Also, slightly deeper post; jokes aside.
When you are abused especially as a child.
Apart from everything in between, two main things happen when you grow up and develop.
You work hard to never be like the person who abused you OR you become the abuser.
Especially in men, boys who were abused from young ages, will develop into protectors or predators.
Paul knows all the manipulation tactics, how to try to deflect, how to keep ‘secrets’
I’ve met a fair few men who have been abused in childhood and they are either the nicest, sweetest, loving people OR they are narcissistic, controlling, abusive predators.
Even if Paul was abused, he has now become a manipulative, gas lighting predator.
Well done, Paul. Your sob story has once again come back to bite you in your paper white ass.