Honestly I wish it was as simple of being advised no contact meant no contact. It isn’t as easy as that, I’ve dealt with many many cases of DV which have been at all different stages of investigation/scheduled for court where as police we have advised don’t contact the person but occasions arise where they do for whatever reason - whether it’s to reconcile, to speak about the kids, to check they’re ok after a claimed/real suicide attempt, to argue.
guess which reason is the most common after the kids? Yep, a suicidal threat. The amount of times I’ve heard “well he/she told me he/she was going to kill themselves & I wasn’t sure if he/she was lying so I couldn’t not reply/answer the calls”.
you may be frustrated by this as an onlooker & struggle to understand it but at the end of the day, you’re dealing with humans in emotionally charged situations that are often vulnerable. People even go against restraining orders THEY have requested to have contact for reasons they think are okay (usually involving children) it’s not as black & white as it’s been reported so you have no contact.
shes been left thinking the guy tried to kill himself as a direct result of her reporting him to the police. You’d have to be a heartless person to not feel that at all on your conscience & not reach out.
you also forget there a probably 1000s of messages being received about what he’s doing, what he’s posting etc it’s very difficult to shut all that off when you’re torn thinking is he really this bad mentally or is he making it up? Have I caused this? You question absolutely everything about yourself when dealing with a narcissist including your judgement & how you view situations. This is a massive example of that being put in the public eye.
you’re more than welcome to go start a Georgia Harrison thread if you please 
