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petitspois

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Sketchers are apparently great. My Mum, MIL and SIL swear by them.

I realise my privilege by saying this is a problem but I’m going to go for it… we’re lucky enough to have a cleaner, we’ll call her Jane. Yesterday my 2yr old child walked into the bedroom and said “Jane tidied up bed” -it’d been made and sheets changed.
Child loves Jane, Jane counts them as a grandchild, they give Jane a kiss goodbye, she came to their bday party, always excited that Jane is coming and to show her things, Jane is family.
But I don’t want my child to think that a cleaner is ‘normal’. Child helps mummy with laundry, knows ‘tidy up’ etc. Also knows mummy works for “Dave” who is our friend and people have jobs but do I explain it’s Jane’s job while Mummy plays? Just generally don’t know how to address it? Any advice would be appreciated.
I really wouldn’t worry- just say that you have some spare money at the end of the week and you chose to spend it on a cleaner to help out. You could spend it on clothes, nails or nights out so it’s not a privilege issue I don’t think.
 
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rainbowlemon

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Two pages back - no one is asking anyone to smother their crying child.

Living next to young kids is annoying. More so when they're not yours.

The people next door have two kids+ I can also hear them through the walls. Up at random hours usually 10pm and early on saturdays.

I bought ear plus.
 
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Snippysnips

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She will get the sack, while I get she's wrong I can't do that.

I've drafted something to send, so fingers crossed.
Wouldn't she get disciplinarys first? I think it's a 3 stage before you can fire where you need to do a disciplinary, then written letter with a warning an then a meeting

It sounds like if she would be straight up fired then she's probably already had all those an she's on her last chance, which tbf wouldn't be your fault if that was the case

I hope you can get something sorted though an she doesn't guilt you into anything where your still losing out
 
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barmcake

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Was she his wife Barmcake? If she was then I don't think you can stop her from being involved (if this is about his funeral etc) , but I'm sure she can if she wanted to stop you all from being involved. So tread lightly if that is the case (I'm sure others will know more than I do) Horrible situation for you all.
Hi Purrrrrrr and thank you so much for the reply. She is his wife. I've solved the problem. My sister is going to visit them with some momentos and will hopefully be able to get my elder brother on his own. There's not going to be a funeral so there's no need for her to come down.

On the day I arrived at my deceased brother's bungalow the next door neighbour arrived with his daughter, dressed as a fairy + dog to 'cheer me up'. He started knocking every day and I did write a thanks but no thanks note. I find it quite funny but at the same time 'can you believe it'.
 
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Jerry Garcia

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Might post this on a couple of threads! Hoping someone has an answer…

how does one get foundation marks out from a jacket collar?I’ve not washed it as it’s a puffer jacket and I don’t want it to lose its puff. Any ideas? Makeup remover, micellar water, baby wipes does not take it out.
Try Gonzo stain remover. In my experience, there's nothing it won't remove.
 
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Weird question to those who have to talk a lot e.g. in a job ( teachers maybe?). How do you do it??
I sometimes have to run 1-3h sessions at work and my throat is very sore after, feels raw. Is this normal or is there something wrong with the way I talk 😭
Teacher here 👋🏼 and honestly I think the voice just becomes accustomed to it. I teach full days on a Monday and by Monday afternoon my throat is killing me, thankfully towards the end of the week it seems a little better
 
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no-no

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I have taken them for years but recently ran out and they aren't on offer at h and b at the moment but can't say I have noticed any difference. I also drink Kombucha.
A probiotic from the likes of biocult is just as good as symprove and nowhere near the price. Symprove is way over priced for what it is
Thank you both 💕 I’m not exposed to influencers using Symprove but seen a lot when I searched posts on here 😱 I bought loads of Remedy from Holland and Barrett and still working through it but think I will add the BioCare BioAcidophilus (I use their multivitamins) and see what it’s like…
 
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Piff paff puff

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Swim faster? 😅

Only half joking... if its a sports pool (which are kept at a lower temp - swimming in a warm pool when you're sweating is grim), you might really benefit from increasing your swimming speed or learning a new, more intense stroke. Breaststroke and head above water is relaxing but not very energetically intense as you don't involve your back that much. You could buy some goggles and do the olympic style breaststroke instead. I don't know which level of swimming you're at, maybe getting a coach for a session or two would also be worth it.

