Thank youI turned my phone’s do not disturb function on while I wanted to watch something in peace and loved it so much I didn’t switch it off. At first I felt guilty but quickly noticed an uptick in my mood. It’s here to stay
The op could say she fancied going there herself if she is questioned.If it was me and one of my closest friends I would probably say something, although be prepared for her to be defensive and ask why you went looking for the details of the event and try and turn it back on you etc.
Is there a chance that this event she is going to has been advertised for a while and the tickets have only just been released?
You're absolutely justified being angry that is so hurtful! I don't know if it's worth mentioning it. Just remember going forward that she's not the friend you thought she was and drift away from her. Im so sorry she did that to youSo I hate arranging stuff especially for my birthday because I really don’t like people feeling obligated to come BUT what’s pissed me off so much is I decided maybe this year I’d sort something for a few of us - organised getting tickets, gave everyone plenty of warning and nudges about it. Now 1 week before the event one of my (what I considered closest) friends has “realised” they already had something else booked that night. So because I’m a bit of a psychopath I checked out the event on Facebook and can see tickets for it only went on sale last week! So there’s absolutely no way she had these tickets before she agreed to come to my thing. Do I say anything? I hate to get snarky with people but I feel like this is a proper dick move considering the event was for my birthday and she’d already agreed to come? I’m justified being angry aren’t I? This is why I never fucking bother people are so predictable
If she’s really a close friend, it should be easy to just ask what she’s playing at. But the fact that she’s done this, proves that she’s actually not really that close a friend. And the fact that you’ve also checked up on her and didn’t really believe her story kinda says it all. Forget about her, she’s not really your mate.So I hate arranging stuff especially for my birthday because I really don’t like people feeling obligated to come BUT what’s pissed me off so much is I decided maybe this year I’d sort something for a few of us - organised getting tickets, gave everyone plenty of warning and nudges about it. Now 1 week before the event one of my (what I considered closest) friends has “realised” they already had something else booked that night. So because I’m a bit of a psychopath I checked out the event on Facebook and can see tickets for it only went on sale last week! So there’s absolutely no way she had these tickets before she agreed to come to my thing. Do I say anything? I hate to get snarky with people but I feel like this is a proper dick move considering the event was for my birthday and she’d already agreed to come? I’m justified being angry aren’t I? This is why I never fucking bother people are so predictable
More than justified and that isn't the behaviour of a close friend. As others have said, it's really your call on whether you can get over this and continue to be friends, or slowly fade them out.So I hate arranging stuff especially for my birthday because I really don’t like people feeling obligated to come BUT what’s pissed me off so much is I decided maybe this year I’d sort something for a few of us - organised getting tickets, gave everyone plenty of warning and nudges about it. Now 1 week before the event one of my (what I considered closest) friends has “realised” they already had something else booked that night. So because I’m a bit of a psychopath I checked out the event on Facebook and can see tickets for it only went on sale last week! So there’s absolutely no way she had these tickets before she agreed to come to my thing. Do I say anything? I hate to get snarky with people but I feel like this is a proper dick move considering the event was for my birthday and she’d already agreed to come? I’m justified being angry aren’t I? This is why I never fucking bother people are so predictable
I think it's a tough time at the moment. The media is full of bad news stories, if it isn't COVID, then it's Brexit, gas prices, political corruption, or food shortages. It feels like a constant barrage of bad news and it's hard to deal with it all. Mix that in with emotional relationships and it's no wonder why you are feeling this way.I just feel really down lately. Like I keep getting overwhelming feelings of sadness and I don’t know why, like I’ll be fine and then next min it completely takes over me and I feel sad and sick. I have had a lot go on over this past year and things in my relationship are not great so it could be that but when I feel down it feels like it takes over my whole body. Does anybody know what I mean
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