The advice thread for random problems #6

[littlepup]

@Snippysnips just be a bit careful. I know some portable/temporary blackout blinds you use for babies can cause windows to crack if you leave them up in the day time due to heat buildup.

 

[petitspois]

Don’t you just love the coin trap drainage hose?!

My fave is the fact it doesn’t beep at me endlessly when it’s finished.

 

[petitspois]

If this were me I would counter his remarks of negative feedback and explain that the person about him has said the opposite. Sometimes these people just try and assert authority when they don’t really have any and are just full of their own self-importance.

I agree, they do it to effectively keep you in your place. Ask him exactly what was said, how recently and by whom (he won’t give the name but ask if it was more than one and a close colleague etc). He’s expecting you to be cowed and nod and take it on board but he might well be exaggerating or even making it up. If it happens again then say you’re confused and raise it in front of him and the superior so you can get to the bottom of the conflicting feedback.

 

[BearOnChair]

I think if your house is in the higher price range (not meaning overpriced, just meaning a house large enough to command a higher price, such as 4+ beds) then it is an awful market. With the economy how it is, people are trying to downsize more than anything (myself included).

I'm struggling to find 1/2 bedroom places but see plenty of 3/4/5 on the market.

Yeah it's a 4 bed larger than average.
Frustrating really as we need to move closer to work and schools.

 

[MacPishFlaps]

It’s definitely that and not labyrinthitis, is it?

Thanks Ravenstown. I am just assuming it is from being on the ship as it came on after I got off. If it is not gone by Monday, I'll give the Dr a phone

 

[T-time]

Hey I'm mid 30s and I think my dad is abusing me. I could be completely wrong but either way he's making me feel like poo on shoes.

*he is always shouting and swearing at me

*regularly threatening to kick me out of the home

*telling me get a job (unfortunately I recently lost mine as jobs were cut)

*opens my bank statements and loudly asking what I'm spending my money on/telling me off for spending my money

*screaming at me in public

I can't afford to leave but I can't say anything because it makes him worse idk what to do.

What are your reasonable options? This is your status quo and you don't like it. That means that anything you will change, he won't like either. If things get bad, how much worse will they get?

Sometimes it's better to stay where you are, untill you can afford something better. Can you find another job? Take classes? Do anything to improve your situation? And sometimes you need to go, now.

I have no idea how serious the abuse is but start working on your mental backbone. Read books, watch youtube or if you can afford it, go see a therapist. If he makes you feel small and you'll leave, there is a big chance you'll meet people who treat you the same way. I'm not saying it's all Wir Kinder von Bahnhof Zoo but you'll not be the first or the last who leaves home because they are abused, can't recognise that and start dating an abuser. Start making a plan and find your self worth first.

 

[Brian Butterfield]

What do people use for itchy scars? It's a new scar. And how to improve the appearance of it? Tad self conscious of how visible it is

Bio-Oil might be a good shout.

Bio-Oil

Bio-Oil is a skincare research laboratory dedicated to finding new ways to care for skin. It was established in 1987 and has to date released four products.

www.bio-oil.com

 

[Former_Antelopee]

I get that, they can push your buttons an you do end up shouting, but yeah unfortunately shouting will worsen it because then they think "great now we both are yelling" lol

Have you tried some chew toys like the kong ones? you can get ones you can put peanut butter inside or other jams, an sometimes the licking an biting them can tire their jaw out which can sometimes help

But if you have already had complaints I would try an keep her out the garden unless you can be there an try an keep her in house with plenty things for her to play with, maybe even try some of those yt channels that are designed for dogs to watch, just because you can actually go to your council about dogs barking as it will come under a statutory nuisance, there are many steps to it, first being you would talk to your neighbour about it (the complaint would be the same) next keeping a log, then it would start to go to the council an eventually it will result in fines

And freeze them so they last longer

 

[Snippysnips]

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I guess this is a random problem, so wondering if anyone can help...
I'm going on my first long haul flight on Tuesday and starting to get really nervous! Do things like Kalms work? Or if anyone has any other recommendations, I'd be v grateful! Thank you

I use the rescue remedy, mainly the spray one but I think they also do gummies as well

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Has anyone had their breast implants removed. I’m considering getting them and I’m just wondering whether they leave you with saggy skin if were to remove them in the future

Yes, but they should fix that at the same time. They’re not just going to pluck them out and leave you with two deflated bags. They sort it out at the same time

 

[Kim Mild]

How do you complain anout a dirty Dr Surgery? And can I do it anonymously?
I’ve tried to look online but couldn’t really find the info I’m looking for. Plus I’d rsther not the surgery know it’s me complaining in case they start being discrimatory

Can you write a letter to the practice manager?