Otherwise, do some warmup exercises to get you sweating, then you'll be glad of the pool to cool you down. Planks are a good one, pushups, jumping jacks, ... Could you walk there instead of driving? Or take the bicycle?
Great ideas, thanks. Need a coach but they're booked up. Snail's pace with head above water 😂
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I used to find my pool was always cold when less people were in it, so asked about it an they told me that the less people that are in the more heaters they switch off, something to do with saving money if the pool isn't busy plus after a certan time they wanted them off anyway (at times there was only me in the pool but I'd go at night) of course your pool might be different but it could be worth maybe asking them if there's a reason it's so cold
Oh, never thought of that :unsure:
 
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Rxt156

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So glad I've found this thread! I have a work problem

So I've seen a job advertised and you can ring for an informal chat, which I will need to do as not everything I need to know is listed in the advert.

The problem is, I know the person who I would be phoning through the job I do now.
So do I ring and tell them who I am to increase my chances, but risk word getting out, or ring anonymously and hope they don't ask for a name....?
Honesty from the start. If they recognise you/your voice then that’s fine 👍🏻
 
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TheSlayer

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Deffo get in touch. I read your post, clicked away and suddenly thought “hang on”, I know there is legislation to stop this. It should NOT be happening but they will always chance someone not knowing.

Follow up, please.

No matter what an agent “says” to you on a call, they have little to no power.

Remember, never take legal advice from an opponent.
 
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littlepup

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I’ve been doing a lot more washing recently (4m old) and my washing machine seal is covered in black mould, plus the detergent tray is also gross. How do people clean their washing machines - in particular the seal - and then keep them clean? Does anyone use Calgon and is it worth it (I live in a hard water area)? Does anyone ever clean out the filter? Whenever I’ve tried to in the past it just leaks water onto the floor but is empty of any grime.

Apologies for the seriously boring problem/questions but I really want to tackle this before it gets worse and the answers online all suggest bicarbonate of soda which I’ve tried before and it just gets clogged up in lumps which I then need to fish out 😫
You can pull the tray right out and give it a scrub, you fully extend it out then sort of tip it up and tug. There will probably be a YouTube or IG reel on how to do it. Also a baking sheet or tray on the floor to catch the water from the filter.
A hot vinegar wash should help. Run the hottest cycle with a cup of white vinegar and soda crystals.

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Help please... I got offered a job yesterday full time but also trying to pursue the option of going back to study in September for a year now both kids will be in school. This studying will be a dream of mine since young.

no idea which route to take! Problem is the job was offered through friend so feel like if turn it down now I'll be letting her down...

I just feel so torn and need other people's perspective.
If you can afford it, study. One year is nothing in the scheme of things, your financial situation might change and your previous qualifications outdated.
Tell the friend you’re really sorry but you’re pursuing a dream and you’d rather turn the job down than only stay for a year or two, how can they not support that?!
 
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minceheed

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God that is my worst nightmare. More the chats or just leave them on ‘read’ without a reply. She will get the hint if you keep not replying. Think she needs to get a life personally lol
Thsbk you, I had muted it and turned receipts off so she couldn't see if i was online.
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Tbh I think I would be ditching them, who even has the time to txt that much, I couldn't stay friends with someone like that because I'd end up getting pissed off to the point I'd end up in a arguement with them an that would be the end of it

