The advice thread for random problems #5

[GalaxyGirl70]

I had food poisoning once (shop bought chicken sandwich), and was miserable for weeks afterwards - horrid nausea and unable to keep food down. In the end I went to see my GP, and once I'd had a course of antibiotics I soon recovered. Turned me into a vegetarian a bit quick.

 

[themuffinwoman]

Not really sure there’s a solution to this (other than get a new job) but I’ve got myself into a niche job which I now hate. I’ve been signed off with stress until the end of the month and I just can’t work there much longer. I’m talking to recruiters etc but I feel so stuck, my mental and physical health have taken a complete nosedive.

 

[WeHadFunRight]

I don’t like the instant coffee at work (it’s Nescafé gold blend!) I normally buy the sachets but sometimes I just want a black coffee.

I really like Kenco brand and want to buy their instant coffee but can’t decide between smooth or rich. What does everyone suggest? I don’t mind buying another brand if there’s a better one out there than kenco? I’m in the uk too x

I like the azera if it’s on offer and like some one else said douwe egberts.

 

[Former_Antelopee]

Yeah, I don’t understand people who think everyone should be deadly quiet. Honestly unless it’s super load for hours on end people can go stuff themselves

I did it this afternoon in the end as I want to watch the Olympics later. I don't really think mowing the lawn is that loud anyways working nights its never something that would wake me up or keep me awake

 

[BearOnChair]

What do you want to object to? Unless you’re sure you have relevant grounds, I wouldn’t bother for the sake of your sale, you don’t want neighbour disputes or to have in writing why it would be bad when it comes up on the searches.
Is it architect designed? They’ll have likely sought professional guidance on what’s allowable.
The council themselves should refuse if it’s a loss of amenity or bulking issue so you don’t need to go hard on that. Visuals will depend maybe on precedent and if it’s seen from the road. Loss of privacy will probably mean they’d just stick them with a condition to move/obscure any windows…. Extensions are often hard to find relevant objections to.

Without outting myself too much it would be overbearing and effect our amenity space alot. And it's visible across the valley we live in.

The application is just the drawings and doesn't contain any information of the setting. So it feelslike they made it as big as possible with the idea of scaling it back if it's not accepted.

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Breakfast - A big bowl of low cal fruit with fat free yougurt
Or spinach and mushroom with poached egg on 1 slice toast

Lunch - 3 ryvita & 2 scrambled eggs no butter
Or
Ham salad (no cheese, potato, chickpeas etc) with dressing of no fat yog, tiny bit of mustard and lemon juice
Or
Baked potato with salt and pepper, no butter but coleslaw made with grated carrot and cabbage & a table spoon of lighter than light mayo or FF yog.

Snacks - 1/2 grapefruit or veggie sticks or 2% fat turkey mince meat balls or cucumber salad with a soy sauce, garlic and chilli flake dressing or frozen grapes

Dinner - grilled/air fried seasoned chicken breast/white fish/pork medallion with steamed/boiled veg.
Or
Half small pack 2% fat turkey mince fried without fat with chopped peppers, mushroom, onion, chilli and garlic served in lettuce cups
Or
Seasoned roasted cauliflower steaks topped with 2 slices of crispy bacon

You’ll be hard pushed to go beyond too many calories if you stick with that sort of thing and water or zero cal drinks.

On goingly you need protein to feel full but for a crash diet that’s just about dropping pounds for the very short term just use the lowest calorie things to fill up. So piles of homemade coleslaw on a small potato, small chicken breast with tons of green beans. If you feel too hungry add half a baked potato or 1 cup cooked pasta and avoid fats and oils.

Thank you so much. Screenshot this
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I lost 10lb in 3 weeks doing the fast 800

I’m going to google the fast 800. I’ve never heard of it before

 

[Rodneytrotter]

I would assume hormones? Any birth control, menopause etc?. New baby?

Thanks for the suggestions. The only possibility out of those is the menopause. I'm 42 and still having regular periods. I am quite tearful at the moment. And a bit meh about stuff in general.

 

[Snippysnips]

Hi Guys,

Hopefully you don’t mind me posting here but i’m not sure where else to go for advice. I’m hoping I won’t ramble on too much but here i go.

