The advice thread for random problems #3

[Bedd5]

I’m going to get my haircut this week, which I really don’t enjoy.
It is very thick and currently long. No ‘style’.

I’m quite rubbish at doing hair and making time to get it looking ok. I’m contemplating a hidden undercut to take some of the weight out. I was also thinking about curtain fringe maybe some layers kind of ‘wolf cut’ ish. No idea how low maintenance that would be??

Any ideas please?

Have a look at Jamesbusbyhair on tiktok, he does a lot of styles similar to what you are describing

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

Not sure if this is the best place to ask but something happened today that has really worried me.

My dad came home after going out to visit his sister. He had called by a cash machine to lift money, but he didn't get the cash and said that the machine ate his card. So he calls the bank to cancel it, and then discovers his bank card is in his pocket.... he was absolutely insistent that he didn't take the card from the machine. It's all very perplexing but there are no other bank cards it could have been, so he must have taken it back from the machine. I guess I'm just looking for reassurance... he's 71 years old. He's smart and sharp in every other way, but can sometimes be a bit absent-minded. I just feel very worried by it.

I truly wouldn't worry overly at the moment It's such an autopilot type of thing that I doubt it's indicative of anything. Is he worried about anything at the moment, enough that it could be distracting his thoughts?

 

[becca7721]

Sorry I didn’t explain myself properly. Supervision isn't provided with students. I meant each separately so in the case of nhs care I refused a student dr alone and was told I wouldn’t be seen then and likewise social services assessment by phone. I’ve been clear I don’t want students involved but was told if I refused then no help allowed as they’re teaching hospital/surgery/social services department.

Sorry for confusion, am not well at moment so struggling to explain!

 

[Captainmouse]

Tried it- didn’t work

Ding doctor

 

[Snippysnips]

Am I just being paranoid? Lived in our house (terraced) for nearly 3 years. The couple on one side are lovely, the couple on the other not so much, more an issue with the husband than the wife. He is outright weird and overbearing. Seems to think I'm a single mum etc, always trying to 'help'. Anyway, ever since we've moved in I've noticed whenever I go to the bathroom someone their side 99% of the time will go into their bathroom their side, I'm fairly sure it's him as she works 12 hour shifts. Never happens when my boyfriend goes to the toilet, and it's happening far too often to be a coincidence. Bare in mind I'm 7 months pregnant so if I go for a wee, chances are I need to go again 3 minutes later, and the person still goes into their bathroom. To begin with my partner thought I was being paranoid but since other stuff has happened he's now acknowledged it. Any advice?

Am curious to know how they know you are in the bathroom, can you hear each other through the walls? I used to live in a semi detached an unless the neighbours were being really loud I wouldn't know which room they were in

Is there a way you can try an soundproof the walls a bit so they can't tell where you are, or maybe you can leave him in his bathroom all day by leaving a phone there playing bathroom sounds on it loudly

 

[Snippysnips]

Not so much a problem but more advice, going down to Blackpool in a few weeks time, we are leaving from central Scotland

Is there anywhere we could stop off that's nice for lunch? Or even a wander around, we will have more or less the full day to do whatever, my dad isn't fond of the service stop off places because of price so looking for somewhere along the motorway we could pull off an go see, it will be a Sunday we are driving down

 

[Blondeangel2515]

You are in an advice thread, you clearly want people to tell you did the right think and how wonderful you are. Instead everyone has seen how unhinged you are. Just stop. You can say the police woman understood all you like, it’s likely she just humoured you.

The police woman did understand me completely you can say I’m unhinged all you like as I said before that’s your opinion I asked for advice on the situation when it happened I merely just gave people an update on what happened and had a little vent interpret that as you wish you’ve been doing it all night
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Well i’m sorry but I agree it boarders on harassment. The sheer embarrassment she could have felt over something that she is not to blame for is awful

Well that’s your opinion. I didn’t know what else to do, she needed to be aware I’ve made her aware and the police was satisfied with my reasoning they weren’t bothered that much took them a week to even do the complaint

 

[CallMeHollywood]

I am not in HR, but according to the law - Employees must tell their employer about the pregnancy at least 15 weeks before the beginning of the week the baby is due.

