The advice thread for random problems #3

[Snippysnips]

Thanks, honestly am tempted to just get one an hope it's rubbish so he will stop going on about them lol, but I just didn't know if you got them or not

 

[Snippysnips]

Random problem, have purchased a trampoline for my niece an have gotten to the stage of putting on the springs

Does it matter the springs don't match the instructions? I can only put the springs one way so it means the part attached to the trampoline has the spring part going from bottom to up an not over the top like the picture shown

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

Apologies in advance if there is a thread regarding child maintenance.
The father to my 6 year old son and I had a private agreement drawn up 2.5 years ago. Recently, due to my mortgage likely going up by about £400 a month from Nov. I asked him if he would mind just recalculating the amount we agreed. He currently pays me just over £200 a month but has our son 3 nights a week. I only asked him to recalculate and did not mention an amount. He immediately went ballistic and started asking for an itemised list of what I spend on our son every month. Any way to cut a long story short I decided to make an official application through CMS. This had lead to him becoming increasingly confrontational and difficult. Whilst my application is now being processed he has now requested that I pay for the petrol for when he drops off our son. He lives 1.9 miles from me and I don’t drive.
I don’t want to agree to this but am not sure if he has any rights to ask me? What if I say no and he just refuses to drive him back to me?
Any thoughts on this greatly appreciated, thanks guys xx

He has no right to ask you. He's a bit of a twat (sorry). Please continue with your application through CSA because that's the best way forward given hos reticence to pay.
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I’ve just had a phone call from the police my ex has done a complaint of harassment to me but I’ve not messaged in 4 weeks so would he have gone to them recently? Because if he has it’s really really odd

This is the third thread I've seen this on. I hope you are you OK because it's clearly stressing you out.

Yes, it may be from a few weeks ago. Forces are overwhelmed, the complaint appears relatively minor etc.

However, if you have just messaged him and not harassed him then it will be ok and you won't be charged with anything.

From what you've said it sounds like he may have complained maliciously.

Also, harrassment requires the person not to have replied to you so if you've been messaging regularly then that contact won't be considered harrassment.

 

[Hastaggifted]

My daughter choked on water last night and was sick because of the coughing. She only sicked up the water. I'm usually a very strict 48hrs at home after sickness kinda Mum but she is begging to go to school because its a fun dress up day. My husband is saying no, she was sick, she needs to stay home, but because it was only because she choked I'm unsure. What are your thoughts?

 

[shadowcat5]

Anyone know anything about investing or where to go to learn? I saw a post on tattle but I can’t remember where or what thread

 

[Simplytatti]

He is still weighing up his options

so I guess I just wait

 

[houdini]

Can anyone recommend a website to create colour palettes?

I need one in which I can input three or four of my already selected colours and then have it suggest other colours to go with them.

I can only seem to find websites that generate random palettes that you can’t input your already selected colours into.

Thanks in advance

 

[Rxt156]

I've been seeing this guy ...... Long story short I've been hit with " take things slow see what happens " wtf does this even mean?

Either you’ve taken it too fast and it’s freaking him out OR he is having second thoughts. Either way I’d be leaving him to have space for a while

 

[littlepup]

Maybe a house large enough to have two ensuites wouldn't be in the price range of those with babies or toddlers anyway.

Baffled by that idea. I'm in my 40s with a 2.5 year old. My, as yet, childless friends in their 30s are just buying a 4 bed for £475k with no generational wealth, just good jobs.

I would say as long as the shower isn't a cubicle style with a door you'll be ok. I've generally used a baby bath, shower seat or just sat in the shower with my little one as it's a long, wide, walk in style. It's a nightmare trying to shower a little one in a cubicle shower though, not enough room.
A bath is probably better for resale but it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me so if you plan to stay long enough not to be thinking of resale, go for it.

 

[Snippysnips]

Got a new job as a receptionist/admin, is there anywhere online that does nice clothes at a good price? I've gotten some things from shein but won't know till they come if they are any good, I did try the shops today but there was hardly a thing, doesn't help all I've got is a new look an Matalan

Am a bit lost on what I should be wearing, don't really want to be in black trousers an a plain top everyday but obviously am not going to show up in jeans which right now is all my wardrobe mostly consists of, so any sites that sort of group things up will help

 

[square_spoon]

Thank you.

