The advice thread for random problems #5

[ChubClubThug]

Has anyone used period delaying medication before? If yes how did you find the experience and can you explain a bit how it works? Thanks

 

[Rodneytrotter]

Can you enroll her in some after school clubs? Maybe a sport, so she learns more about being in a team.

I feel so sorry for you it must be awful to watch.

Yeah I thought about getting her to join cadets but she's not keen. I'll have to keep pushing the idea. She is in a tennis club but worries about who her partner will be and then has a problem with whoever the partner is. She loves horse riding and ice skating, she'll do those if she can drag her little brother along.

If she comes out today and has made a friend she will be on a massive high and will copy everything that person does until she morphs into them.

 

[Tommyb]

He's my mechanic but he's also very interested in dating me. He says he meant it as a joke but it didn't come across that way to me.

How does he know about your past?

 

[Clickbait]

How sure are you it's a cat? It could possibly be a fox and that is harder to deter. Try buying something like an odour remover. Probably pooping in the same spot because of the smell

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Definitely a cat. It’s all collected in the same space so I’ll give that stuff a go and see if it will help. Thank you.

Can you move the bins? If it's a cat they tend to hate change, moving them if possible might make it wander off somewhere else if the scenery keeps changing

Sadly not. I could change the order of the bins and move them fractionally down but not completely.

 

[Rodneytrotter]

I'm working zero hours at the moment but haven't had much work lately so I'm thinking of looking for a full time job. I have three children who are 9,10 and 14. I need reassurance that it will be okay and we will manage!

For me, it's not being able to mentally switch off which is half the problem.

 

[griftalo]

I’m all for cheap so I’ll try that first. I also read they’re not keen on strong smells and I have some lavender bed spray that someone bought me that unsurprisingly I’ve never used so I may douse the area in that too!

Don’t use lavender around cats, it’s toxic to them.

 

[Snippysnips]

Hi it’s not a road it forms part of the pathway to my house/drive if that makes sense

Ahhh no worries, you could probably ask the council, depending on where you are you can actually get fined for parking on the pavement/pathways now so if they are on yours then they would be the best ones to go too, but parking your car where she parks could also be another way to discourage her, however if you are out an she sees your not there she might park again

If it's a pathway maybe some nice large decorative rocks? Or flower boxes? If that could work

 

[griftalo]

Thanks, honestly am just looking for something that will print on card nothing fancy really, I do crafts an it's for putting the crafts on it when am done, other than that I probably won't use it too much

I’ve got a brother inkjet printer that’s been really reliable. I really didn’t want tying to some stupid ink contract. I’m on my second set of inks in a couple of years but I don’t print that much generally. I went mad at first and printed out a whole years planner (that I didn’t use).

 

[Rodneytrotter]

My daughter is in Year 10 and doing well academically but struggles socially. She won't do her Maths homework because the teacher shows on the board who has completed their homework and who hasn't. She doesn't want to be called a nerd for doing her homework. My daughter is extremely shy and I'dhate for her to feel embarrassed, but equally Year 10 is an important year and I'd like her to keep doing well in her Maths.

I just wondered what other people think as I've just had a notification that she hasn't completed her maths homework again.

 

[AshMay]

Random problem, an not sure if it's worth seeing a doctor or not, an Tbh not sure how to even describe it to them an if they will take it seriously

At night when in bed I start to feel super uncomfortable with either an arm or leg etc, it's strange like it's not painful of anything it just doesn't "feel" right if that makes sense, its like a wrong feeling, almost like that feeling you get when you put shoes on the wrong feet, it's not painful it's just a strange uncomfortable feeling that you know is wrong

It's random with what it will be an when I get it, last night it was my right arm, an it's starting to keep me up all night because no matter what I do the feeling just won't go an I can't get comfortable, by morning after I've managed to sleep am back to being fine again

Has anyone else suffered from this? I don't know what could be causing it

I get this sometimes too like nothing painful or achey but you just can't get comfortable and no position feels right! Super frustrating and not sure how to fix it when it occurs.

