Listen to the risks about bone resorption. I had an implant that failed (possibly because the dentist didn't do a bone graft first). I lost a huge amount of bone around the socket because the bone splintered when theu drilled the implant in. It took a year to stabilise and although I have a bridge so others can't really tell, the one side of my face looks quite different to me now. I ended up having to pay 3k to have invisalign to fix my bite because the bone loss caused my teeth to move resulting in an extremely uncomfortable cross bite that was making my front tooth wobbly. It was a really difficult time and I lost a lot of confidence.
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I’m really sorry to hear this. I hope you feel a bit better now. It certainly can impact your confidence.
That’s my fear to be honest, and right now, I’m more scared than relieved which solidified the idea that my original fears around dentists were not fully delusional.
I went to get my teeth sorted because I was not confident due to my 2 missing teeth, now I may be stuck with something else to consider.
I will get a second opinion elsewhere and see. While he is probably telling the truth, I’m not too fond of putting in an implant where there is a fragment of root.
His answer of ‘I would have liked to remove the entire root’ when I asked about the risk of infection with the implant was a . I would have liked a numerical estimation.
While the roots needed to come out anyways because I kept bleeding and the smell in my mouth was horrendous in the last few weeks, I’m not happy with this result at all.
Root removal is a pretty basic procedure and I understand roots may break etc, this is not an ideal scenario and I would rather avoid adding an extra issue down the line by going into this implant situation without being fully informed of the risks.
Could you not get a partial denture? Essentially it’s just one false tooth (or how ever many you may need) and they attach to the teeth next to them. You take them out at night etc. A friend has one for his front tooth, he’s had it since he was 25 and he gets on with it great. But nobody would notice. It’s like this
Thank you. I will look into it and discuss with the dentists (plural as more than likely I will need to discuss with many).
To say I was so scared of going again despite the abscesses and rotting because of my past trauma with orthodontists/dentists and I’m now in an even bigger conundrum. I’ve been crying all evening.
Even though I had issues, I still had my roots with prevented teeth from shifting and gave me some time. Now that the roots are gone, I need to get a swift solution due to possible bone loss & possibility of teeth shifting.
I’m so heartbroken. How come the dentist didn’t detect the fact the root couldn’t be removed fully in the x-ray we’d done a few weeks ago? It seems a bit cavalier to me.
You need to keep things into perspective. 1. Dr's are also just human 2. Thing can be hidden even on x-rays. Also you are now tackling the problem so don't be dissuaded at the first hurdle
I think bone problems are a far bigger issue than a bit of root that can flare up once in a while. I fear you will end up looking until you find a dentist that will tell you what you want to hear. Sometimes there aren't clear solutions and we can't have it resolved how we would like.
My partner has had all his teeth removed and a full set of implants put in. He was also scared of the dentist due to previous bad experience as a teenager. But he'd left his teeth in such a state from not going for years that this was the best solution. This is again not the solution he wanted but it was the best option for him.
Im sure people lie. If prepared people can get around the subtle questions asked to make sure they get the right ones. I know it’s not licensed from people asking and admitting it’s not for travel. Same for those who buy OTC at pharmacy for pets instead of going to a vet.
Could you get a referral to a dental hospital? Or do they not do that anymore?
I had problems with a dentist missing cavities which were visible on all my X-rays over a year. Ended up needing three root canals.
It cost me €3k. I had a specialist root canal dental surgeon do them.
I understand your upset and anger. It was really stressful and I felt so cheated and mistrustful. It sucks.
Thanks.
I’m not sure. I looked up my local dental hospital and it seems it’s mainly dental school students training there.
I don't know if this is helpful at all but I needed quite a bit of dental treatment several years ago and my dentist referred me to Guy's Dental Hospital in London where dental students trained. It wouldn't be great if you were a particularly nervous patient but it was considerably cheaper than paying for private work and the treatment is supervised by a qualified dentist.
Look up community dental services. You’ll need a referral and medical reason for going e.g. medical grade phobia/other conditions that impact oral health. It isn’t easy, the services are generally well hidden and guarded and in our area via social services only.
Thank you everyone 
I really appreciate all the support and help.
I was supposed to get a call from the practice today check on how I’m doing - no call. This is supposedly one of the top practices in the city.
