The advice thread for random problems #2

[littlepup]

I agree, trust your heart. It’s not the only band 6 job surely, there will be others? Unless you need it financially, I would wait for a better fit to come up.
That’s all said assuming you have no self doubt about your abilities or worth that are holding you back.

 

[CoffeeMamma]

Hi everyone. Had no idea this thread existed but im hoping or some work related advice....

I have been band 5 (NHS) for 10 years now and have an interview next week for band 6 post. I feel like I'm already trying to talk myself out of it. I do like my current job, it's a 5 min drive from my house and the hours are great. 3 days and I can pick up a 4th day as and when I want. Its also patient facing but without being too heavy on the clinical side I.e I'm not doing any hard physical work.

The band 6 role is not a fixed base of work so I'd be expected to drive to several locations throughout my area, the longest ones away being about a 50 minute drive each way and potentially the struggle to park at health centres. There is however the option to potentially work from home 1 day per week.

I'm undecided as my head tells me I should progress (for financial reasons mainly) but my heart says stay in the job that is close to home... better the devil you know kind of thing.

I think I put unnecessary pressure on myself thinking I should climb the ladder and better myself but perhaps less stress and mental health out weighs that? I can survive on my current band 5 salary as I have a partner too but obviously increase in pay is always welcomed.

Any thoughts?

Less stress and mental health are worth more than any job. In the world. Ever. Do the interview for the experience, so when the right job comes you feel more prepared. But being happy/settled in your job impacts more than just work and you deserve that happiness

 

[instasham13]

Thanks for the advice. I think I will go to the interview and get a better idea of what the job is about then decide how I feel if I am offered it.

 

[Slaybutter]

Nah, that looks exactly the same. Let me know how it goes. I'm always up for a ba

Instead of reaching out and fixing a wrong address they sent a phishing text. Talk about customer service.

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Instead of reaching out and fixing a wrong address they sent a phishing text. Talk about customer service.

Seems about right ordering from there Would still give it a go though

 

[Slaybutter]

Seems about right ordering from there Would still give it a go though

Hahaha never again for me

 

[Some People!]

I've got no imagination, help me out?

Looking for a gift for someone who really loves a bath but no toiletries to go in the bath (no soap, bath bombs, etc - she's v particular).
I've thought about a bath pillow or one of those tray thingies that go across the bath for your book/ device/ wine, but idk if those things go mildewey/ the novelty wares off.... Any ideas or recommendations?

 

[Snippysnips]

I've got no imagination, help me out?

Looking for a gift for someone who really loves a bath but no toiletries to go in the bath (no soap, bath bombs, etc - she's v particular).
I've thought about a bath pillow or one of those tray thingies that go across the bath for your book/ device/ wine, but idk if those things go mildewey/ the novelty wares off.... Any ideas or recommendations?

Does she have a particular store she likes to get bath things out? Maybe a little made up hamper for her, a gift voucher for a store she likes to get bath stuff out, one of those hair band things that keeps hair out your eyes, the little bath pillow, an maybe one or two small little things as well like a scented candle she can light in the bathroom etc, not sure what your budget is but sometimes you can make your own little hampers up quite cheap

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

I've got no imagination, help me out?

Looking for a gift for someone who really loves a bath but no toiletries to go in the bath (no soap, bath bombs, etc - she's v particular).
I've thought about a bath pillow or one of those tray thingies that go across the bath for your book/ device/ wine, but idk if those things go mildewey/ the novelty wares off.... Any ideas or recommendations?

I got my MIL a bath pillow and she loved it. They do go a bit manky but not quickly so now I just replace it once a year.
You can also get a complete bath pillow, it’s basically just a soft mat and then the pillow at the top

 

[Lord Voldemort]

I'm a big fan of a bath tray!
Also a nice scented candle for the bathroom?

 

[Gold_7]

My washing machine isn’t draining. I’ve drained the filter - no blockage. Is it possible the pipes are frozen?

 

[Snowjoke]

My Washing machine is leaking… any ideas on what it could be? It seems to be washing ok but the spin cycle is really loud

 

[WeHadFunRight]

My Washing machine is leaking… any ideas on what it could be? It seems to be washing ok but the spin cycle is really loud

I would think it could be the seal around the door? Ours started to crack and perish - you can buy replacements online and get someone to fit it. (Although for about a year I just put a towel down under the door to catch the drips).

 

[Snowjoke]

I would think it could be the seal around the door? Ours started to crack and perish - you can buy replacements online and get someone to fit it. (Although for about a year I just put a towel down under the door to catch the drips).

