I once taught a deaf woman whose parents were adamant that she be able to get by as best she could in the deaf and hearing worlds. They wanted her to have a choice, if nothing else. She was taught to read and write early and encouraged to use this to communicate on a level basis with hearing people. It worked - she was an excellent student with great communication skills and a top-class mind. Before meeting her and the deaf support team where I worked, I had no idea that deaf people are much more likely to have literacy issues, especially those who use BSL exclusively. Obviously, adults can choose to communicate how they wish, but I do think it's unfair for children to be potentially denied the choice for the sake of a "community".