I don’t know if I should feel angry or sad or simply not surprised.
I spoke about how my family treated me as their personal secretary after my dad died dumping all the administrative and legal burden on me. I helped them out financially and paid some procedures which all amounted to 2.5K.
All throughout this period, not one sibling (3 above 20 years old) lifted a finger to help out whether financially or else. Every time they received a letter or a request, they forwarded to me asking me to handle.
Nail in the coffin was when I flew to meet with the notary to get paperwork done and they brought my narcissistic mother along without telling me. I had mentioned before we were estranged for 6 years because of her ways and she was forced back into my life when my dad died. Every day she had a different demand when I allowed her back in. It culminated in front of the notary’s office when she ambushed me when I exited the office. She didn’t even ask how my flight was or that it was nice to see me - she just asked “what about my money” and started an argument. I walked away and left her standing because I had enough. I had just written off more money to benefit her and she dared speaking to me like that.
Fast forward, after that incident which my siblings witnessed, not one of them reached out to ask how I was doing. A month later, they reach out to saying “here’s what we received through the post, please handle”. They completely disregarded what happened at the notary’s and didn’t even ask how I was doing. I did not respond.
They sent me an email last week asking me how I’m doing. I responded politely saying “thanks, doing well, busy. Hope all is well with you too” and was met with a no response which makes me guess they wanted something from me and stopped in their tracks when I said I’m busy.
Fast forward, today is my birthday and not one of them wished me a happy birthday. After all I’ve done for them for almost a year, getting them out of a pickle financially, ensuring they kept a roof over their heads despite the fact they’re all grown adults and can handle all of this. I even sent them gifts to celebrate certain holidays to ease the pain of my dad’s absence. I almost had a mental breakdown because of all the stress they and my narcissistic mother inflicted on me with their problems and that’s how they thank me? After all I’ve done for me, a birthday greeting gesture is the least they could do. This is a disgrace.
From today on, these selfish people are out of sight out of mind.