I will ask. I just don’t understand why she just asked for mine and not the others. This is what is making me uncomfortable.

Surely, if it was audit-related, she would have asked for all of them, not just one person’s.

I haven’t any idea - are you the only one abroad? It might just be a mistake on her part aswell, you’ll only know when you ask.

 

[stargirl23]

I thought that was the case. Thank you for that.

No problem

 

[CallMeHollywood]

Can anyone recommend a website to create colour palettes?

I need one in which I can input three or four of my already selected colours and then have it suggest other colours to go with them.

I can only seem to find websites that generate random palettes that you can’t input your already selected colours into.

Thanks in advance

Adobe illustrator, indesign and photoshop have colour themes. It’s super easy to use and Adobe has tutorials on it. You can get a seven day free trial on Adobe (just remember to cancel it).

 

[stardust1]

What summer outfits does everyone wear with bigger boobs? I got a few new summer dresses, not a single one fits my boobs

 

[GalaxyGirl70]

My favourite pods are the Paris espresso, the Nocciola (hazelnut) ones, and I mainly get the Roma for everyday.

I've just ordered the pumpkin spice ones to try.

 

[JoeBloggs]

Sorry I didn’t explain myself properly. Supervision isn't provided with students. I meant each separately so in the case of nhs care I refused a student dr alone and was told I wouldn’t be seen then and likewise social services assessment by phone. I’ve been clear I don’t want students involved but was told if I refused then no help allowed as they’re teaching hospital/surgery/social services department.

Sorry for confusion, am not well at moment so struggling to explain!

You do have the right to refuse being seen by a student, even in a teaching hospital but I suspect they use the student due to a lack of staffing and therefore you may struggle to be seen as quickly. If it is a requirement for you then stick to your guns, they cannot refuse to help you.

 

[chickhicks86]

Really boring one - does anyone have any tricks or old wives tales that work for stopping bananas from going ripe so quickly in the heat? I have a banana stand, I don't know if that makes things better or worse?
I bought some on Sunday that were still 100% green, thinking I'd have a few days until they were ripe - they are still green, but also spotty and close to being too ripe.

 

[Kizzie]

Does anyone here go on coach trips for short breaks?

Best and cheapest way to do this, please? My friend asked me to go away to Devon with her by coach, I said why when I like driving. but my counsellor has said it would be good for me to step outside my comfort zone and let someone else do the driving and for me to just enjoy the break from start to finish.

My friend isn't online so want to see if I can find it cheaper than offline, obviously, it will be after the schools go back.

 

[JoeBloggs]

Have we got any HR professionals on this thread? I need some advice on when to tell work I’m pregnant.

I’m up for a promotion that’s been promised to me since February but no contracts or paperwork filed with HR yet (they’re so shit and slow). Im at 12 weeks, so I can technically tell them now, but also don’t have to. Should I wait until that promotion has been contractually agreed to tell them? Should I tell them before it’s agreed to force their hand a bit? Im guessing there may be issues with discrimination if they then don’t give it to me. I’m fed up of waiting for an answer to be honest.

I am not in HR, but according to the law - Employees must tell their employer about the pregnancy at least 15 weeks before the beginning of the week the baby is due.

 

[littlepup]

This is so embarrassing and I cannot believe I’m going to post this lmao. I swear to god I am a functioning adult

Landlord has put in a new oven and taken all the packaging etc. including the instructions so now I don’t know how to use my oven it’s a grill and oven with the hob on top - I can figure out the hobs lol! (in my defence here: the old oven had a different style dial and the oven at my parents I just knew to flick it 1 way forward as it’s been the same since I was a kid but the 1 first picture on this one doesn’t look the same as the first picture on this oven)

can someone please tell me what these mean and which one is the bog standard oven function

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The left squiggly line is the grill, the right is the oven. I wouldn’t bother with the top and bottom only heating ones.

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