Photograph the laptop, credit kard and keys before she leaves, or even video leaving it on the desk. Have evidence of it working. And then send an email with the video and doctors note.
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As above poster said I'd photograph/video it all working an it being left on the desk an then walking out, you don't want a broken up video as in video it on the desk then a separate one of her leaving it as they might try an say it was two separate videos, so make it all one of going in, putting it all down, setting it up, it all working an then walking away, if you can see if she can also get in the video the date too, I'd say go with a paper like daily mail or something, just something where they can't say this was all footage taken at a earlier date
Don’t tell anyone at work she plans to go off sick. I’d tell her to remove all personal belongings and leave everything else in an accessible place so they can just take it from her desk. Email the sick note in the morning then take her out for breakfast
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ETA just read other posts - she can drop off the belongings another day, doesn’t need to be immediate. You could even do it for her
I would love to - I just live four hours away and I'm working full time myselfDon’t tell anyone at work she plans to go off sick. I’d tell her to remove all personal belongings and leave everything else in an accessible place so they can just take it from her desk. Email the sick note in the morning then take her out for breakfast
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ETA just read other posts - she can drop off the belongings another day, doesn’t need to be immediate. You could even do it for her
Is there anyone else that can go with her? My friend was in a similar position years ago and her dad came with her to hand things back/ collect things. When the same happened to me (same boss) my friend handed my things in for me.I would love to - I just live four hours away and I'm working full time myself
ahhh sorry, that sucks. anyone else that can go with her? It literally doesn’t matter who, she could just do with someone for support as I imagine the boss would be less of a twit when she’s got a witness.I would love to - I just live four hours away and I'm working full time myself
The best way of dealing with bullies is to stand your ground be firm and polite. If they realize they are intimidating you the behaviour will get worse.
Without knowing what the situation is it’s difficult to give advice.
I’ve never been in a physical altercation but when confronted I tend to stand my ground and “push” back (verbally). And so far this has worked for me but again this could be a personality thing
Has anybody worked full time in the office and successfully managed to work from home instead? I’ve done the odd day from home in the past but I’d like to make it a permanent thing once a week. They’re really funny about working from home though and I don’t know what the best way is to request it. I want to be able to do at least one pick up and drop off a week now my eldest is in school and to work around that.
Hoping this is an ok place to post a random “problem” I’ve got at the moment as I can’t create a new thread!
My daughter whos 7 is having trouble with a “friend” at school at the moment. My daughter is quite quiet, shy and polite little girl who gets along with most of the children in her class. One of the girls in her class has always been quite possessive of my daughter for the past couple of years and only liked them two being best friends, I think my daughter was too young and naive realise this though until now.. she came home upset today and said she didn’t know what to do at playtime as she wasn’t sure who to play with. I asked her why she couldn’t play with everyone and she answered that her “friend” lets call her ‘Lucy’ tells her she hates her if she doesn’t play with her, she doesn’t want to upset her but then she doesn’t want to upset her other friends by not playing with them either. Her poor little mind must have been confused as to what to do for the best. She said this Lucy also gets upset and angry if she draws pictures of anyone else.
I have mentioned this to the school in the past when I felt little ‘Lucy’ was getting a bit controlling of my daughter, and they separated them in class time but then I was told at playtimes when they weren’t supervised as much they were always back playing together so they’re wasn’t much the school could do if she willingly playing with Lucy.. I have told my daughter to keep her distance from Lucy but she doesn’t want to do this. She wants to be friends with Lucy but also have other friends to play with as well.
So I’ve told my daughter tonight that SHE is in control of who she plays with and she mustn’t let Lucy boss her around, and that she can tell Lucy you don’t need to hate me just because I don’t want to play with you.
Does anyone have any other helpful advice on this situation? I’m a first time mum and only have the one daughter. As I mentioned she’s only 7 and quite shy and timid and I also think she worries she may get told off by a teacher if she doesn’t do as Lucy says.
Thanks
My daughter whos 7 is having trouble with a “friend” at school at the moment. My daughter is quite quiet, shy and polite little girl who gets along with most of the children in her class. One of the girls in her class has always been quite possessive of my daughter for the past couple of years and only liked them two being best friends, I think my daughter was too young and naive realise this though until now.. she came home upset today and said she didn’t know what to do at playtime as she wasn’t sure who to play with. I asked her why she couldn’t play with everyone and she answered that her “friend” lets call her ‘Lucy’ tells her she hates her if she doesn’t play with her, she doesn’t want to upset her but then she doesn’t want to upset her other friends by not playing with them either. Her poor little mind must have been confused as to what to do for the best. She said this Lucy also gets upset and angry if she draws pictures of anyone else.
I have mentioned this to the school in the past when I felt little ‘Lucy’ was getting a bit controlling of my daughter, and they separated them in class time but then I was told at playtimes when they weren’t supervised as much they were always back playing together so they’re wasn’t much the school could do if she willingly playing with Lucy.. I have told my daughter to keep her distance from Lucy but she doesn’t want to do this. She wants to be friends with Lucy but also have other friends to play with as well.