Its better just to be up front an honest about it, either say that it needs to stop (I know you done before) or you are done with them, give them that decision to make, I know that you don't want hurt feelings but it's either going to be hurt feelings to deal with the now an getting over it, or you are going to reach that breaking point where it's all built up an it will unleash as a lot worse than a few harsh words about telling them to stop
Yeah I did do that for a few years as I found it too much and a bit demanding of me! Yeah that is true, suppose a bit of hurt feelings the now as opposed to blowing up is the better option! Thank you 😊
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fully agree with this @minceheed - how long have you been friends because this sounds like a nightmare and you’re being way way more patient with it than i would be 🤣

i would both mute the chats and hide her from viewing your insta stories etc if she takes these as an invite to contact you. i know you’ve said you’ve already spoken to her but, if you want to continue the friendship, i would have another word and make it clear that you can’t sustain constant messaging all day. you need your own space and she has to respect that.
Around 30 years so its a hard one! Never used to be this intense but despite muting its getting to the point im dreading picking up my phone, have stopped posting on social media! I need to learn how to restrict stories , will give that a search on google thanks!
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My BFF is autistic and used to do this all the time. They may genuinely misunderstand and need it spelled out! Alternatively, mute them.
Thank you! There is understanding there but she does experience low mood etc so i think it comes from that and always having to chat with someone
 
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Carapop

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Grenade and Fulfil are my favourites. Holland Barrett own brand PE Bar are decent and a little more affordable too. You need to manage your expectations though, they’re not gonna compete with Lindt!

Protein bars are convenient for an on the move snack and can scratch the chocolate itch without revving up blood sugar, but can work out as an expensive way to get protein and if you’re calorie conscious then they’re still around the same cals as most chocolate bars.
 
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Dogtanian

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Didn’t think bare arms would be so controversial! Never even came up in my thoughts as a no-no

I’ll have a little look in H&M thanks
I always thought the traditional rules were to cover yourself up apart from shins and forearms downwards, but I may be making that up. ❓
 
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Captainmouse

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My pee is fluorescent. No lies. Fluorescent yellow 😂 😂 I'm not dehydrated and it's not dehydrated pee, it's bright af yellow

I have been taking L-theanine and a new multivitamin since friday. This is probably what it is isn't it?
Berrocca has that effect so quite possibly
 
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HoGi

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More of a question than a problem.. I found an old purse that has about £25 worth of loose change. Mostly 5p, 10p and some 1p and 2p. Do I need to get coin bags and separate it all before taking it to the bank to deposit? I’m tempted to throw it all into a clear, plastic sandwich bag but not sure if they’d accept that lol. I’m with Halifax if that makes any difference.
Some banks have coin deposit machines that you just chuck it all in, it counts it then deposits to your account.
 
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Tommyb

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Got myself a little 2nd job to help with the cost of living, 20hrs two weekends a month .
Now I am not good at maths but I think I am getting taxed more than the usual 20%,can someone look into my wage slip and help me please
T.I.A
You have had the basic rate tax code applied which is 20%. It all depends how much you earn in your first job and how much of your personal allowance has been used.
 
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littlepup

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I have lost some weight, but not a huge amount. Probably because I'm eating less tbh. No one mentioned thyroid so I might ask the dr.
Try not to come up with reasons for anything, (like long covid etc) let the doctor diagnose.
Weight loss is a red flag symptom as is new onset pain or weakness. which they will definitely investigate more. If pain worsens in the evening that’s also significant.
Make a list of all symptoms and speak to the doctor again omitting anything that you think could explain it. You want them to work for you rather than accept a self diagnosis and get you out of the door. You have to really push.
Blood tests are only relevant for the current time so the previous blood test is a marker but not relevant to how you’re feeling now.

I’m not saying this to worry you, it sounds a lot like long covid but just let the doctors decide so you know for sure otherwise the anxiety of ‘is it though’ will make you more poorly.
 
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Snippysnips

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I find under 2kg is cheaper with Royal Mail, but over that it's better to use a courier. I use Transglobal Express or Parcel Monkey to find the cheapest prices. Sometimes still cheaper to split into smaller, lighter parcels though.
Thanks I'll check them out, I usually am under that but it's still ridiculous over priced, was in shock when I was £30 to send some malteasers an a bar of cadbury chocolate 😅
 
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