 

[Thank(space)you]

Does anyone have recommendations for the strongest OTC antihistamines for hay-fever? I'm suffering so bad and it's affecting work as I'm having to keep muting myself or putting people on hold so I can cough and sneeze. My GP doesn't prescribe antihistamines
Tried 10mg Loratadine and 10mg of Cetirizine Dihydrochloride

 

[becca7721]

It's for your husband to attend, not you. It's weird to attend a funeral of smoeone you've never met.

I’ve been to total strangers funerals before. Unbeknown to me the person I knew actually used their middle name as their first so not only did I wind up at a strangers funeral but stuck in a chapel pew with a service in Welsh nodding at total randoms, pretending to sing and the person I thought died hadn’t! I got away with it.

Not so much the second time.

I have a funeral related one
My husband's uncle, married to his dad's sister , has died. I don't think I've ever met him , I've only met her. They live over an hour away so that will be well over an hour each way travelling to the funeral . I don't want to go .I have a few days coming up with several things on , and I bet it falls on those days.
I'm likely to have childcare issues, either getting back for pick up , or no one to look after my youngest. I'm sure if I was employed, I wouldn't be given the day off for it.
I'm not sure how to say I don't want to go.

I agree with others blame childcare.

 

[becca7721]

A friend of mine doesn’t cross stitch but not using kits, she designs her own. If you like gardening have you ever looked into garden design courses (online)? Reading is my go to, do you stick with certain authors/genres? It can be good to walk into a bookshop and grab a book and just read and see where that takes you.

Night classes were in the past cheap but now, here at least, are expensive, the breadth of things you can study is amazing but expensive.

Some craft magazines have free kits and tutorials in - how I began cross stitch which I do less off now), can design your own as well.

 

[havee]

No, it would fall under “buyer beware”. Technically it is working and private sellers aren’t obligated to point out issues Make sure you’ve got it level and aren’t overloading it, they can affect the noise.

yh it is level, forgot to add that sometimes it doesnt drain so i have to put it on drain setting then it work. i feel so guilty about the purchase as i though id found a quick fix for the issue as money is tight.

 

[littlepup]

It’s a very long watch which could’ve been condensed into an hour. You’re not missing anything.

Isn't everything these days?! It's alright when it's a really deep dive but they just stretch it out for nothing much of the time. So annoying you have to commit 5-6 hours for what could be an hour.

 

[Moonflower]

Not advice per se but has anyone tried that whole waking up at 5am thing?

I did this all through lockdown because with homeschooling it felt like that hour between 5 and 6 I could sit in silence and breathe. That time ended up becoming so absolutely part of my routine. I found I got so much more done, it was ridiculous really. I'd love to get back into it but am too knackered at the moment unfortunately.

It's definitely easier to start now with the light mornings. Trying to do it in the winter was a struggle!

 

[Clickbait]

I need to book some train tickets for early next year - is there a sweet spot when they are cheapest?

Are they for UK travel? You usually can only book a certain amount of weeks ahead in the UK. Unless a promotion is running, the earlier the better I’d suggest. I would recommend checking out the TrainPal app - they offer split tickets search as standard which will usually save around £2-3 per ticket and they’re also offering money off for new users of the app.

 

[Thank(space)you]

I need to book some train tickets for early next year - is there a sweet spot when they are cheapest?

I don't think so, although they do say the earlier you book the cheaper it is. If it is worth it look into a rail card, can save you money if you can get one. I saved £180 on my trip up north buy buying a £30 rail card (so technically £150 saving)

 

[Rocknrolla]

Yeah I thought about getting her to join cadets but she's not keen. I'll have to keep pushing the idea. She is in a tennis club but worries about who her partner will be and then has a problem with whoever the partner is. She loves horse riding and ice skating, she'll do those if she can drag her little brother along.

If she comes out today and has made a friend she will be on a massive high and will copy everything that person does until she morphs into them.

Could She be neurodiverse?

 

[Doodlebug005]

It's not guaranteed but some don't like walking over mesh wire, you could maybe get some cheap an make a sort of border around the area which keeps your cats in their little zone an hopefully this one out, again though it's not guaranteed, some might just walk over it

Will try that thank you