I don't think that counts as white personally, more floral.
TBF I don't think you can with with partner/boyfriend etc - people re weirdly fussy ow other people refer to their significant other. To me boyfriend sounds infantile but to others partner sounds pretensions, there was a whole discussion on the 'things that annoy you' thread.
I honestly think that given how much she just cannot shake Jim she doesn't want to talk about Dan at all. If she mentions it once his name is forever linked to hers in a google search and he may not want that either. I feel her, constant, inescapable reminders of your ex, your old life, must be suffocating. If you google Tanya Burr, Jim's name comes up. It must be absolutely shite to be unable to sever yourself. Jim is bleeping weird these days. No wonder she wants to get as far away from the 'old' 'Tanya & Jim' Tanya as possible.