This is due to the fact that pissing each other off means more to them than their kids welfare at the time, it’s the same when I read true life stories in magazines where women were with an extremely violent man for 20 odd years and their kids seen it all and then woman finally gets away for good, yet within a year is seeing someone else, and I don’t agree with that when you have kids, in these situations then you should be single with your kids for a long time and get yourself and kids into counselling , I think some women just can’t be single.
I had a spine chilling moment when a woman I knew told me, with a completely straight face, that she invited her abuser round to her safe house because she was ‘lonely’. Never mind that he came close to killing her before that, had to flee for her life & she spent months in temporary accommodation under she was housed at a safe distance over 200 miles away. She chose to have his child after he had beaten her & had coercive sex with her (yes, it is rape but she couldn’t hear that). She brought him right back into the heart of the family.
The thought that she might sit with her ‘difficult’ feelings, thank her lucky stars that she, & her two small children, were free to have a safe life & make new friends counted for nothing. Alas, she then went on to have another child with a different man who after a while beat her up. More police intervention, more social services involvement, another safe house & a huge amount of upset for three small children.
I now understand what Erin Pizzey meant when she stated that some women are equal partners in the abusive relationship. The tragedy is that children are brought up in this dysfunctional family dynamic.
What it is about having a child within a few months of a new relationship? Sealing the deal?
Is having a child so soon a form of commitment rather than a marriage as a statement & rite of passage?
Why when a woman barely knows the man does she make a commitment to him, by having a child, in no time at all?
I’m a card carrying social liberal, but life has shown me that I have grew up with rose tinted spex on & I find myself less tolerant as I see for myself the plight of children subject to the vagaries of selfish parenting & short term choices taken.
To get back on topic ... I give you Katie & Kerry.
the new relationship is security, it is a form of protection against a man who they often fear will kill them
This is the bit I struggled to get. She told me that she thought the new guy would be a good provider - as is her father -but she made that decision based on the flimsiest of evidence, mostly what he told her. That she should wait to get to know him better before bringing him into the home & meeting her children, let alone shag him, just did not register.
Back on topic - do some celebs & their quick-fire baby making set an example for others to follow or do they reflect society’s values in general?
Max Mosley has died and the DM’s breaking news banner is quite an intro to his life. Don’t think he really wanted to be remembered that way!
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The article states that ‘
He took the Sunday newspaper to court in 2008 and won a landmark privacy case having successfully sued the News of the World for claiming his five-hour bottom-spanking, whipping and fantasy session’.
Five hours?! Good God, his arse must have been sore!
According to Tom Bowers speaking on LBC this morning, Mosley paid five prostitutes to Nazi uniforms & speak German during the orgy.