I had a huge panic attack this morning wondering what I have done and whether I would have been better off leaving those roots in. I have no idea where all of this is going now.
I more than likely will need to take next week off from work because I’m not doing good mentally at all right now.
I really appreciate all the support and help.I was supposed to get a call from the practice today check on how I’m doing - no call. This is supposedly one of the top practices in the city.
I had a huge panic attack this morning wondering what I have done and whether I would have been better off leaving those roots in. I have no idea where all of this is going now.
I more than likely will need to take next week off from work because I’m not doing good mentally at all right now.
Take the time off. Your mental health is important. It'll also be harder to make decisions if you're stressed out. Wishing you the best. Look after yourself this week.Thank you everyone
I was supposed to get a call from the practice today check on how I’m doing - no call. This is supposedly one of the top practices in the city.
I had a huge panic attack this morning wondering what I have done and whether I would have been better off leaving those roots in. I have no idea where all of this is going now.
I more than likely will need to take next week off from work because I’m not doing good mentally at all right now.
Warning may not make much sense. Gave in. duck sobriety.
Police turned up after PCC contacted them as welfare concerns raised.
Told me dangerous man has moved out, ages ago, so do I need to go to hospital to see a Dr?
Ffs. He has not moved out. The only incident they said was months ago and now fine (so dropped) is still an issue FOR ME. I couldn’t talk cos it wasn’t safe (as him in building albeit another room but no sound proofing) but noooo they kept asking me stupid questions.
Then got angry with me for time wasting.
I STILL have no reference number.
I STILL am in a building with a violent and aggressive man who SHOULD by law be in prison (due to what happened being zero tolerance and automatics prison - I’m not going to into more details than that -but no he’s a man so that’s ok then let him do whatever he likes).
I didn’t set impossible bail conditions that couldn’t be met and when reported weren’t passed on as impossible for him to stay away living so close...
I’d told PCC not to phone, not to send anyone round, email only, but nope. Read it thoroughly but missed the first and last paragraph in capitals saying this.
Why are people so tit? Say stupid stuff like why don’t I phone anonymously then he wouldn’t know - he can hear everything said so officer got annoyed and said they knew that hence it being anonymous. At this point I felt like screaming in his arrogant face.
I just sat in dark crying after.
I don’t understand why this keeps bloody happening. Of the other two occasions Ive needed police it resulted in ptsd due to how I was treated AND the person then hurting someone else and me being blamed because my name etc was put in the bloody paper and nothing was done. Something needs to be done about that as well. THEY dropped it, so why put my details in paper like it was my fault.
And yes it was in March so that was “ages ago” but I live with this and the threat of it happening again every single day. Unlike him I’ve nowhere else to go and the landlord has it in for me. I’ve so much pressure on me anyway because of everything else. This alone is too much for me to handle. I can’t even manage day by day anymore as I’m so overwhelmed.
Police turned up after PCC contacted them as welfare concerns raised.
Told me dangerous man has moved out, ages ago, so do I need to go to hospital to see a Dr?
Ffs. He has not moved out. The only incident they said was months ago and now fine (so dropped) is still an issue FOR ME. I couldn’t talk cos it wasn’t safe (as him in building albeit another room but no sound proofing) but noooo they kept asking me stupid questions.
Then got angry with me for time wasting.
I STILL have no reference number.
I STILL am in a building with a violent and aggressive man who SHOULD by law be in prison (due to what happened being zero tolerance and automatics prison - I’m not going to into more details than that -but no he’s a man so that’s ok then let him do whatever he likes).
I didn’t set impossible bail conditions that couldn’t be met and when reported weren’t passed on as impossible for him to stay away living so close...
I’d told PCC not to phone, not to send anyone round, email only, but nope. Read it thoroughly but missed the first and last paragraph in capitals saying this.
Why are people so tit? Say stupid stuff like why don’t I phone anonymously then he wouldn’t know - he can hear everything said so officer got annoyed and said they knew that hence it being anonymous. At this point I felt like screaming in his arrogant face.
I just sat in dark crying after.
