I’m sure they meant it Life is full of ups and downs, just have to ride out the low parts and it will get better Happy Birthdayprobably felt obligated to wish me a happy birthday
happy birthdayToday is my birthday! Feel like absolute tit tbh and I've cried a couple of times today as I'm emotional as duck. My period is also due any moment so that's inevitable anyway. Time is flying, I'm getting older and I feel stuck. I'm not in a relationship, I have to change jobs in a matter of months and I hardly have any close friends. If it wasn't for a couple of ex colleagues (who I miss dearly!), that probably felt obligated to wish me a happy birthday, my phone would have been dead all day. I didn't even tell anyone at my current workplace that it's my birthday because I'm sure no one cares enough. Maybe I'm expecting too much from everyone but it kind of hurts my feelings when cousins, aunts/uncles and distant relatives don't find 5 seconds to send a message or leave a post. Yes we're not super close but we're not complete strangers either. Though to be fair even my own father hasn't given a tit about me in years so maybe it runs in the family lol. So yess..feeling extra lonely today and sadly don't see the situation getting better anytime soon.
Happiest of birthdays to youToday is my birthday! Feel like absolute tit tbh and I've cried a couple of times today as I'm emotional as duck. My period is also due any moment so that's inevitable anyway. Time is flying, I'm getting older and I feel stuck. I'm not in a relationship, I have to change jobs in a matter of months and I hardly have any close friends. If it wasn't for a couple of ex colleagues (who I miss dearly!), that probably felt obligated to wish me a happy birthday, my phone would have been dead all day. I didn't even tell anyone at my current workplace that it's my birthday because I'm sure no one cares enough. Maybe I'm expecting too much from everyone but it kind of hurts my feelings when cousins, aunts/uncles and distant relatives don't find 5 seconds to send a message or leave a post. Yes we're not super close but we're not complete strangers either. Though to be fair even my own father hasn't given a tit about me in years so maybe it runs in the family lol. So yess..feeling extra lonely today and sadly don't see the situation getting better anytime soon.
Happy BirthdayToday is my birthday! Feel like absolute tit tbh and I've cried a couple of times today as I'm emotional as duck. My period is also due any moment so that's inevitable anyway. Time is flying, I'm getting older and I feel stuck. I'm not in a relationship, I have to change jobs in a matter of months and I hardly have any close friends. If it wasn't for a couple of ex colleagues (who I miss dearly!), that probably felt obligated to wish me a happy birthday, my phone would have been dead all day. I didn't even tell anyone at my current workplace that it's my birthday because I'm sure no one cares enough. Maybe I'm expecting too much from everyone but it kind of hurts my feelings when cousins, aunts/uncles and distant relatives don't find 5 seconds to send a message or leave a post. Yes we're not super close but we're not complete strangers either. Though to be fair even my own father hasn't given a tit about me in years so maybe it runs in the family lol. So yess..feeling extra lonely today and sadly don't see the situation getting better anytime soon.
Stop.Another Friday night gone down the drain. I just logged off from work after logging in at 9.30 this morning. I haven't had the chance to have lunch or do anything. I've been glued at the same spot for hours on end trying to work on a ridiculous process for a ridiculous company. My evening is gone because I had to send across this deliverable as today was the deadline and it was a complicated case. While everyone logged off at 5.30pm, I was stuck there for hours on end contemplating logging off and never coming back.
I haven't had the chance to have a proper meal for days because of how busy I have been, working late and not having any lunch break. My managers do not understand the amount of work I have is not manageable. I wasn't even able to plan a day trip somewhere for this bank holiday because I was too consumed with work.
