The advice thread for random problems #5

[griftalo]

Definitely a cat. It’s all collected in the same space so I’ll give that stuff a go and see if it will help. Thank you.


Sadly not. I could change the order of the bins and move them fractionally down but not completely.

You can spray diluted washing liquid (bio) to kill the scent, it’s a cheap option

 

[and so say we all]

How do you know she isn’t being challenged?

a change of school is a big deal and being the newbie again would be tough

Thank you for your response. She tells me it's very easy, she shows me what she does. I have also had her tested and she is considered gifted. She was bullied but that was kind of dealt with but now is kind of left out of things.
. Which she doesn't mind too much... it's just said to witness.
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Thank you for your response. She tells me it's very easy, she shows me what she does. I have also had her tested and she is considered gifted. She was bullied but that was kind of dealt with but now is kind of left out of things.
. Which she doesn't mind too much... it's just said to witness.

She would know 2 people at the new school
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I don’t have children but I imagine changing schools so often can also knock their confidence. Plus the issues might not go away. Also your child wants to stay so the underlying problem might be different to what you think.
Personally I would try and work with the school. Are they being bullied? Or is it more that they don’t make friends?

She makes friends fine. She also wants to stay because she doesn't have to try very hard... her words. She wants to stay because she loves this particular teacher who is there two days a week.

 

[littlepup]

Looking for recommendations on best foot care, have taken up a ton of walking as I recently started a virtual race, next year I want to up my miles per day as I intend to do another challenge which is going be massive, but my feet are now starting to get some blisters as well as really rough skin around the heel especially

What's the best exfoliating and or cream out there to help with them?

I don’t know if it’s still the case but people used to purposely harden the skin with surgical spirit for walking in order to avoid blisters. Give it a google, It may be better to leave them to “toughen up” rather than trying to keep them soft.
That said, boots £10 Tuesday often includes a “foot mender all in one” cream reduced from £30 which is really well reviewed. I like the CCS ones or those little foot soak bags you leave on for half an hour.

 

[Snippysnips]

Need some ideas for hobbies...
I like reading and gardening. I’m early forties. I just need some distraction and distance at the moment and on working on me I’ve realised I don’t have any hobbies? Don’t know what to do? I’m quite creative. Hobby ideas please?

I enjoying trying as much as I can an have found buying a little set off Amazon helps when am unsure if it's something I'll really like or not, they do a ton of little starter kits for needle felting, needle punching, diamond art, soap making, candle making, crochet, knitting etc

I've found I really enjoy the diamond art an right now am doing keyrings, if you enjoy gardening they also do little butterfly's or dragonfly's you can put in your pots, there's also little gardening kits like grow your own bonsai tree you might be interested in if your looking to stay with gardening

 

[TheGlossy]

Have you checked the details on the order. If it says kerbside delivery or specifies where they deliver to?

No, I checked - it does not say kerbside.

It just specifies the exact address itself. I don’t think I’ve ever seen this in Ireland where you get a kerbside delivery.

I think if he’d say it’s not protocol fair enough but him saying he ‘doesn’t have time’ and only does door delivery when HE wants to is what set me off. It’s just rude especially as I’d seen him this past week in the building on more than one occasion. He obviously wanted to finish his Saturday shift early and couldn’t be bothered.

Besides, if they were given the kerbside instruction, then the retailer should have advised the customer of this because who would want kerbside delivery for heavy furniture?

 

[Clickbait]

Bought a simplycook kit to make chicken makhani. However once I started cooking I realised they didn’t send me the paste.
Does anybody know how to make makhani (butter) paste

I find YouTube is a goldmine for this sort of thing. You might want to search for Makhani gravy.

 

[Thank(space)you]

I’m so confused - you’ve taken your car in for an MOT and the mechanic has called you a maneater??
I’d have stopped that conversation right there and called his boss over to ask him to repeat it..!

This conversation took place via message.
He owns the garage so nobody to report him to

 

[CoffeeMamma]

Obviously someone has screwed up but the claim cannot be closed by you alone. You both need to attend an appointment at Jobcentre to sort this out and, get some advice because if he’s still been getting UC whilst you are working he may have been overpaid depending on the taper on your salary etc.

With my friends her husband was lead claimant and sorted everything out so is contact, she hasn’t been - it’s still a joint claim though.

UC is such a bloody mess, it really is. So many vulnerable people been caught out by it. It was the same with the extra £20 during covid used to get people to transfer to UC early with no idea it would be stopped because no one was clear on that.

I guess I must be the lead claimant? I haven't received anything since I took the form in so that bit is at least correct it will have to wait for summer hols because I work in education and refuse to take a days unpaid leave for this level of nonsense.

 

[littlepup]

It's a pity I wouldn't get an end date, even if it was a rough estimate it would be enough, it just seems to be going on weeks when others have had work done an its been a fraction of the time

You might get a rough date from the company doing the works or the property owner but if you've ever seen Grand Designs you'll see nothing with building works goes to plan! And it could just be the first round of works sadly. The council won't have any knowledge of it and even if the planning officer is involved GDPR would probably put the breaks on them divulging anything. Checking their planning application online though, if they have one, could give you an idea on the scope of the works and the planning decision will tell you if any special conditions have been applied. It'll also show any neighbour objections. Nothing brings neighbours together like objecting to planning so if you recognise any names that haven't been redacted on rejections, you could ask them to support your complaint too.