I don’t understand why this keeps bloody happening. Of the other two occasions Ive needed police it resulted in ptsd due to how I was treated AND the person then hurting someone else and me being blamed because my name etc was put in the bloody paper and nothing was done. Something needs to be done about that as well. THEY dropped it, so why put my details in paper like it was my fault.
And yes it was in March so that was “ages ago” but I live with this and the threat of it happening again every single day. Unlike him I’ve nowhere else to go and the landlord has it in for me. I’ve so much pressure on me anyway because of everything else. This alone is too much for me to handle. I can’t even manage day by day anymore as I’m so overwhelmed.
Hi Guys,
Hopefully you don’t mind me posting here but i’m not sure where else to go for advice. I’m hoping I won’t ramble on too much but here i go.
I started a new job at the start of the year with a couple of other new starters. I got on really well with a guy here and we became friends quickly, at the time he had recently broken up with his girlfriend. A few months passed and i started hanging around with his friends and him and we really started to like each other. Only recently though have we started going on dates as we didn’t want to rush anything. These dates have all been great and we both still really like each other.
However, one of the other new starters at work has been acting strange recently. She and I were close friends until over the last few weeks when my opinion of her has really changed. She’s 50 and i’m in my early twenties. I pinpoint the change in her behaviour to when i told her me and the guy had been on a proper date. Before this she was very supportive of me and nice. I’m going to list her odd behaviours since this though:
1) she pointed out a scar on my arm and asked if i was going to get it covered, i said no and she replied with ‘ew, i definitely would’
2) constantly talking about a boob job she had when she was younger (she’s never mentioned in before now but recently hasn’t stopped)
3) pointed out a spot i had when in a conversation with me and the guy
4) i had an awful migraine that lingered for a few days, she copied every symptom but made a huge deal about it in front of the guy
5) started talking to him in a strange baby voice? whilst perched on his desk
6) stormed out of work nearly crying so he’d follow her (which he did)
7) constantly texting him about the football despite not knowing as much as she thinks she does and consistently calling lamine yamal jamal…
8) just constantly pointing out my flaws in front of him
She recently mentioned how she’s not been sleeping with her boyfriend as he’s not interested so i’m wondering if that’s why her behaviour is so strange but it seems like odd timing? I was one of few people in work who liked her until this and she’s still following me around constantly.
Me and the guy might go to make a coffee together or go shop at lunch just to spend some time together but she keeps following us and just not allowing us any alone time. He hasn’t noticed and doesn’t see her as anything but nice and if i point it out i’m just going to look jealous. I’m just not sure what i’m supposed to do? He’s not my boyfriend yet either so i feel like i have even less of a right to say something. She’s went from someone i really liked and trusted to making snide remarks so suddenly.
She spends a lotttttt of time in the pub with a bunch of guy friends and doesn’t seem to have any meaningful female friendships. I hate the term but she’s like a 50 year old pick me…
I’m just not sure what exactly i’m supposed to do? i’m not into confrontation but i fear that if she carries on i’ll blow up on her or it’ll affect my relationship with the guy.
Hopefully you don’t mind me posting here but i’m not sure where else to go for advice. I’m hoping I won’t ramble on too much but here i go.
I started a new job at the start of the year with a couple of other new starters. I got on really well with a guy here and we became friends quickly, at the time he had recently broken up with his girlfriend. A few months passed and i started hanging around with his friends and him and we really started to like each other. Only recently though have we started going on dates as we didn’t want to rush anything. These dates have all been great and we both still really like each other.
However, one of the other new starters at work has been acting strange recently. She and I were close friends until over the last few weeks when my opinion of her has really changed. She’s 50 and i’m in my early twenties. I pinpoint the change in her behaviour to when i told her me and the guy had been on a proper date. Before this she was very supportive of me and nice. I’m going to list her odd behaviours since this though:
1) she pointed out a scar on my arm and asked if i was going to get it covered, i said no and she replied with ‘ew, i definitely would’
2) constantly talking about a boob job she had when she was younger (she’s never mentioned in before now but recently hasn’t stopped)
3) pointed out a spot i had when in a conversation with me and the guy
4) i had an awful migraine that lingered for a few days, she copied every symptom but made a huge deal about it in front of the guy
5) started talking to him in a strange baby voice? whilst perched on his desk
6) stormed out of work nearly crying so he’d follow her (which he did)
7) constantly texting him about the football despite not knowing as much as she thinks she does and consistently calling lamine yamal jamal…
8) just constantly pointing out my flaws in front of him
She recently mentioned how she’s not been sleeping with her boyfriend as he’s not interested so i’m wondering if that’s why her behaviour is so strange but it seems like odd timing? I was one of few people in work who liked her until this and she’s still following me around constantly.
