Yeah this story is pretty inaccurate, it wasn’t a random YouTuber, they were having some kind of party and her old high school friends came over, I’m pretty sure the girl was Emma (the one Tan lives with) who they’ve know forever and Jim jokingly hugged her and put a hand on her butt and I’m pretty sure she did the same to him. It clearly was a joke between them and he wasn’t trying to hide or be shady either.
I get not liking the guy but y’all twist events to make him sound like an awful person. I’ve frequently seen him being called an abuser, creepy, etc. and it annoys me. If he’s supportive he has her on a leash, if he’s absent he’s neglectful, if he’s nice he’s condescending, if he’s sarcastic he’s abusive... he can’t win. Same with Tan and Sarah for that matter. I used to watch Tanya and Jim a lot, he’s just an awkward dude with social anxiety stemming from a not so great childhood. Have some compassion for people and be careful with the labels you throw around.
You can dislike people without making up things about them. And you can gossip without tossing around gross harmful labels.