The advice thread for random problems #5

[Unknown345]

He seems to be contrite and understand what he’s done.
If you can forgive or at least move on from the betrayal then I don’t think it would be foolish so long as he gets the help he needs to stop the addiction.

Thank you. He honestly seems devastated, but at the same time, like a whole new person. The communication and honesty is on a level I have never seen from him before. I do think this is the turning point for him and he is desperately suggesting things we can do to fix it. I guess I just need to work out if I can move past some of the details, which currently I’m just not sure, although I do love that man so much. I have been with him since I was 19, so have spent my entire adult life with him so far really.

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Thank you, I'd prefer the shorter journey

The only thing is you’ll need to take a bus or taxi from the airport to the train station

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

How does one usually go about getting out of something they don’t want to do?

I know we are all adults and theoretically it should just be a case of “I can’t make it anymore” and that be that, but I know it’s never as simple.

A work colleague is terminally ill and they have arranged a night out. They’ve only told one person the details of this night and said it’s a surprise, but of course we have all been told and all now know. The “surprise” also involves full payment from everyone going - so basically it’s just an event she wants to go to, nobody else, and we all have to pay our way etc. I said yes initially when asked if I was free but I really don’t want to go. It’s on a weekend and that’s the only time I get to see my family, working all week and other than bath and bedtime, I don’t see my kids much during the week.

I just feel mean as she’s poorly and I know people will talk and say how they can’t believe I’m not going etc. Any tips on situations like this?

Make up a personal emergency with a family member

 

[Bobbleowl90]

I have a prescription exempt form that expires 1st July. Can I use it tomorrow or not? Does it mean I can use it til midnight tomorrow? I don’t want a fine

 

[avabella]

Bought a bargain blazer from Vinted which turned out to have marks on it, it’s one of those polyester/shell mix lining jobbies, should I risk it and fling it in the machine?

 

[Tunacanoe]

It's probably Angular cheilitis. Blistex relief cream usually helps, little and often. This specific one, not the balm Blistex Relief Cream 5g | Skin | Superdrug
If that doesn't work, you might need an anti fungal from the pharmacist or doctor.

Ya its likely fungal I got it when I first started using retinol and antifungal cream sorted it quickly

 

[Rodneytrotter]

Might be meningitis, I'd call 111 at least to speak to someone.

Thanks, I did that and they told me to call my gp. They said to call again after 6.30pm. Trying to build up the strength to pick my kids up from school

 

[littlepup]

I don’t know if I’m overthinking this but the dentist office I am a patient at always sends me emails starting with ‘Hi There’ instead of ‘Hi Name’. It’s making me think they won’t use my first name because it’s foreign sounding. I find the ‘Hey there’ from a business to be unprofessional.

Sounds like it’s preset copy and paste rather than a person writing individually. Alternativky I dislike when they use my name, I think it’s unprofessional vs Dear Miss/Mrs. Perhaps it’s to avoid that or to just sound more familiar.
I can’t imagine they go through the records and avoid using the first name of anyone foreign sounding.

@House of Tea - Playdoh, simple jigsaws, mega blocks. instruments are all good at 1 but your budget is quite big for that age. You could get a personalised name jigsaw or name train from Etsy. If the name is long and therefore more expensive you can get lovely wooden Noah’s Arks or safari busses.

 

[EnglishRoseIrishRover]

Hello all- short update from me.

Thank you for the advice, it was cathartic for me to get it out- that was just as helpful as the advice!

In the end, I only ran into Morag in the corridor, said hello then popped into the office right where I bumped into her, which was where I was headed for anyway!

I have been running around like a proverbial blue arsed fly all week and hardly had any time to stop so I won’t have come across as rude.

 

[cowtastrophe]

I manage a holiday let cottage - it’s not mine, I just do it on behalf of the owners. While I do go there regularly before and after every changeover and often at other times to restock stores or check stuff, I’m getting a bit fed up with being blindsided by things coming up in the reviews which could have been resolved before had I known about them. It’s also vanishingly rare for anyone to tell me they’ve broken something.

Forex, someone has just marked us down because the toaster didn’t work. I had no idea the toaster was broken because no one had mentioned it and taking a slice of bread to test it every time is not something I’d automatically think to do.

I‘ve been thinking about a book to report any issues/comments but then do I want guests reading that back? No. So I thought of a suggestion box with a note on it saying please let us know if you find anything broken, if you think something is missing or you have a suggestion what we could include.

If you stayed in a self catering place, what would you think of seeing a suggestion box? Would you use it?

 

[tomato_paste]

The dr said it was my weight. I'm 5 ft 2 and 9 stone 13 so only a couple of lbs overweight. To be honest the pill never worked for it anyway, I do think it is PMDD - thank you for the link.
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I might look into the mini pill thank you.