Yes, that’s fine. I’m only 12 weeks. I’ve got time to play with which is why I’m unsure what to do.

 

[Stressed]

I could do with some advice regarding my 9 year old daughter. She keeps crying because she has no friends at school. Her best friend recently ditched her so she's still hurting from that. There are other children who like my daughter and would be friends with her but she is not interested in them.

I think she has low confidence when it comes to friendships.

Have you spoken to school about it? They could help by encouraging them to play together etc

 

[Tommyb]

Can anyone recommend decent shapewear? Something for tummy and a bit of thigh would be good. Also has to be seamless. TIA

 

[trudyjudy007]

Hey ladies wondering if anyone has any suggestions… my beautician who does all my waxing/brows/nails has quit her job she is going self employed doing nails at home but too far from me for me to keep going to her so I’ll have my last appt with her on Thursday. I want to bring her a prezzie but is that weird??

At first I was thinking a coffee voucher or something but since she’s working from home
She’s not gonna be in the city centre & there’s nothing really near her…. I know she gets the bus home so don’t want her awkwardly carrying flowers. Any ideas? I know I’m overthinking it

 

[stardust1]

I think I will look into what he's watching online. He knows no other Muslims I real life. He's such a lovely gentle lad. Think he's always felt like he doesn't really fit in.

do any of your family follow a religion? it isn’t a crime to turn to religion but I do believe in gut feeling and you should definitely try find out if he is doing it for the right reasons.

 

[Simplytatti]

I've been seeing this guy ...... Long story short I've been hit with " take things slow see what happens " wtf does this even mean?

 

[stargirl23]

Can anybody please tell me wtf has bitten me and how to ease it? It’s absolutely killing (I gave birth 3 months ago and I’d rather go through that again right now ). There was no culprit at the scene!

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Could it have been a wasp/bee sting? You can get cream for bites to stop the itching or calomine lotion. Piriton can help too

 

[Rxt156]

i have been invited to a party in a few weeks on a Saturday lunch time. my son has a nap 12.30 for upto 2 hours which is when the party is. not sure quite what to do about making sure he gets his sleep (or he will be an arse for the rest of the day) but also don’t want to miss the party?

 

[trudyjudy007]

Please, please tell me someone on this thread can help me.
It's to do with homelessness, and severe difficulties with credit checks meaning we are looking at months upon months of being unable to even rent. Il explain more if anyone can help.

I suppose it depends on what you mean by ‘help’. People can only offer advice or direct you to particular body’s or charities in your area, nobody would be able to ‘help’ in real life I don’t think xxx

 

[Blondeangel2515]

You sound super unhinged, how old are you?

Not unhinged I just find the whole thing laughable that they forgot to mention that he was messaging me and what I sent was the stuff he was saying to me even the woman found it odd and strange

 

[shadowcat5]

Weird one: anyone here ever used neurogena t-gel and can recommend an alternative? It was good in my hair but it’s so expensive for a tiny bottle

 

[CoffeeMamma]

I’m back for a random one
A week ago I had a tooth filled. They had to remove half the tooth as it was cracked and it was a really unpleasant experience. The dentist even said afterwards- “that must have been rough, sorry!”
I still have major sensitivity on that side and can’t chew anything hard. My face is still puffy and swollen. The dentist said I should be fine in 48 hours but it’s been a week- should I call them? Google holds zero answers

 

[becca7721]

Thankyou.

Unfortunately qualified staff who are supervising are too concerned with these staff getting some experience in my condition/issues to stop and think that I’m not happy with that.

A simple example using a common issue I have would be hoarding and being told they need to experience this to help them, I’ve no say in the matter, even after saying I do not want that, it was humiliating and belittling being called filthy and stupid for letting things get out of control and them snatching my belongings and throwing them away. No support or help. It was devastating and the issue is now much much worse. Yet again only offer is group of students with bin liners. They get to put on their cv they’re experienced helping with hoarding when in reality they’re not.