Being silent on what went on with Joe after selling the dream of finding the one is disruptive
I mean , if I’m honest I’m not sure what you want from her ? A statement ? She hasn’t publicly addressed a breakup in over a decade , the last time she did was with Joe Jonas when she was 18 years old . She was never going to release a statement - she’s not an influencer who was going to put a notes app screenshot on insta stories (pretty sure Tree has banned that kind of approach to addressing scandals since the Kayne stuff kicked off - LOL) .
I’m sure we will , as we have with previous relationships of hers , get snapshots of her feelings and what went on with Joe on TS11 . But she is never going to fully tell the world what happened . All we know from her relationship with Joe is what we’ve heard through songs . She’s never said “hey yeah so I met him at the Met Gala , I was with Calvin Harris , through you were gorgeous and instead went off with Tom Hiddleston … but then I dumped him , realised it wasn’t right and we made it official the following September” . This is all stuff we have worked out from song lyrics in songs like Delicate , Getaway Car , Cruel Summer , etc and from photos that were taken at the time . She rarely spoke publicly about Joe and when she did it was in reference to the songs they wrote in lockdown or vague inferences to her relationship . We don’t know what happened for certain . We have just painted a picture based on her song writing , which we must remember may not be the most reliable as she’s controlled the narrative , it’s her side of the story . We have never known what’s happened for certain .
Honestly the parasocial relationship some fans have with her is scary . She doesn’t owe anyone an explanation about what happened to end her 6 year relationship , or even confirmation that it has ended (which we’ve had by the way , just via her team and to the press) . She’s made a great brand for herself as being friends of her fans but this is the downside , people think she owes explanations or that we can influence her personal decisions and she doesn’t and we can’t .
Also , I understand the feeling of being sad that they’ve over , she wrote some lovely songs about him and I do think she loved him dearly . She didn’t “sell a dream” about him , she wrote honestly about how she was feeling in the relationship at that time . And yes it sounded dreamy because it probably was for a time , and they were likely very in love and thought they would end up together forever . But sometimes love isn’t enough sadly . Taylor doesn’t owe anyone an explanation just because the song Lover is about Joe . She encourages fans to adapt their own meanings to her songs and not to focus on how they relate to her life , so do that instead . I’ve been with my husband for 10 years and he saves his dirtiest jokes for me , and at every table I’ll always save him a seat . To me that song isn’t about Taylor and Joe , it’s about love in general and it still gives me hope , does that make sense ?
why is her happiness always connected to the romantic connections in her life. 
other users on this thread may relate to these songs and have suffered similar abuse , so making jokes about the lyrics is in poor taste imo