I started a new job at the start of the year with a couple of other new starters. I got on really well with a guy here and we became friends quickly, at the time he had recently broken up with his girlfriend. A few months passed and i started hanging around with his friends and him and we really started to like each other. Only recently though have we started going on dates as we didn’t want to rush anything. These dates have all been great and we both still really like each other.

However, one of the other new starters at work has been acting strange recently. She and I were close friends until over the last few weeks when my opinion of her has really changed. She’s 50 and i’m in my early twenties. I pinpoint the change in her behaviour to when i told her me and the guy had been on a proper date. Before this she was very supportive of me and nice. I’m going to list her odd behaviours since this though:

1) she pointed out a scar on my arm and asked if i was going to get it covered, i said no and she replied with ‘ew, i definitely would’

2) constantly talking about a boob job she had when she was younger (she’s never mentioned in before now but recently hasn’t stopped)

3) pointed out a spot i had when in a conversation with me and the guy

4) i had an awful migraine that lingered for a few days, she copied every symptom but made a huge deal about it in front of the guy

5) started talking to him in a strange baby voice? whilst perched on his desk

6) stormed out of work nearly crying so he’d follow her (which he did)

7) constantly texting him about the football despite not knowing as much as she thinks she does and consistently calling lamine yamal jamal…

8) just constantly pointing out my flaws in front of him

She recently mentioned how she’s not been sleeping with her boyfriend as he’s not interested so i’m wondering if that’s why her behaviour is so strange but it seems like odd timing? I was one of few people in work who liked her until this and she’s still following me around constantly.

Me and the guy might go to make a coffee together or go shop at lunch just to spend some time together but she keeps following us and just not allowing us any alone time. He hasn’t noticed and doesn’t see her as anything but nice and if i point it out i’m just going to look jealous. I’m just not sure what i’m supposed to do? He’s not my boyfriend yet either so i feel like i have even less of a right to say something. She’s went from someone i really liked and trusted to making snide remarks so suddenly.

She spends a lotttttt of time in the pub with a bunch of guy friends and doesn’t seem to have any meaningful female friendships. I hate the term but she’s like a 50 year old pick me…

I’m just not sure what exactly i’m supposed to do? i’m not into confrontation but i fear that if she carries on i’ll blow up on her or it’ll affect my relationship with the guy.

Definitely sounds like jealousy issues, as others have said it's best to talk it out before you end up reaching your limit, just cut in with your not comfortable being around her, an if she starts picking on your flaws just interrupt her an say she is making you feel uncomfortable

I'd also in private talk with this guy, if you are trying to see if it will work it's best to be honest with him as well, let him know how she's making you feel an how she's changed

If it gets bad talk with whoever is above her, let them know it's actually stepping into bullying an victimisation now, she's honestly being a childish bitch like a high school bully that never got the guy an is taking it out on you

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

I’m thinking about buying a walking pad. I JUST get 5K steps in a day due to driving to work, having an office job & by the time I get home, cook dinner ( I live alone), meal prep for the next day, do my skin care etc, getting out & doing an hours walk in the cold (live in the UK) is the last thing I want to do.

I’ve seen one on Amazon for £140. I have a £50 vouchers I’ve got from work I can use.

Sooo should I get one?

I bought a foldable one earlier this year. I think it's great! It goes up to 10km/h speed wise I think which is a jog for me (I'm not particularly fit and appear to be terribly uncoordinated though).

 

[Bloody orange Hell]

Thank you. I will look into it and discuss with the dentists (plural as more than likely I will need to discuss with many).

To say I was so scared of going again despite the abscesses and rotting because of my past trauma with orthodontists/dentists and I’m now in an even bigger conundrum. I’ve been crying all evening.

Even though I had issues, I still had my roots with prevented teeth from shifting and gave me some time. Now that the roots are gone, I need to get a swift solution due to possible bone loss & possibility of teeth shifting.

I’m so heartbroken. How come the dentist didn’t detect the fact the root couldn’t be removed fully in the x-ray we’d done a few weeks ago? It seems a bit cavalier to me.

Could you get a referral to a dental hospital? Or do they not do that anymore?

I had problems with a dentist missing cavities which were visible on all my X-rays over a year. Ended up needing three root canals.
It cost me €3k. I had a specialist root canal dental surgeon do them.