So I’ve told my daughter tonight that SHE is in control of who she plays with and she mustn’t let Lucy boss her around, and that she can tell Lucy you don’t need to hate me just because I don’t want to play with you.
Does anyone have any other helpful advice on this situation? I’m a first time mum and only have the one daughter. As I mentioned she’s only 7 and quite shy and timid and I also think she worries she may get told off by a teacher if she doesn’t do as Lucy says.
Thanks
Ahh been there many times with the younger cousins, it's incredibly difficult when they are this young, you find from about age 10 it's a bit easier but under it's so hard, you have done the right thing an tbh there's not much more you can do, explaining to them that they are in control is always the best an you have done that, it's hard when there's a controlling "friend" because you aren't there to stop these "friends" from I guess poisoning their minds, they will tell them mean things that "only they really like them" "no one else will be as good to her as they are" "if they stop playing with them then they will tell others that they are the bad one" "they will tell the teacher they hurt them" I've honestly heard it all an sadly kids like your daughter tend to believe them because the "friend" is so convincing about itHoping this is an ok place to post a random “problem” I’ve got at the moment as I can’t create a new thread!
My daughter whos 7 is having trouble with a “friend” at school at the moment. My daughter is quite quiet, shy and polite little girl who gets along with most of the children in her class. One of the girls in her class has always been quite possessive of my daughter for the past couple of years and only liked them two being best friends, I think my daughter was too young and naive realise this though until now.. she came home upset today and said she didn’t know what to do at playtime as she wasn’t sure who to play with. I asked her why she couldn’t play with everyone and she answered that her “friend” lets call her ‘Lucy’ tells her she hates her if she doesn’t play with her, she doesn’t want to upset her but then she doesn’t want to upset her other friends by not playing with them either. Her poor little mind must have been confused as to what to do for the best. She said this Lucy also gets upset and angry if she draws pictures of anyone else.
I have mentioned this to the school in the past when I felt little ‘Lucy’ was getting a bit controlling of my daughter, and they separated them in class time but then I was told at playtimes when they weren’t supervised as much they were always back playing together so they’re wasn’t much the school could do if she willingly playing with Lucy.. I have told my daughter to keep her distance from Lucy but she doesn’t want to do this. She wants to be friends with Lucy but also have other friends to play with as well.
So I’ve told my daughter tonight that SHE is in control of who she plays with and she mustn’t let Lucy boss her around, and that she can tell Lucy you don’t need to hate me just because I don’t want to play with you.
Does anyone have any other helpful advice on this situation? I’m a first time mum and only have the one daughter. As I mentioned she’s only 7 and quite shy and timid and I also think she worries she may get told off by a teacher if she doesn’t do as Lucy says.
Thanks
But really you have done all of what you really can do, you have spoken with her an told her the importance of how she is in control, I'd say maybe keep updated with the teacher as the teacher can keep an eye on in class, you could also if it's possible maybe have some playdates so she can have a chance with playing with the other friends without this girl being there, I know it sounds mean to keep her out but it will give your daughter some freedom with others
But honestly it's best nipped in the bud now, I've seen the many paths this all goes down, an it all ends up becoming more toxic as the jealousy of them being with others starts to get worse
I think this explains everything you need to know ... https://www.acas.org.uk/making-a-flexible-working-request
And @Babysnark is this a carpet beetle? Just found it on a cushion upstairs but have been coming across them on my linen sofa downstairs
now I’m worried my stuff is going to get eaten by them. I'm not a pest controller so take it with a pinch of salt but to me it does look like a varied carpet beetle, yesAnd @Babysnark is this a carpet beetle? Just found it on a cushion upstairs but have been coming across them on my linen sofa downstairs
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I thought toner always costs extra? When I was blonde I always paid if I needed toner.
Same. Toner is optional. Tbh OP just look at it as an overall price that’s been broken down to explain where the costs come from.
Ok - to give the background.
When I booked the balayage, the price was listed as €158. When I went to pay after all was done, I was charged €200. When I asked about the difference, they said the difference was an add-on for the toner. Fair enough if the toner is extra, but it needs to be mentioned somewhere on the price list.
In previous salons, the overall price included the toner. I’m not questioning the fact there’s a charge for it, I’m questioning the fact the way charges are disclosed.
When I booked the balayage, the price was listed as €158. When I went to pay after all was done, I was charged €200. When I asked about the difference, they said the difference was an add-on for the toner. Fair enough if the toner is extra, but it needs to be mentioned somewhere on the price list.
In previous salons, the overall price included the toner. I’m not questioning the fact there’s a charge for it, I’m questioning the fact the way charges are disclosed.
Woah 40 euro for a toner is a bit extreme to be fair too!
Did they ask/say they were using it and tell you the cost before they used it? Or just used it and made you pay for it?
Annoying when they offer something casually but don’t discuss cost. My hairdresser does this for deep conditioning treatments etc they just say ‘do you want it?’ Rather than ‘this costs X are you interested’
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