I don't want to complain about this, but I have significant dark circles from the exhaustion and on top of this, all my clothes are now too big for me. I haven't been eating anything because of the work stress, on top of not going out for days on end, on top of barely sleeping. I really cannot cope anymore.
so sorry to hear this sending love vent away if you need it xJust had my partner of 6 years break up with me and honestly I’m angry and upset. Annoyed cause I feel like I’ve just wasted the time of my life with someone I thought was going to be with forever. Don’t really have any friends to talk about this with so just venting on here.
how far away is it from your parents? Also is something else going on that's making you want to go home? Stress? Work? issues with your partner?Feeling a bit sad atm. Moved to a new city about 3 months ago to live with my partner - it’s a new place for both of us as we wanted to start our life together somewhere new (we were long distance for a long time)
I’m 28 and lived with my parents until now and I never ever expected to be so homesick; I was desperate for my own space. I waited three months to come back and visit, and I came back this week and honestly I feel like it’s set me back. I don’t want to leave. Has anyone else experienced this and how long does it take to go away? I am so close to convincing my partner for us to move back to my hometown purely so I can be closer to them. It’s a really crappy feeling and I just feel like a failure if I return, but honestly I don’t know how long I can go on feeling so sad and not myself.
Sorry to dump this rant here - I’ve not told anyone at all I’m feeling this sad about it and honestly it just feels a bit better getting it out.
Thank you for responding! It’s only about a three hour drive/train from my parents so I know in the grand scheme of things it’s nothing. I don’t think there is anything in particular that’s causing it other than the fact I miss them, and the familiarity of home - I suffer from quite bad anxiety and I do think it’s been exacerbated by the change of circumstance. I love my partner and she is very supportive, but I don’t like talking about how I’m feeling incase she feels like I’m unhappy with her (that is me projecting, realistically I do think she would understand)how far away is it from your parents? Also is something else going on that's making you want to go home? Stress? Work? issues with your partner?
I'm just thinking cause when I moved abroad I was homesick for the first 2 months but it was really just stress of sorting everything out in a new country completely alone. As soon as everything was sorted, I started to enjoy it a lot more and I wasn't homesick at all after that.
Do you know anyone besides your partner in the new city? Could you join a club or something? Maybe go out in the new city for the day and explore? Find something lovely that you enjoy. I had a lovely forest that I would go to when I moved abroad and it really helped me fall in love with the place.
well 3 hours is still far away from what is familiar and it's not silly. Is it feasible for you to visit every weekend? Even if it's just Saturday night. I know that seems counterproductive but it might help ease you in a bit more instead of like cold turkey and you'll have something to look forward? And in the mean time, you can find things you love about where you live. Also maybe discuss it with your partner? She could be feeling the same way and then maybe you explore together? Also reach out to your friends. I know they've got their own lives but I'm sure they'll be upset to find out you're struggling and will want to help. I'd be heartbroken if my friend moved near me, was struggling to settle and hadn't told me.Thank you for responding! It’s only about a three hour drive/train from my parents so I know in the grand scheme of things it’s nothing. I don’t think there is anything in particular that’s causing it other than the fact I miss them, and the familiarity of home - I suffer from quite bad anxiety and I do think it’s been exacerbated by the change of circumstance. I love my partner and she is very supportive, but I don’t like talking about how I’m feeling incase she feels like I’m unhappy with her (that is me projecting, realistically I do think she would understand)
I have friends here and I’ve seen them a few times but they have their own lives and are settled here so I don’t want to be a bother. That is really good advice to try and find something to do or somewhere to explore. I need to force myself to do this, I think - having been feeling a bit sad it’s very easy to shut myself away.
It’s good to hear that these feelings went away for you and I am definitely holding out hope! Honestly I never expected to feel like this at all; I’m generally quite an outgoing and social person, I didn’t think I’d be affected by homesickness or missing my family as much as I have so I feel really silly!
Thank you again for your response and advice
That needn't be simultaneously, unless that's your scene.throw a moving in party, have sex in every room
Thank you for your very truthful words.Stop.
just stop.
whatever your job is, I can assure you, it’s not that important. Just stop.
Take this coming week off. Call in sick. Do it.
see your GP and explain what’s going on. You need help & support. Do you have any family/friends who you can lean on for support?