Me and the guy might go to make a coffee together or go shop at lunch just to spend some time together but she keeps following us and just not allowing us any alone time. He hasn’t noticed and doesn’t see her as anything but nice and if i point it out i’m just going to look jealous. I’m just not sure what i’m supposed to do? He’s not my boyfriend yet either so i feel like i have even less of a right to say something. She’s went from someone i really liked and trusted to making snide remarks so suddenly.
She spends a lotttttt of time in the pub with a bunch of guy friends and doesn’t seem to have any meaningful female friendships. I hate the term but she’s like a 50 year old pick me…
I’m just not sure what exactly i’m supposed to do? i’m not into confrontation but i fear that if she carries on i’ll blow up on her or it’ll affect my relationship with the guy.
Just be honest with him and say you feel like she is picking on you and that you will have to start keeping your distance from her. You don't have to give him a list but just mention that it's making you feel upset and anxious as how to deal with it. Tbh this will also be a good test to see how he's going to react and if he minimises your feelings
If you are not confident confronting her then it's best to start distancing yourself and avoiding her. The issue is if you dont do this and then blow up you'll end up looking like the mole.
Oh wow that is the best phrase I’ve ever heard ‘50 year old pick me’ that’s exactly what she is. She is jealous that you are young and someone likes you. She needs to know that her behaviour isn’t appropriate. You’re gonna have to be blunt and she isn’t going to like it, based on what you’ve said I can see her taking it badly and making out she’s the victim but tough titties old lady. Her behaviour is weird anyway but even worse considering the age difference between you all
Update:
I spoke to the dentist and we did some more x-rays today. It appears the root fragment was no longer there (he showed me his screen and I was able to see this too).
He explained everything in detail and was very thorough. He seems very meticulous and detail oriented with a cautious approach which is a good thing.
So, I’m taking it day by day down to deal with my anxiety.
One thing I didn’t like though was I rang the clinic today before my appointment to ask the fee for today’s appointment and was told there was no fee to be paid today. Next thing I know, 5 minutes after I exit the clinic, I receive a link to pay the full fee for something they haven’t done yet and put my account with them in DR. Not great at all.
Not the first time their assistants or receptionist gives me the wrong info. I was told by one of them I’d get a follow up call after the extraction and when I informed them no one called, the Dr told me they don’t do this for extractions.
I spoke to the dentist and we did some more x-rays today. It appears the root fragment was no longer there (he showed me his screen and I was able to see this too).
He explained everything in detail and was very thorough. He seems very meticulous and detail oriented with a cautious approach which is a good thing.
So, I’m taking it day by day down to deal with my anxiety.
One thing I didn’t like though was I rang the clinic today before my appointment to ask the fee for today’s appointment and was told there was no fee to be paid today. Next thing I know, 5 minutes after I exit the clinic, I receive a link to pay the full fee for something they haven’t done yet and put my account with them in DR. Not great at all.
Not the first time their assistants or receptionist gives me the wrong info. I was told by one of them I’d get a follow up call after the extraction and when I informed them no one called, the Dr told me they don’t do this for extractions.
Definitely sounds like jealousy issues, as others have said it's best to talk it out before you end up reaching your limit, just cut in with your not comfortable being around her, an if she starts picking on your flaws just interrupt her an say she is making you feel uncomfortable
I'd also in private talk with this guy, if you are trying to see if it will work it's best to be honest with him as well, let him know how she's making you feel an how she's changed
If it gets bad talk with whoever is above her, let them know it's actually stepping into bullying an victimisation now, she's honestly being a childish witch like a high school bully that never got the guy an is taking it out on you
Other than Costa, where can I buy a Costa gift card? A physical one rather than email. Do sainsburys sell them?!
Most of the bigs shops sell them. Plus we can get it from our little Tesco
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