 

[Thank(space)you]

If you knew something that [to you] is minor but you know the other person would be pissed off about. Would you tell them now or when they're back off holiday?
Not telling them isn't an option because if they found out they'd treat it as you breaching their trust.

 

[House of Tea]

Thanks for the toy ggestions!

 

[Clickbait]

I've got some Skechers bob ones and they're quite generous width, I find most of their shoes the same. https://www.skechers.co.uk/bobs-desert-kiss/31440.html

Thank you, those are the exact ones that I was looking at. I also have a toddler and not much time to shop so might buy online and hope for the best.

 

[Former_Antelopee]

What's a good excuse not to go to a wedding? I don't want to go as I'm pretty sure I won't know anyone there which makes it worse and even if I do know someone it'll be probably 1 person max 2.
But this persons given me over a years notice (still not a year away yet) so I can't really say sorry 'I couldn't get it off work'.
I went to a wedding recently where I knew no one and I just felt awkward didn't have anything to talk to anyone about and they all knew eachother so were talking about things/people I had no idea about.
Plus I really want to go on holiday at the time of year this wedding is but I won't be able to get enough time off for both

 

[TheGlossy]

The kind that takes the mick. I’ve had this happen to me. They swore blind they had attempted delivery minutes after it reached a depot - about an hours drive from me; where they told me to go. So I told them where to go - google maps, and explain to me how their driver managed an hours journey (it always takes longer due to issues with address system they use) in minutes and in the end they agreed it hadn’t been done. The driver, when they turned up had a right go at me. I’m disabled had zero chance of collecting it and, they had lied.
But no. I was in the wrong

I’ve had deliveries at really stupid times, really early and really late. But I’d say yours wasn’t genuine update.

Thanks!

Yeah, I rang their CS and they confirmed this update is not accurate.

 

[klarakluckbag]

I feel really upset about this. Been happily married for 15 years and everything fine. But for the past two weeks I've been feeling really off with my husband. It's like someone has flicked a switch off and I don't feel anything for him anymore. What's going on

I know we always tend to blame ourselves and our lady hormones for stuff like this, but are you absolutely sure that it's your fault that you're feeling this way? You say you're "happily" married, but as many of us know, day-to-day life with the same person for many years can be very challenging at the best of times. I've been married for over two decades and I've had times where I could have quite easily walked out and not looked back. My husband can be lazy, he's a male chauvinist pig who thinks that housework is a woman's job, and he's a grumpy bastard at times. We've had to work at staying together, I know that I'm not easy to live with either. But just because you're feeling "off" with your husband, doesn't mean that it's a hormonal issue with you.
I'm not saying it isn't, but just don't be too quick to blame yourself!

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Does anyone know any clever tips for making super scuffed/chipped car alloys look a little better? I'm trading my car in so want it to look as good as possible to get the maximum value for it, I now regret all the earlier years of liking to get too close to curbs while parking

Depends where you are trading it in. Main dealerhsip? They wouldn’t give two shits, it’s going straight to auction

 

[hytuhh]

If you’ve been let go of during your probationary period (due to “unsatisfactory performance”), what happens if a new employer asks the previous company for a reference? Would they state the reason why the probation was ended or just confirm the dates worked there?

Also, would it be advisable to just leave the role off your CV and cite career break, or would you still think it’s worth adding it on and just explaining the reasons?

 

[Snippysnips]

Random problem, an not sure if it's worth seeing a doctor or not, an Tbh not sure how to even describe it to them an if they will take it seriously

At night when in bed I start to feel super uncomfortable with either an arm or leg etc, it's strange like it's not painful of anything it just doesn't "feel" right if that makes sense, its like a wrong feeling, almost like that feeling you get when you put shoes on the wrong feet, it's not painful it's just a strange uncomfortable feeling that you know is wrong

It's random with what it will be an when I get it, last night it was my right arm, an it's starting to keep me up all night because no matter what I do the feeling just won't go an I can't get comfortable, by morning after I've managed to sleep am back to being fine again

Has anyone else suffered from this? I don't know what could be causing it

 

[Bloody orange Hell]

Thank you @littlepup

 

[StrawberryBanana90]

My taste took about 4 weeks to fully return post Covid but I hate to say that my sense of smell has gone batshit. I'm almost hyper sensitive to smells and often can't eat or drink something because it smells odd. Walking after it had rained this morning made me feel queasy as there was such a strong smell coming from the ground. I've seen the GP and they said it's a reported long term effect - it's miserable.

Yeah my sense of smell has been in overdrive since I had Covid almost 3 years ago now
The smell of cooking really triggers me, I have to open all the windows and doors I can and if my boyfriend has been cooking and his clothes smell I make him change
And no, definitely never been pregnant to cause this