 

[Kim Mild]

I’m not sure if this is the right thread but I’m not sure where else to put it.
my maternity leave ends this month 🥲 and I don’t have another job to go to. I am looking and applying but it’s ideally got to be after school hours due to childcare.
im planning on going for job seekers to maintain a part income whilst I look but this won’t cover my mortgage.
any ideas for extra income jobs? Does anyone get job seekers.. how much is it a week realistically? I don’t know what to do I’m frantically looking but any afterschool jobs I’ve seen start at 3:30 which doesn’t work and I have a bit of savings to dip into for now but don’t want to diminish it all

I think it all falls under universal credit now . There are Facebook groups and people will be able to explain things better there and you can ask any questions you have. Do you live with a partner? The application is all done online.

 

[bozlem3080]

My kid’s landlord went into their room without permission the other day. What’s up with these people?

It’s a piss take. I take good care of my room, I pay enough for it & I don’t want people coming in when I’m there or not, what if things start going missing? What happens then?

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

They are doing the inspections the last Monday of every month, I don’t know what they expect to find? An unmade bed, un flushed toilet etc…. one of my housemates smokes cannabis & is a messy shit but emails went out to us all about the mess/smell of smoke, I literally come home from work, have my tea & sit in my room, that’s it. We don’t even have a living room or table & chairs in the kitchen. It’s quite miserable living here but it’s a roof over my head.

I have zero chance of moving anywhere else & it’s actually upset me tonight, I can’t afford privately renting, even a little flat & the council would never rehouse me, feeling a bit lost in life at the moment

I agree with another poster, contact CAB. Once a month seems excessive

 

[tomato_paste]

It doesn't sound crazy, but you need to be sure that you can handle solitude like that. I think it sounds dreamy, but I also know that I personally tend to fall into a weird state when I'm not getting any human interaction, so it's something I'd think about before doing it.
And also think about the practicalities of what you need for daily life like getting groceries - are you able to do that easily, wouldyou be able to do it when the weather isn't great or if you are ill, etc.
I don't think at all it's not doable and in fact it sounds like a very nice thing to do, but I'd try to think about it from all angles before committing to it.

Well I'm coming into an inheritance soon so I'll be free to do a lot of things I wouldn't have been able to do earlier. It's been my dream to live a soft life for years, I despise the rat race we're all forced into.

I could easily afford the cabin plus any renovations that would be needed (depends on what I am allowed to do by the council). This cabin is ideal because its close to a small village while still conpletely removed from it. It's in the middle of the woods of which I would own 3000 m2.

I will have to talk to the owner how it is designated. If it had a forest designation only and the cottage is grandfathered in, I would be ok, but probably won't be allowed to connect to mains water and electricity or do big stuff to the existing structure.

Idk maybe I'm being delusional to even consider this. I'm just desperate for change and so so tired of continuing on a path that doesn't feel like mine, and hasn't for years.

 

[Former_Antelopee]

My parents shave an Aygo and they like it, it had cameras in for reversing. They had one that was written off in a crash and then got a second one so must like it as they didn't change to another car.
Although I prefer the look of an i10 I would've got one at some point if I didn't get a good deal on a family members car they were selling. Although an Aygo would've been my second choice and I would've just picked whichever was the better deal at the time as wouldn't have been that bothered

 

[Snippysnips]

Has anyone ever had extreme fatigue out of no where? I get at least 8 hours of sleep but I’m constantly yawning feel drowsy and eyes closing .i don’t even like coffee but having to have it just to keep my eyes open, it doesn’t help that much and im still tired. Thinking of seeing the doctor about it as it’s starting to affect my daily life

I have this back an forth an have been told my iron levels are quite low, so I'd get that checked out, I usually take feroglobin to help

 

[Snippysnips]

My manager is quite defensive though so when you do ask something back she makes it sound like it’s argumentative due to her tone. I do miss our previous lead as they were just so easy to get on with

That's a pity, a manager should really be understanding of these things, just because it makes sense to her doesn't mean others will pick it up, is there no way you could say to her that you want to write it all down so you don't miss anything? An could she quickly check it over so that she knows you got it all? That way she's thinking you are doing it to remember it an not because you need to try an decipher what she's on about

 

[didisaythatoutloudoops]

I did think well no one will remember what I wear, I can double up but then of course..there are the photos!.

It is exactly the same green . I don't think too bridesmaidy though. It has long sleeves and a little stand up collar, but then will October, 40+ bridesmaids be decked out in chiffon?. Maybe we'll have a heatwave and I can re wear a summer one .

Personally, I think if you have been told the bridal party colour, that it's an indirect wedding-soft way of saying 'please note this colour is reserved for the bridal party'.

 

[boatofbubbles]

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Found 3 but I'll be honest cba to look for more haha .

Thanks I did search thread titles but nothing useful came up.