I understand your upset and anger. It was really stressful and I felt so cheated and mistrustful. It sucks.

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Oh boy. Chicken is hard to deal with.

I’m a vegetarian too and don’t consume any dairy either. I’d probably have to go back to the doctor because whatever medicine I got which was prescription only clearly didn’t work.

This might sound stupid but why not try over the counter tablet for travel sickness? It might help until you get a diagnosis

 

[cowtastrophe]

Thanks.

I’m not sure. I looked up my local dental hospital and it seems it’s mainly dental school students training there.

I don't know if this is helpful at all but I needed quite a bit of dental treatment several years ago and my dentist referred me to Guy's Dental Hospital in London where dental students trained. It wouldn't be great if you were a particularly nervous patient but it was considerably cheaper than paying for private work and the treatment is supervised by a qualified dentist.

 

[Rxt156]

Hello all,

I am just looking for your opinions on this…

I am 34 and still in my childhood home with my mum. She’s a tad controlling sometimes but overall we get on so well, we watch all the same things and love each others company.

What are your opinions on people being at home in their 30s? I’ve been exploring moving out but in all honesty I don’t want to leave. My cat is here too and I couldn’t bear leaving her. Should I just suck it up and go though?

If you are both happy then why not. No point making it more expensive for you . Is your mum also happy for you to be there? If so, stay put!

 

[Squittel]

Well even if it feels like a lie, write about yourself positively anyway. It's work, not a relationship, so don't even feel bad about it. You don't have to believe it yourself to market yourself. Treat it like something depersonalised - what would a marketing person write to sell you? Take a look at your work records, documents, emails - anything that got praise or stood out? If you don't believe yourself, take what others have told you as your starting point.

I think it would help looking at who's voice it is that you hear. Who in your life made you feel this way about yourself? Because you sound awfully harsh with yourself. Is that voice realistic or is that voice also bullshitting you? What's it's goal? To stop you from feeling good about yourself? To save you from disappointment if your own view of yourself doesn't align with what other people see? To keep you small and compliant? Dig into it a bit, maybe that helps.

It’s to save me from disappointment I imagine. If I tell myself I’m rubbish then I won’t take it personally if I don’t get a raise or a promotion. I’m very bad at looking on the bright side. Thank you for your response it’s given me things to think about.
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Can you try viewing yourself in the third person?
So what would you say about a friend who had done what you’ve done?

I know it sounds odd but it’s something that’s helped me in past when applying for jobs.

I think I’ll do that. I will disassociate a bit to get this done!

 

[Thank(space)you]

Depends on them, am able to pick it up same day if I've missed it, my bro can't if he's rescheduled them then he has to be in/pick a safe place for the day he's rescheduled for, it's really up to how good/shitty they are an if they choose to go get it in the sorting office or not

Thank you, I went on the off chance and managed to get it thank goodness. Was due something good happening to me!

 

[Thank(space)you]

I think (& have been debating for a while) that I need to go back on my antidepressants, which is something I really don't want to do. Any advice to stop me feeling like a failure if I do go back on them?

 

[qqwertyy]

Do you think by the time you're 30+ and have more industry experience you can just put under 'education' on a CV something like "Spring field high school, 2005 - 2010 - GCSEs - All grades A-D" or does it need to be more specific? Then the name of the college, course and grade without any explanation of the content. It's not really relevant to the role, is anyone going to care if you got a B for history and a D for Art?

Yep I do. “9 GCSEs grades A-C” or whatever

 

[Doodlebug005]

Or even the bowls that open with the chip. My cats have these I got them from FB mp but I also see the microchip cat flaps for sale second hand

I’d rather he didn’t get near my cats space at all- if he could be scared away without hurting him that would be ideal- ( thought about putting hubby in the shed overnight with the garden hose - he would’t do it) might see if i can get a second hand catflap without paying full price for something my older two might not figure out

 

[Captainmouse]

Is London city airport an option?

 

[Mamacita]

Not really a “problem” but does anybody else feel asexual the older you get? I really can’t be arsed with it all.

Hm yeah I don't know if that's cause I'm older or cause I'm in a long term relationship lol. I'm not very old though but just can't be arsed, I'm tired most days