The advice thread for random problems #5

[littlepup]

Besides, if they were given the kerbside instruction, then the retailer should have advised the customer of this because who would want kerbside delivery for heavy furniture?

Sometimes they use it to upsell, charge an extra £20 or whatever to bring it in, can be in the small print. Sometimes the retailer doesn’t even know the policy.
We had a whole bathroom suite kerbside night at the end of a pretty long drive on a pallet, took a lot of begging to get it up the drive. It’s ridiculous but it’s quite common.
Though I appreciate if you want to cancel all together because of the inconvenience or it’s simply impossible to do it yourself, I don’t think they’re necessarily in the wrong as such.

 

[xbxbx]

Mine lasted about a week. I started to cry near the end saying “what’s the point of living if I can’t taste anything” Anyway apparently covid gives you low mood too

That’s exactly how I’m feeling, I’ve been in tears too and my mental health feels so low. Went down a rabbit hole online and found stories of people who said their taste and smell took months, years and some never came back at all. I’m sure I’ll be fine and I’m just being paranoid but it’s the only symptom of mine that hasn’t made any improvement so far🥲

 

[Doodlebug005]

Get your cats neutered. That would solve two problems

They are neutered- we got them from a rescue who neuter before rehoming- Neutered Toms will still defend their territory
The stray/ new cat probably isn’t but if it owned my the neighbour I think might own him- he is careless with his animals ( dogs chase livestock etc, not chipped ) so I doubt he will give cat any attention

 

[littlepup]

Looking for some advice, been on the mini pill for 3yrs, no problems up until earlier this year when I’ve started to get my period…..3 times a month, bleed for 5/6 days, finish for about the same time then start to bleed again, went to my GP did swabs/pregnancy test all negative, having awful pelvic, back, stomach & thigh pain too, pelvic pain always on the right side, told GP this, said was normal for my age mid 40’s although too young for menopause! No suggestion to change my pill or blood tests, I’m so tired all the time, moody etc….made yet another appointment but got to wait a month to see a nurse practitioner as no GP available, just feeling I’m not being listened to at all & my age is to blame!

The NICE guidelines will tell you what they should be doing. From what I gather if it’s happening more than 3 months, they should be doing more but as you’re under 45 it’s nit
You could try your local sexual health clinic if you’ve lost faith in your GP.

If if you consider it heavy would be this course of treatment…

https://www.nice.org.uk/guidance/ng88/resources/diagnosis-care-pathway-pdf-4783791277

If not this second page may be it…

https://mft.nhs.uk/app/uploads/sites/4/2020/04/Saint-Marys-Gynae-Pathway-Guides-Bleeding-v1.0.pdf

which could lead to page 7 of this…https://www.fsrh.org/Common/Uploade...eproblematicbleedinghormonalcontraception.pdf

If it’s in the NICE pathway guidelines, they shouldn’t refuse. You can still always request a pill review if you don’t get anywhere.

 

[becca7721]

I'd just let the council deal with them, sounds like they couldn't care less but eventually council will give then a ultimatum, either fix the issues or face getting closed down

The price is tricky because technically there's nothing wrong with them being more expensive than Tesco's for out of date stuff, you can charge whatever you want for your own stock, however if her crisps are say £1 an she's selling out of date crisps also at a £1 then am not sure if that's allowed, if it's out of date it usually has to be cheaper than what the price of the in date stuff is if that makes sense, like here you can buy crisps at 85p but the ones that are past their date are usually like 10p or 5p, it's always mega cheap

Thanks for the reply.

When walking by earlier I overheard people commenting on it, so I’ll just let it run it’s course I think, I’ve too much on my plate right now. The tesco thing was a really bad example of what I was trying to say, so ignore that! Sorry. The best before expired is mixed in the same basket and same price, so it’s all £2 (for example). I could understand if it had a use-by as well but none of it does.

 

[Tommyb]

This conversation took place via message.
He owns the garage so nobody to report him to

So you know him at all? Seems an odd thing for a mechanic to text a customer. Just don't go back there and block his number. What a weirdo for talking about you to other people.

 

[freshhead]

Sounds like R is an arse hole and has M under her spell.
You’re right to feel how you do but probably best shot of M who will no doubt be on the receiving end of R at some point. Given that she ran off when it kicked off, she sounds spineless.
I’d keep the peace and be civil for the sake of avoiding retaliations and a hostile environment but keep a good distance from all.

This is fair and sound advice, thank you. Have felt like my feelings have been completely invalidated. The bruising has come out more on me now and they are pretty nasty. I think I’m swerving bullets if I’m being completely honest with myself. Will update more soon if and when things unfold (as I think they will)

 

[gabbysolis]

Has anyone used period delaying medication before? If yes how did you find the experience and can you explain a bit how it works? Thanks

I’ve used Provera a good few times. Starting 72 hours before your period due date, you take 3 tablets throughout the day. You continue to take 3 tablets a day while you want to stay off your period, and you can delay it for up to 17 days. Once you stop taking the tablets, you get your period in 3-7 days (my first few times I got it on the 3rd day, but the last few times I’ve noticed it comes 7 days later).

I’ve found it brilliant overall but I have noticed sometimes that the period that follows after the tablets is heavier than usual.

