The advice thread for random problems #4

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Does anybody know if you can claim somebody’s state pension contributions if they died before pension age? For example: married couple in their 50’s both eligible for state pension. One dies. Can the other one claim any money?

Unlikely, there are some rules and dates involved with inheriting. But I can’t remember what years it were. Contact CAB

 

[Smallie21]

I’ve tried googling this but maybe I haven’t got the wording right
Does anyone know if an illegitimate (adult) child can contest the will of their biological father, if the child was never acknowledged by the father? I can’t go into too much detail but the mother never outright told the father he had a child, but other people have told him, and it is known locally that he has a child. I hope this makes sense

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

Round cable clips might work, I'd they were ones suitable for outside.

 

[chickhicks86]

Sorry, it's £1,699 not sure if that's good or not, I expect it to be a bit more than building because the shop will add on its own profits it wants, but is that way over priced? Or not bad considering it's coming from a store?

I think it's expensive for what it is! The CPU is 2 generations old now. Have you tried Ebuyer?

 

[chickhicks86]

This is what made me think it's maybe not a government thing, no one else in town has gotten it, it's specifically only our estate which is no where near the biggest in town plus the other side of the park to us which I'd say was more a risk of flooding hasn't had anything either, there's nothing on it asking for a national insurance, am just going leave it an assume this is some sort of data scam an they are trying to fish for details

Have you tried looking on local Facebook groups or Next Door to see if anyone else is discussing?

 

[yogiessexdubs]

I second this- it sounds like they've both extended the comfort of your boundaries despite you making it clear where they are and there's nothing wrong with reinforcing and withdrawing! Professional at work and that's all they get from you
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Either pop them in your local pass it on group, or you can get a free bag from PodRecycle (I think that's their name, they advertise in Aldi) to recycle them

Thank you so much, I really appreciate it.

 

[littlepup]

are you serious? OP has said it was unsolicited ergo no consent ergo on the basis of the information we’ve been given, a crime has indeed been committed

I don’t know what you’re not getting.
I’m not disputing that it is a crime. I’m not suggesting for a second it’s not a crime.
But as with any accusation it has to be proven.

Sending a video is not a crime. Sending a video without consent is. If the accused is saying there was consent, it has to be investigated to establish there was no consent, to prove that a crime has been committed.

They can’t just take OP’s word for it, sack the accused and go about their business.
He could make a counter claim, that would also have to be investigated because you can’t just take action without proof.

It's a crime - https://metro.co.uk/2022/03/13/peop...ics-to-face-up-to-two-years-in-jail-16266953/

Yes, “unwanted”. It’s about establishing that there was no consent. They can’t just take a word for it.

 

[Bobbleowl90]

People with young families - what car do you have? Due to upgrade our car in September. Currently got a Suzuki Vitara and we love it but fancy a change. Need a big boot for the pram/bike/scooter/shopping etc.

Any recommendations?

 

[littlepup]

I don’t think of this as a problem, but maybe more so seeking some advice? I’m looking at buying a new sofa etc and I’ve found one I really like in next. I suppose what I’m asking for is information on the quality of their furniture, what’s their customer service like etc

I really don’t want to make a purchase if they just leave you hanging should something go wrong

I think their customer service is really good. However, I don’t think their furniture is built for longevity and a lot of wear and tear. At least at the lower price end. If it’s an adult household you’ll be fine, maybe just get the seat pads refreshed after 5-6 years. If we’re talking about kids jumping over it, spillages getting cleaned up, frequently using it as a guest bed etc I’d not expect it to last too long much longer than that without getting really tatty.

 

[CoffeeMamma]

I dunno, this sounds suspect. I would phone HMRC and ask the questions

I messaged their online chat and they confirmed

 

[littlepup]

People with young families - what car do you have? Due to upgrade our car in September. Currently got a Suzuki Vitara and we love it but fancy a change. Need a big boot for the pram/bike/scooter/shopping etc.

Any recommendations?

