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Did they ask/say they were using it and tell you the cost before they used it? Or just used it and made you pay for it?
No, they didn’t ask. They just used it and made me pay for it. They just explained the process of how they’re going to do the hair, but didn’t say toner is an extra cost.

The receptionist got really short with me when I asked about the discrepancy as if it was some kind of personal attack. As a client, it’s my right to ask.
 
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No, they didn’t ask. They just used it and made me pay for it. They just explained the process of how they’re going to do the hair, but didn’t say toner is an extra cost.

The receptionist got really short with me when I asked about the discrepancy as if it was some kind of personal attack. As a client, it’s my right to ask.
To be honest this is why I barely go to the hairdressers. I like to know what I'm paying so I can budget etc and it's not a big surprise, but most salons seem to do this - not give a straight up price for the service. I find it so confusing and anxiety inducing I only go about once a year :LOL:
 
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Annoying when they offer something casually but don’t discuss cost. My hairdresser does this for deep conditioning treatments etc they just say ‘do you want it?’ Rather than ‘this costs X are you interested’
I remember an incident when I was 13 - went to the hairdressers by myself for the first time with a fixed budget which I told them about up front. I only had the cash my parents gave me. They kept on offering me stuff and I kept on saying "If it fits within the budget", and at the end they charged me like €30 more than I had, so I had to leave my ID and go back to my dad's office. He reamed them out, thankfully, not that my insecure teenage self didn't feel horrible about it all.
So yeah, duck hairdressers who do this.
 
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No, they didn’t ask. They just used it and made me pay for it. They just explained the process of how they’re going to do the hair, but didn’t say toner is an extra cost.

The receptionist got really short with me when I asked about the discrepancy as if it was some kind of personal attack. As a client, it’s my right to ask.
That’s really shady of them. I’d probably say something. Wouldn’t expect much outcome but I’d want them to know it’s not ok to do that
 
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That’s really shady of them. I’d probably say something. Wouldn’t expect much outcome but I’d want them to know it’s not ok to do that
Agree, you need to complain to them about the extra charge and the receptionist attitude about it and then tell them they've lost a customer. Even if you LOVE your hair, ever go back
 
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Hoping this is an ok place to post a random “problem” I’ve got at the moment as I can’t create a new thread!

My daughter whos 7 is having trouble with a “friend” at school at the moment. My daughter is quite quiet, shy and polite little girl who gets along with most of the children in her class. One of the girls in her class has always been quite possessive of my daughter for the past couple of years and only liked them two being best friends, I think my daughter was too young and naive realise this though until now.. she came home upset today and said she didn’t know what to do at playtime as she wasn’t sure who to play with. I asked her why she couldn’t play with everyone and she answered that her “friend” lets call her ‘Lucy’ tells her she hates her if she doesn’t play with her, she doesn’t want to upset her but then she doesn’t want to upset her other friends by not playing with them either. Her poor little mind must have been confused as to what to do for the best. She said this Lucy also gets upset and angry if she draws pictures of anyone else.
I have mentioned this to the school in the past when I felt little ‘Lucy’ was getting a bit controlling of my daughter, and they separated them in class time but then I was told at playtimes when they weren’t supervised as much they were always back playing together so they’re wasn’t much the school could do if she willingly playing with Lucy.. I have told my daughter to keep her distance from Lucy but she doesn’t want to do this. She wants to be friends with Lucy but also have other friends to play with as well.
So I’ve told my daughter tonight that SHE is in control of who she plays with and she mustn’t let Lucy boss her around, and that she can tell Lucy you don’t need to hate me just because I don’t want to play with you.
Does anyone have any other helpful advice on this situation? I’m a first time mum and only have the one daughter. As I mentioned she’s only 7 and quite shy and timid and I also think she worries she may get told off by a teacher if she doesn’t do as Lucy says.
Thanks ☺
It's so hard ☹ having been there with my eldest who was quite reserved/shy, because you don't want to upset the other child (who perhsps struggles socially) but then you don't want to limit your own child.

Do you feel like the school could have done more?, in my case despite advising my child to play in a group and join the other child in etc. I did have to involve the school when when the possessiveness got too much and they spoke to the child and his mother about the importance of having a large friendship group.

It sounds like you've given your daughter some great advice and support. What I will say and what I learnt over time, is that for all the worrying (and I had many sleepless nights over friendship circles) is that these things do have a way of sorting themselves out naturally ❤.
 
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MY DAUGHTER DID IT!!! SHE QUIT!!!! (Can you tell I'm happy for her?)

At 4pm she told her boss she needs to prioritise her own health and on the advice of her GP, psychologist and union, she'll be on sick leave for the rest of her notice period. He was too flabbergasted to speak. Handed everything over to HR, said bye to her colleagues, and she's currently in the bath with a bottle of champagne. What more can I say?
 
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MY DAUGHTER DID IT!!! SHE QUIT!!!! (Can you tell I'm happy for her?)