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

I'm only in my early 30s and I'd say I've had little interest for like at least 2-3 years don't even have kids, can't imagine having that on top of everything

Yeah, thank fuck we don't have kids either. I guess it's more normal than I thought not to be interested

 

[JodieGreen123]

Not sure if this is the right place but need help. My hairs naturally brunette with slight blonde through it. I went and got it done today and I thought she would do natural blonde highlights but now it all looks blonde and is washing me out.
If I put a brown box dye on it will it be fine? I don’t want to wait it’s making me anxious and upset. I’m not bothered about the texture I can deal with that the colour is just horrible and I’m currently interviewing for jobs

I’ve used a lot of box dyes and in my experience yes that will be fine, however, the instructions generally say don’t try and do a dramatic colour change and only aim for two shades lighter/darker. How blonde is it and how much darker do you want to go?

Alternatively, is it worth going back to the salon and telling them you’re not happy so they can fix it?

 

[tomato_paste]

I have a mini pill question maybe you can help with.

I’m almost a month in taking cerazette mini pill. Not for contraception (I’m sterilised) for heavy periods.

Now the problem is, I’m feeling very low on it. Moods are shit. Headache is awful.

I want to stop taking it, I’d rather heavy periods than feeling like this. Feel anxious too constantly.

How soon and how long will I bleed for once I stop? Anyone taken it briefly and stopped?

Don’t know whether to just stop, have a withdrawal bleed and wait for my period

I had the yasmine mini pill and stopped taking it after a month, my body was fine pretty immediately.

You might be able to help yourself with heavy periods by not consuming dairy. It contains a lot of estrogen and other hormones, and some people react to it more than others.

 

[tomato_paste]

I never said it was a good idea or mine for that matter; simply that was my experience at an interview.

I know, sorry, this wasn't directed at you but at the hiring people at your company

 

[bozlem3080]

I‘m sorry this is happening to you, it must be incredibly stressful. I would keep reporting to the police, every time something happens. It’s harassment and he’s breaking his bail conditions. Redirect his emails into a folder so you don’t have to read them but still have a record.

Thank you, I’ve put them in my spam box, one managed to slip through, I feel I’m wasting police time reporting them, I’ve not replied to any just screenshot & save. I’m constantly on edge in case he approaches me, I feel paranoid people are watching me & reporting back what I’m doing, I’ve stopped going out with friends in case I bump into him. Just go to work & come home. Even the threat of arrest doesn’t seem to bother him for breach of bail conditions.

 

[littlepup]

Thanks, it's quite a lot of work both back an front of house, basically they are changing quite a bit as well as extending

The noise is kept during decent hours so can't complain about that, personally they are quite lazy, start about 10, go for lunch then leave around 3, but it's the numerous vans abandoned all over the road, blocking drives, rubbish that's more the problem, an mentioning anything to them directly just results in them being smart arses an laughing about it

I just would like a finish date Tbh, I'll check with the council an see if maybe they have any idea, because it's private housing I just wasn't sure if the council would care about it

Double pronged attack then. See if you can get a contact for environmental health officer for the litter and nuisance and the planning dept might have HSEs who'd be interested in the health and safety on site.
You won't get an end date though. Once planning is granted and work started they could lay a brick a day pretty much and it'd stay current.

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

How to lose weight quickly in a couple of weeks? I’m not looking for it to stat off permanently as I knowna quick fix never works. But it would be great if I could shift about 5kg very fast

You could try Michael Mosely's 5:2 (Fast 800 or Fast 800 Keto). His books also explain why it works long term rather than being a fad crash diet. Different things work for different people but it might be worth a go.

 

[tomato_paste]

I’d really appreciate some help with something that’s maybe a bit silly but I want to be prepared.

Background info- I work for a massive international company who shall remain nameless. In my time, I’ve been poached to work in different roles and in different locations.

Years ago, I worked in city A and would occasionally need to work with “Morag” from a different but closely connected department and let’s say, there was a clash of working styles between us. Some time after that, I changed roles and moved to city B but would return to city A twice a year to help them out at an event in which I was particularly skilled at, which Morag would never have been able to run as the rest of the team in the event’s execution. During one of these events, we had a blazing row and thankfully Covid intervened and I haven’t seen her again.

I am now in city C and Morag has moved to a new role and will be visiting my site next week. I will be professional and polite but I know she will be really nosy about why I left my job and city B for my current role in city C. How can I professionally and politely shut down those questions?

"I'm not at liberty to discuss." or "It was time for a new challenge." and then redirect to a topic you know she'll be unable to say no to - your current work, or introducing her to someone should work.

 

[Kim Mild]

The front has gone very blonde almost bleach blonde. The back and sides is more of a darker blonde. I’ve bought a mocha brown, similar to my natural shade and I’m going to patch test it

Can you get low lights put through? A brown may look dull and patchy.
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If two adults get joint National Trust membership can one of them visit separately or go they always have to visit together?

 

[Snippysnips]

Is 7:30/8pm too late to cut grass? I could do it now but I know I'll need to shower afterwards and I want to wait until tomorrow to shower as I'm going out Wednesday. I have dog training until 7pm tomorrow so was hoping I can do it after that

I'd say so long as it's done before 8pm then should be fine, unless your neighbours had baby's then I'd assume most young kids would be bed at 8pm or even a bit later since it's the holidays, my dad who's up at 5am for work is like a 9pm bed

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Thank you, I usually do everything through my gmail app on the phone an it seems to not give you the full options with everything

Have you checked your junk?

 

[TheGlossy]

I had food poisoning once (shop bought chicken sandwich), and was miserable for weeks afterwards - horrid nausea and unable to keep food down. In the end I went to see my GP, and once I'd had a course of antibiotics I soon recovered. Turned me into a vegetarian a bit quick.

Oh boy. Chicken is hard to deal with.

I’m a vegetarian too and don’t consume any dairy either. I’d probably have to go back to the doctor because whatever medicine I got which was prescription only clearly didn’t work.