to discuss over dinner. It comes with the added benefit that you don't feel obliged to do certain activities, and you know everyone is doing what they want to do whilst still being able to enjoy the company of friends each day. But I can understand some people might prefer the former, especially if they're nervous about travelling or going to new places.

I think what marks whether you've been reasonable or not is:

1) did you state your desire to spend most of your time with people before going away?
2) did your friends promise certain activities or behaviours that then did not happen or fell through?
3) when the holiday started and you began to realise there was a disconnect in what you wanted vs. others, how did you solve the issue? Did you explicitly say you'd like to spend more time with people, or set up dinner reservations or find activities you could do as a group?

 

[littlepup]

Y

Quick question, can a married woman have a male platonic friend? A guy friend who has met your husband and you know you will never sleep with.

Yes. But in my experience it’s often not mutually platonic and it can take another man/woman to spot this. If your OH is anti a relationship you have with another man it may well be jealousy but he may also be seeing what you don’t see.

 

[griftalo]

Has anyone got any tips or experience about getting the maximum out of insurance claim? I’ve been victim of an extremely traumatic event which has put me out of my home for 5 months so far. Solicitors have not been interested as no one was severed in half or anything .

 

[BearOnChair]

My partner (man) is friends with a couple (m&f), tonight he's going out with the woman of the couple to meet a couple of other people we know in passing. The man of the couple is doing something else and I'm at home with the kids.
They'll share a taxi to and from the pub.
I don't know why but it feels a bit weird. I think because we don't go out alot ourselves due to lack of childcare and we're also not in a great place generally at the moment.

Is that just me or would it make anyone else feel odd?? I told him it felt uncomfortable he said it was me.

 

[boomska]

So not sure where else to post this but I'm torn what to do. My current housemate has thrown a curve ball and is moving out. I found out yesterday so I was straight onto looking at places as I can't afford the current rent by myself. I mean, I could with bills on top but it's a stretch, but funnily enough, my friend asked me to move in with her as she's looking someone to look after the house and her cat while she's away (she works as cabin crew) and she's suggested I pay £600. I have 4 weeks to find a place lol

I went to view a place for £625 for rent for a flat only, and I think I'm in a a good position to get it, and with bills ontop, it leaves me with £1000 to pay my own bills, save, groceries and live basically.

But if I move in with my friend, it leaves me with £1200 a month to play with. I currently pay £600 with my housemate who pays the same but we overpay on gas and electricity etc so my current bills are only £500 maybe.

So I'm not sure what to do. I like the idea of living with my friend as we're the same age (34), similar attitudes etc, but do worry it might go tits up and I lose a friend. BUT then it oculd bring us closer together and she could be gone for a week at a time so i'll have a house (as she's got a 2 bedroom house with a garden) to myself.

I know this is an extremely lucky problem to have in some ways, espically with the state of hte world is in the UK. so any advice would be appreciative

 

[Kim Mild]

So not sure where else to post this but I'm torn what to do. My current housemate has thrown a curve ball and is moving out. I found out yesterday so I was straight onto looking at places as I can't afford the current rent by myself. I mean, I could with bills on top but it's a stretch, but funnily enough, my friend asked me to move in with her as she's looking someone to look after the house and her cat while she's away (she works as cabin crew) and she's suggested I pay £600. I have 4 weeks to find a place lol

I went to view a place for £625 for rent for a flat only, and I think I'm in a a good position to get it, and with bills ontop, it leaves me with £1000 to pay my own bills, save, groceries and live basically.

But if I move in with my friend, it leaves me with £1200 a month to play with. I currently pay £600 with my housemate who pays the same but we overpay on gas and electricity etc so my current bills are only £500 maybe.

So I'm not sure what to do. I like the idea of living with my friend as we're the same age (34), similar attitudes etc, but do worry it might go tits up and I lose a friend. BUT then it oculd bring us closer together and she could be gone for a week at a time so i'll have a house (as she's got a 2 bedroom house with a garden) to myself.

I know this is an extremely lucky problem to have in some ways, espically with the state of hte world is in the UK. so any advice would be appreciative

I wouldn't if it was the friend's place and she would be your landlord . I think there would be a power imbalance. Perhaps if you were both tenant it would be ok .

 

[conrea37]

Can anyone recommend a good strapless bra for big boobs please
just bought the cutest playsuit but it’s halter neck
ideally not mad expensive

 

[littlepup]

1 - I don’t really understand what happened
2 - you’re being unreasonable. A house move and a new baby, two of the most important and stressful times in your life. I wouldn’t have even brought up.
3 - it’s disappointing but it happens. I’d explain by dissapointment but give an opportunity to make amends.

How old is your child? Did you need to lie? Would it be a good time to explain that people can be busy or forget or get poorly. That adults make mistakes too but it doesn’t mean they don’t love them or meant to upset them?

I think it’s important to remember your child is ony the centre of your world and no one will ever love your child like you want them to as they have their own lives. You’ll constantly be disappointed if you expect your child to be a priority in anyone’s life but your own sadly.

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

We are supposed to fly back from USA to Heathrow on Saturday. I’ve just seen our flight shows as delayed but have had no contact from BA.
I’m assuming it’s because of the fire I saw on the news.
Does anybody know what we are supposed to do? Go to airport as normal? Try to contact BA? I’m at a bit of a loss as I see there has been massive price hikes by all the other airlines

 

[yogiessexdubs]

I’m not entirely sure, but the landlord is asking them to leave the property in 4 days with no notice. I’ve told them to go to citizens advice as soon as it reopens for advice

Yes, that’s good advice, tell them to go to CAB.

 

[Captainmouse]

Does anybody know how to remove card details from Amazon? I have been into my account, wallet, but am unable to remove or edit my card details, it allows me to edit previous cards, but not the current one, have wasted over an hour online with them, no help

 

[Kim Mild]

The one I need to talk about is 5 and being bullied

Can you start a thread specifically to discuss the issues you are having?