You could try V. agnus-castus (chasteberry) - I got it prescribed for my severe PMS and it helped me quite a lot. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vitex_agnus-castus

 

[littlepup]

Anyone recommend a good printer, need one to go with my custom pc as the one I've got isn't being recognised as it's too old now, preferably don't want one that's going be massive as I've limited room with where to put it, it needs to be quite good at printing on card as it's what it will mostly be used for

You need to narrow down your spec. Laser or inkjet, B&W(mono) or colour, one sided or duplex, print only or photocopy/scan, speed of print, average usage? Then look at the GSM of your card to ensure it can handle it. Call someone like printerland with this info and they'll advise.

I'm working zero hours at the moment but haven't had much work lately so I'm thinking of looking for a full time job. I have three children who are 9,10 and 14. I need reassurance that it will be okay and we will manage!

For me, it's not being able to mentally switch off which is half the problem.

I should imagine logistically of course you'll manage but it'll be the lifestyle change for you all. It might help to speak to the kids about what it'll mean. If there'll be changes for them like wrap around care for the younger ones or perhaps you not being able to be around so much. See how they feel about it and ease the idea in and try to find something that works for you all. A bit of pre planning and managing expectations.
It's difficult with kids when they're too young to really grasp how much we need money rather than it being a choice.

 

[Kim Mild]

I know we always tend to blame ourselves and our lady hormones for stuff like this, but are you absolutely sure that it's your fault that you're feeling this way? You say you're "happily" married, but as many of us know, day-to-day life with the same person for many years can be very challenging at the best of times. I've been married for over two decades and I've had times where I could have quite easily walked out and not looked back. My husband can be lazy, he's a male chauvinist pig who thinks that housework is a woman's job, and he's a grumpy bastard at times. We've had to work at staying together, I know that I'm not easy to live with either. But just because you're feeling "off" with your husband, doesn't mean that it's a hormonal issue with you.
I'm not saying it isn't, but just don't be too quick to blame yourself!

I agree, men in long term relationships get complacent and their behaviour could be better..

 

[RandomUser12345]

Can anyone recommend me a decent, good looking coffee cup that fits in a car holder. One that doesn’t leak, keeps coffee hot, has an opening for drinking that’s not going to burn the mooth off you or dribble all over your white jersey - and most importantly, doesn’t smell funky after washing?!!

Highly recommend Chillys. Keeps drinks hot for ages. Mine is a few years old now so they've probably improved even more, if that's possible haha. They're a bit pricey but in my experience, worth the extra money as mine has lasted ages.

 

[Merpedy]

HR has been included in a probation review meeting - which is also several months late but I think that’s more down to the company being disorganised

Slightly concerned, should I be? Apparently it’s not usual

There has been some small tensions between me and the team but they have been mostly sorted and I even got promoted during the time period so I’m a bit confused

 

[TheGlossy]

Could you not get a partial denture? Essentially it’s just one false tooth (or how ever many you may need) and they attach to the teeth next to them. You take them out at night etc. A friend has one for his front tooth, he’s had it since he was 25 and he gets on with it great. But nobody would notice. It’s like this

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Thank you. I will look into it and discuss with the dentists (plural as more than likely I will need to discuss with many).

To say I was so scared of going again despite the abscesses and rotting because of my past trauma with orthodontists/dentists and I’m now in an even bigger conundrum. I’ve been crying all evening.

Even though I had issues, I still had my roots with prevented teeth from shifting and gave me some time. Now that the roots are gone, I need to get a swift solution due to possible bone loss & possibility of teeth shifting.

I’m so heartbroken. How come the dentist didn’t detect the fact the root couldn’t be removed fully in the x-ray we’d done a few weeks ago? It seems a bit cavalier to me.

 

[Former_Antelopee]

Thanks that's good to know, it's just going be 4 little pawprints from my dog, I have them on canvas an hope they can copy them, don't want or need them big, just something tiny for me but I was worrying because I've heard of how bad the wrist can be

I have tiny paw print tattoos on my wrist, I wanted my dogs paw print as I thought I may as well if I'm getting paw prints. But they said if it's small they can't do a specific paw print as it won't work as the above poster said. I wasn't bothered about it being my dogs as I wanted just paw prints anyway so I still got it just as generic paw prints.

 

[Snippysnips]

I missed a parcel delivery (royal mail) today - they said they would try to resend the next working day. I need it for tomorrow, would I be able to pick it up from the sorting office today/tomorrow? Google giving conflicting answers so didn't know if anyone knew for sure

Depends on them, am able to pick it up same day if I've missed it, my bro can't if he's rescheduled them then he has to be in/pick a safe place for the day he's rescheduled for, it's really up to how good/shitty they are an if they choose to go get it in the sorting office or not

 

[littlepup]

Bought a bargain blazer from Vinted which turned out to have marks on it, it’s one of those polyester/shell mix lining jobbies, should I risk it and fling it in the machine?

Can you tell what the marks are?
I’d try spot treating with a sponge first or a hand wash but use the washing machine to spin it.

 

[tomato_paste]

How do you clean the glass doors of an oven? I've tried hot fairy liquid and water a few times but it's still stained brown. Also tried this astonish orange soap thing. I've bought a box of oven pride which I will use for the inside and trays but it says not to use on glass.

I use a scouring powder, works wonders.