Thank you so much! Will look into this, don’t fancy getting a new one before Christmas lol thanks

 

[shadowcat5]

Not sure if this is the right place to post but I came off my pill almost 2 months ago. Had my first period last week - all seemed fine just the usual. I was on the pill in the first place because they were so bad i'd be sick.

I don't know what to do about the pill now though. I was very lucky in that I never had any side effects and it stopped my period completely. I am worried about the long term of being on the pill and all the horror stories but not having a period was really great as the mental side effects really take their toll and I get really bad fatigue.
I just don't know what to do for the best. There's a bit of me that thinks just take the easier route now and deal with the outcomes if they come later down the line but there's a part of me that is concerned.

I'm all confused

 

[candyland_]

My washing machine isn’t draining. I’ve drained the filter - no blockage. Is it possible the pipes are frozen?

This has happened to me with at least 3 washing machines over the last 10 years and I’ve always had to replace them.

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Not sure if this is the right place to post but I came off my pill almost 2 months ago. Had my first period last week - all seemed fine just the usual. I was on the pill in the first place because they were so bad i'd be sick.

I don't know what to do about the pill now though. I was very lucky in that I never had any side effects and it stopped my period completely. I am worried about the long term of being on the pill and all the horror stories but not having a period was really great as the mental side effects really take their toll and I get really bad fatigue.
I just don't know what to do for the best. There's a bit of me that thinks just take the easier route now and deal with the outcomes if they come later down the line but there's a part of me that is concerned.

I'm all confused

This is a very personal choice and one you should make yourself. Weigh up the pro’s and cons.
From my own health experience I would opt for not being on the pill as I prefer not taking medication if I can avoid it.
I’ve had health scares in the past brought on by myself so trust me. Thinking you’ll deal with the consequences in the future sounds better than it is

 

[shadowcat5]

This is a very personal choice and one you should make yourself. Weigh up the pro’s and cons.
From my own health experience I would opt for not being on the pill as I prefer not taking medication if I can avoid it.
I’ve had health scares in the past brought on by myself so trust me. Thinking you’ll deal with the consequences in the future sounds better than it is

thank you for the reply! I have only been off it a month so I think my hormones may need time to regulate atm so the fatigue and mental symptoms could settle in fairness,.

 

[Snippysnips]

Not sure if this is the right place to post but I came off my pill almost 2 months ago. Had my first period last week - all seemed fine just the usual. I was on the pill in the first place because they were so bad i'd be sick.

I don't know what to do about the pill now though. I was very lucky in that I never had any side effects and it stopped my period completely. I am worried about the long term of being on the pill and all the horror stories but not having a period was really great as the mental side effects really take their toll and I get really bad fatigue.
I just don't know what to do for the best. There's a bit of me that thinks just take the easier route now and deal with the outcomes if they come later down the line but there's a part of me that is concerned.

I'm all confused

You might find the thread periods helpful, am not sure how to link but it's in the advice section

Personally I was on and off it for years because of my performing an it's left me messed up now, I don't have a pattern, I can be super early or super late, can go between either massively heavy or really light as well, if I could have gotten away with it then I wouldn't have taken it in the first place because I feel there's no fixing mine now, I'd also get insane pains with mine an some have told me to be checked for endometriosis so if you are being sick with them then I'd see about being checked for that and also if you have anemia, anemia could explain the fatigue so maybe taking an iron supplement may help, but it is something best spoken to a doctor with

 

[Babysnark]

Not sure if this is the right place to post but I came off my pill almost 2 months ago. Had my first period last week - all seemed fine just the usual. I was on the pill in the first place because they were so bad i'd be sick.

I don't know what to do about the pill now though. I was very lucky in that I never had any side effects and it stopped my period completely. I am worried about the long term of being on the pill and all the horror stories but not having a period was really great as the mental side effects really take their toll and I get really bad fatigue.
I just don't know what to do for the best. There's a bit of me that thinks just take the easier route now and deal with the outcomes if they come later down the line but there's a part of me that is concerned.

I'm all confused

I was on the pill on and off since I was 18 - currently 31, progesterone only. Stopped my periods completely, always took pregnancy tests periodically and was paranoid.

Stopped taking the pill aged 29 for a year during the pandemic cause I needed to get my blood pressure checked and also just generally couldn't be bothered. Got my periods back and they were like clockwork, used a tracker app and always accurate. However started with unexplained pelvic pain monthly and I couldn't bend over, get out of bed etc. when it was happening.

Currently waiting for a gynaecology appointment to investigate further but it was recommended by two different doctors I got back on the pill ASAP to manage my symptoms. I have done and it's massively helped but I'm worried being on the pill since I was 18 has basically masked symptoms. Looking for further advice and discussion as well