At 4pm she told her boss she needs to prioritise her own health and on the advice of her GP, psychologist and union, she'll be on sick leave for the rest of her notice period. He was too flabbergasted to speak. Handed everything over to HR, said bye to her colleagues, and she's currently in the bath with a bottle of champagne. What more can I say?
So happy she done it, hope she enjoys her bottle of champagne, she deserves it
 
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When you sell something on Facebook do you arrange for the stranger to go to your house to collect, or a neutral location? I had a weird encounter tonight with a guy who I swear was about to storm through my door when I opened it, and then stopped when he saw my husband. It’s made me feel really vulnerable that this guy has our address and got a look inside, but I feel silly asking people to meet me in a car park just to buy a used iron or something. What do you all do?
 
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When you sell something on Facebook do you arrange for the stranger to go to your house to collect, or a neutral location? I had a weird encounter tonight with a guy who I swear was about to storm through my door when I opened it, and then stopped when he saw my husband. It’s made me feel really vulnerable that this guy has our address and got a look inside, but I feel silly asking people to meet me in a car park just to buy a used iron or something. What do you all do?
When I sell I usually do it at home but luckily I've a neighbour who's a armed police cop an he's awesome at coming over, but it is normal for to meet up at a safe place, I don't know your area but we used to in town have a designated safe area that was organised by the police force for selling, perhaps you could ask your local station if they do this, but I do know some that will only go in town when selling
 
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For a uti, are we expected to visit the pharmacy and buy treatment rather than get a appointment at our surgery? The Internet suggests that's the done thing these days.
 
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For a uti, are we expected to visit the pharmacy and buy treatment rather than get a appointment at our surgery? The Internet suggests that's the done thing these days.
Yes, my mum just goes into the pharmacy now, if it doesn't clear up or gets worse with pain then it's the doctors for something stronger, but usually the pharmacy is fine with what they give, she sort of knows when it's starting as not drinking enough triggers it for her
 
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When you sell something on Facebook do you arrange for the stranger to go to your house to collect, or a neutral location? I had a weird encounter tonight with a guy who I swear was about to storm through my door when I opened it, and then stopped when he saw my husband. It’s made me feel really vulnerable that this guy has our address and got a look inside, but I feel silly asking people to meet me in a car park just to buy a used iron or something. What do you all do?
I’d rather go to someone else’s house to be honest. You can stay on the doorstep and they don’t have your address
 
It's so hard ☹ having been there with my eldest who was quite reserved/shy, because you don't want to upset the other child (who perhsps struggles socially) but then you don't want to limit your own child.

Do you feel like the school could have done more?, in my case despite advising my child to play in a group and join the other child in etc. I did have to involve the school when when the possessiveness got too much and they spoke to the child and his mother about the importance of having a large friendship group.

It sounds like you've given your daughter some great advice and support. What I will say and what I learnt over time, is that for all the worrying (and I had many sleepless nights over friendship circles) is that these things do have a way of sorting themselves out naturally ❤.
Thanks that really means a lot, and reassures me! The next step if things don’t change is to speak to the girls parents. School have spoken to my daughters class as a whole so I’m hoping there is some improvement. I’ve also arranged a play date with another friend as someone else suggested!
 
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And @Babysnark is this a carpet beetle? Just found it on a cushion upstairs but have been coming across them on my linen sofa downstairs 😣 now I’m worried my stuff is going to get eaten by them.
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Yep that's them 😔 so don't panic, I believe it's the larval stage that eat your stuff and these come out in the autumn when the eggs hatch. At the moment you'll see new adults emerging, make sure you kill them when you see them. There are sprays you can get on amazon and I've found them effective however I worry about my cat so I don't spray as much as I would want to if I didn't have pets.
 
Yep that's them 😔 so don't panic, I believe it's the larval stage that eat your stuff and these come out in the autumn when the eggs hatch. At the moment you'll see new adults emerging, make sure you kill them when you see them. There are sprays you can get on amazon and I've found them effective however I worry about my cat so I don't spray as much as I would want to if I didn't have pets.
😣 how have they managed to get upstairs 😭 yes, I’ve bought some spray and it should arrive in the next few days. Am I going to have to cover my whole house?! Fortunately, I don’t have any pets. I’ve had them a while but only ever seen the odd one and killed it and thought it was just a regular bug. I hoovered yesterday and emptied it straight away.
 
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😣 how have they managed to get upstairs 😭 yes, I’ve bought some spray and it should arrive in the next few days. Am I going to have to cover my whole house?! Fortunately, I don’t have any pets. I’ve had them a while but only ever seen the odd one and killed it and thought it was just a regular bug. I hoovered yesterday and emptied it straight away.
Have you only seen them in 1 room?
 
😣 how have they managed to get upstairs 😭 yes, I’ve bought some spray and it should arrive in the next few days. Am I going to have to cover my whole house?! Fortunately, I don’t have any pets. I’ve had them a while but only ever seen the odd one and killed it and thought it was just a regular bug. I hoovered yesterday and emptied it straight away.
So I think ours live in the skirting boards as I always see them in the nooks where the carpet meet the wall so I'd do a good spray of the perimeter of the rooms you've seen them as it will help stop them moving around the house.

Other than that they like organic material so keep on top of any dust and hair etc.
 
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