Tarmar's latest video made me so sad. She's someone who is stuck, alone, unhappy, becoming obsessed by chronically online afflictions like "moonface", treating her unhappiness by buying supplements and believing they are going to solve her sadness. She's in the best city in the world for art and music and going out, but all we see is her loft. You can go out every day of the week in New York and see amazing stuff, often for free. It makes me so sad that she's clearly a creative and interesting person who at some stage had a vision, but because of all these anxieties it has numbed her creativity and growth. Reading between the lines, I think having a long distance partner has made her feel like she can't experience things she did as a single person. When Secondhandhuns visited her, I thought oh this is great because Verona is so free and easy going, this will be a good influence on Tarmar. But it was back to more of the same; loft, ice coffee and the usual topics of discussion.
At the end of the recent video she starts talking about her previous relationship weighing her down, and the bout of depression she had 2 summers ago and begins to cry. It broke my heart so much to see this young amazing person waste her life on these emotionally absent men. I really think the loft has become a self imposed cage. I'd love her to go to an actual therapist who could help her elicit what she really wants. Her previous breakup sounded brutal and I feel like she's lost confidence in herself. There needs to be some sort of change and no amount of magnesium is going to improve this. She talks about putting herself first, and she absolutely should do this and be a single gal in new york city and live her best Carrie Bradshaw life, because she'll eventually look back on this time her life and go, why didn't I live it up?
I am starting my campaigns: #FREETARMAR #THELOFTISACAGE #TARMARSINGLE2023