Any estate without a sloping roof such as Passatt or BMW 3 series. If budget allows it's handy to have a boot that opens from the keys so you're not juggling for a free hand to get it open, that was a must have for me after getting filthy hand opening a wet/dirty hatch back all the time. It's also handy to have one that doesn't have a massive ledge and deep drop into the boot so you have to lift up and out or over and in.
I've been fortunate enough to get a Tesla, massive boot space but because the roof slopes it's a real pain the get a toddler into the car seat without folding them in half or whacking their head! Obviously never tested that aspect before buying so it's worth bearing in mind the shape of the rear doors. Very high 4x4s are also hard when they get bigger and heavier if you're small as you've got to lift them pretty high into the seats.
If I hadn't got a company car the Volvo XC60 was what I was going for after looking at everrryyyyttthhinngg for over a year.
The Evoque I was initially considering actually had far less boot space than you'd imagine. Youtube is great for honest user reviews and seeing what you can truly get in because the quoted capacity is often not usable space.

 

[TheGlossy]

I sold two coats last week and shipped both of them at the same time. The buyer is telling me they only received one and not the other which I find hard to believe.

I used prepaid envelopes that don’t have tracking (as agreed with the buyer). I suggested they wait a few more days and if not received, I’ll refund them but I find the whole thing a bit strange.

This is a private sale by the way.

 

[stargirl23]

Thank you so much for the quick reply! I dont buy gift cards very often and couldn’t remember how it works when you activate them in store.

In that case, the only other thing I can think of is maybe they bought more than one gift card at the same time and mixed up the receipts?

It was a present from my boyfriend’s sister so I feel a bit awkward asking her and I doubt she’ll still have the other receipt so think I’ll just have to give up on using the gift card sadly

The number is usually on the gift card, do you have the card with you rather than the receipt?

 

[Swisspea]

Anyone know anything about fences?

Just had a 6ft fence installed with concrete posts. Looks great. Fencers left today. Haven't paid anything but deposit yet.

However tonight noticed two posts (either end) are able to move side to side quite a bit and one other post will move slightly.

This can't be right? I'm going to video it and send to them on the morning and ask them to come back out.

So annoying. Not cheap either!

Did they hammer on the panels before the concrete they used to set the posts a proper time to dry as that is what that sounds like. The posts should be put in and set in concrete and that should be left (and it wont set properly with low temperatures) to set good and hard. Then hammer in the panels or whatever else is going in.

 

[avabella]

What about grounding techniques to bring you into the now

What do these entail?

 

[VeryNiceVeryEVIL]

I won’t lie to you it’s not pleasant. But I found the laxatives you have to take beforehand far worse than the actual procedure. The laxatives mix with squash it’s much easier to get down than in water & I rolled reduce remedy on my pulse points to try relax me and it helped. I just layed there with my eyes shut and tried thinking of other things. It wasn’t painful just felt uncomfortable and it hurt a little when the took a biopsy but other than that it was ok. I opted for sedation and think it definitely helped. Good luck

Thank you for this. Is there anything you can compare the level of pain to? I really don't do well with pain

What does the prep taste like?

 

[Captainmouse]

Have you spoken to ACAS?

 

[Snippysnips]

Udemy and datacamp have some great entry level coding resources as well

Thanks, will also look at those

 

[TheGlossy]

I will be attending in two weeks and I ordered a beautiful cash gift envelope (more like a velvet box) personalized with the couple’s names.

The issue is that the envelope won’t be arriving until after the wedding and I feel uncomfortable going to the wedding empty handed.

It’s an Irish wedding (my first) and I don’t know the etiquette. Any advice?

 

[Dogtanian]

The sledgehammer idea, while funny, definitely has merit. One thing you can do is tear the computer apart, take out the harddrive, and recycle the rest. If it still turns on, you can wipe the drive with a tool like CCleaner which will run over the whole disk flipping all bits to 0. This is especially important for HDDs - Fragmentation often meant you could recover bits of data from disk sectors that were set as "free for overwrite" that weren't yet overwritten.

You can do the same (overwriting everything) for SSDs as well.

Or you can smash them to bits

I didn't realise people were laughing because they didn't believe me.
One of the more fun jobs in our IT department is to take a stack of around 50 hard drives into the car park on a nice day, line them up and then give each a good whack with a sledgehammer to destroy the internal workings. I don't know what happens with them afterwards, I guess they get dumped with the general waste.

Oh yeah and gravy on a pie all the time. Maybe a light one for chicken and leek though.