@BettyCrockerr
I know I have to change my situation because it's not good for my health. However, it's not that easy. I have sent my CV to multiple recruitment agencies and I'm always met with a "
we don't have anything that fits your profile". I apply for jobs and I get rejected within 24 hours. I can't just snap my fingers and quite without a plan, unfortunately. It's a process to find a new job or move on elsewhere.
Finances and various logistical aspects need to be figured out first. Some people quit overnight, but I'm not that person. I need a plan. Yes, I have spoken about this job for months, but I'm also grieving and therefore, I'm not in the best mental shape right now to make a rash decision, so I need to make sure my plan is solid regardless of what it is.
It's a vent thread, so I'm here to vent. I acknowledge the advice, which has been more than what I could ever ask for. However, I need to make sure I'm secure regardless of the plan I make.
It is hard to simply stop with a job. If you quit, then you can't access any support from the benefits system (different if you are fired or made redundant). So that could bring you more of a stress, finding you can't pay rent/mortgage or any other bills and a damaged credit rating can affect some job options too.
So you are making plans to seek a new placement of work, which is great and yes can take some time. Let's break this down a little. If you are getting a lot of rejections or not even getting to the interview stage, then I'd strongly suggest looking into a professional CV service. They can take all your information and work out how to set out your stall (so to speak) to gain you the best audience and raise your potential.
Next we cross the "square peg, round hole" job scenario also known as the "unicorn job syndrome". This is where you want a certain job, but then you keep adding requirements, needs and must haves to the point, that this job, should it even be a thing, would be so special that even you yourself, having crafted it with love, wouldn't be the right candidate for it. To avoid this, it's not even being realistic, it's simply being thoughtful and deciding do I want to stay in my current field or do I have skills that can cross over.
One of our family friends has trained as a Planner for transport situations, but found it stressful and difficult, so they've taken the planning skills and moved over to Works Planning, for Electric and Gas companies. More money, nicer team, wfh and altogether more their sort of thing.
While all this will take a little time, it's crucial you have better coping mechanisms. One that I am going to recommend to you is working to rule.
Basically, if your day states 9am to 5pm, then you will arrive at work at 8.45am, go for a tinkle, hang up your coat, grab the coffee and watch the clock, as soon as the hand pops onto 9am, you begin. You go to lunch, away from the office, no contact and take your hour in full. At 4.50pm, you pack away everything on the desk, switch off and pop your coat on. at exactly 5pm on the dot, you leave and do absolutely ..... nothing, zilch, zippo, sweet FA for them.
Because............... that is your time and they don't actually own that or pay for that. So screw them.
What can they do? Frankly, moan, give you a warning and then sack you. worried? don't be, should that occur, you can then take them to a works tribunal and kick their rude, nasty backside hard. It's called Constructive Dismissal.
Ok, you can do this, I promise you. You need to stop, get your breath back, plan, remain calm and do not, ever, let these vile
's ever take you for granted ever again. xxx
some days I feel absolutely fine and happy but other days it’s like I have the worst life ever in existence.
