Like how can it be bullying if you have to go so far out of your way to FIND THE INFORMATION? Influencers would literally have to sit down and search for it? Just don’t.
Sarah's Day #23 I'm such a loser, just like you guys!
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A good new follow after the loss of celeb spell check! They’re not Sarah’s day fans
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SPOT ON. As someone who was raised by NPD mother, Fox is behaving as expected. Recognized lots of patterns from my childhood. Narcissists are the worst poison of society.
The latest Insta story about skin care/facial, I swear it looks like she’s had some of filler
I seriously can't shut up about Sarah's narcissism, I think the term has been so overused that when people who actually have been victims of narcissistic abuse start talking about how horrible and traumatic is, most people think we are just being sensitives, softies, and butthurt. I seriously wish Sarah and Kurt can't have any more kids ( I don't care the judgment of all of you here about this thought) and that Kurt finds someone else, and removes Fox from this cesspool of toxicity Sarah is brewing for him.
Absolutely spot onI have to say, I really felt terrible that she's having such a hard time. Watching her meltdown was difficult, especially because her whole accent is "I'm not the favourite one". That's got to be really hard, especially because she has turned mummyhood into a performance sport. She wants to "win" at it, rather than just roll with the punches. Her perfectionism is killing her already. Even just the last few meltdowns (I'm 100% sure there are more that don't get documented -- thank god!) she's spoken about seem to be coming from the same place -- not being able to control situations and outcomes, wanting to be perfect.
She needs to wake the duck up before she has a complete breakdown.
BUT, that said. I really also can no longer just give her the benefit of the doubt and I find myself being sitngy with my empathy because she is notorious for throwing these emotional vlogs at her audience right when she is getting a whole lot of flak, or when things are going up in smoke at work. Both of which are happening right now.
There's a lot of very basic things she can do to help herself. Day care will help both her and Focks catch a break, it will give him some much needed company of humans his age, and her time to have a life outside of being a mum and running these businesses. She can actually tune down her hustle and make time to take him to classes and socialise him a bit, and use that as a way to meet other women her age with children. She sounds SO lonely. She can just chill the duck out and stop trying to have it all and be perfect at everything. It is humanly not possible and her need for validation is so ridiculous, its dangerous.
I'm a therapist in training, and ealry childhood is one of my core areas and its very, very clear to me that what Focks is going through is more than just a 2-year regression. I see severe attachment/abandonment issues. And no, being a stay at home mum is not the answer. It's not about the quantity of time you're around, but the quality of time that you're actually around securing his sense of safety. It's probably better if she can ease him into some healthy, safe boundaried spaces where they do separate things, and then be fully present when she is aorund him.
She'd do well to notice why Kurt is the favourite. Kids aren't random like that. Maybe he makes him feel more secure. I would even go so far as to say the speech delays are a result of these issues.
She's got to get over herself and stop looking at Focks as content or this exceptionally special child that she can hold up like a bleeping trophy. Being a mum isn't a sport. She makes this so hard for herself. It's heartbreaking but frustrating to watch.
Also. I can no longer tell if her lips do this because of the filler, or vice versa. That cocked up side is also where the filler seems to be spilling out. UGH, what a mess. And there's a bunch of nutso's in her comments telling her these look so nAcHUraL
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It's not even the real celeb spell check
the real one has 162k followers still and the celeb spellcheck they shared has 2 underscores
BRUH I love how they have already self diagnosed Focks as lactose intolerant - he probs was a bit sun burnt and then drank some cows milk and they were like 'OH MY GOD HES NEVER HAVING THAT STUFF AGAIN' 'i guess hes never having lactose again! or gulten or sugar or wheat or water. Like oh brother I feel so sorry for this kid! Give the damn kid a happy meal!!!
It would actually make sense to broaden the app’s content and add workouts. It’d also make sense as to why they called it a stupid name like Sunnee when as far as I know, that word has nothing to do with cooking or recipes. Hanna Oberg has an app with predominantly workout content, but also has meals etc and her attitude to eating and working out it so so so much healthier than Sarah’s. I had to note the difference because sometimes all influencers seem to be heading in the same direction but Sarah is stepping into a dangerous category all on her own.I'm thinking maybe she's talking about a third ebook to gauge interest so she can transition fitness related content into Sunee. She must know by now no one is interested in her slop recipes but could possibly get more subscribers with workouts instead. I mean aren't fitness ebooks redundant now there are so many great fitness apps? I always felt she didn't go down that route in the first place because the competition is fierce but might be the only way to salvage the Sunee sinking ship
Ok this is interesting. Other than being Australians what do these two have in common? I’d say Jess is far more “Christian” than the seasonal one Sarah is. I wonder if Sarah is just trying to win some more wholesome followers by getting some recognition from Jess. Also, can’t Sez just wish her a safe flight instead of having zero communication skills and only using emojis
Anyway, OT, carry on.
Sorry, but who is Jess?
do you really think she's a narcissist? she does seem to be able to have some empathy. don't get me wrong I think she is awful and self obsessed but what makes you think she's a narcissist? really interested
Sarah's narcissism and the GOOD PARENT NARRATIVE
I found this really interesting article about parenting and narcissism, this is the link : http://humanmagnetsyndrome.com/hmsblog/narcissists-need-to-have-children/ , however I will just highlight the parts that stood out about why Sarah insists in being a mom when in reality she is horrible at being a mom, she is at best a really mediocre one, all of this makes so much sense :
" Narcissists Need To Have Children: The Good-Parent Narrative
Like everything else in their lives, pathological narcissists need to be parents so they can feel good/better about themselves. Despite their public proclamations, everything is always about, for and because of themselves, and never the child. Having a child allows them to fictionally repackage their life in which their buried core shame is replaced with candy-coated feel-good illusions. These manifest as a “good-parent narrative” that is built upon distorted and often false facts, and a story that recasts them into a victim-turned-hero. These narratives allow them to experience superficial and repeated transient occurrences of the affirmation and validation that has been absent from their life, especially during their childhood. Such a contrived situation puts extra distance between them and their shameful feelings of being fundamentally inadequate or broken.
GOOD-PARENT NARRATIVES
God . . . Giver of Life
The narcissist adopts a God-like persona, reinforced by their holier-than-thou and sanctified “creator of the child’s life” storyline. Their head is in the clouds as they float in their grandiosity and entitlement about the miracle of life they produced. This reinforces their constant need for the child and others to exalt them as a God-like figure.
Let Me Show You My Perfection
This parent’s narcissism is so severe they aren’t conscious of their core shame. Like most people with NPD, they keep the focus on themselves, while downplaying the contributions of others. This situation is used by the “professional parent,” who does almost everything while making sure everyone knows it. They are a natural at marketing and publicizing their perfect parenting. The child is the lead actor in their meticulously written, feel-good script. The lonely and neglected child behind the scenes is never seen.
Someone Finally Needs Me!
Pathological narcissists who are conscious of their very low self-esteem and loneliness daydream about the happiness a child will bring them. Unconsciously, they become reliant on the child’s dependency on them. Every sacrifice or good deed reminds them of their self-worth. Like drug addicts, they crave the opportunity to coddle and care for the child as it fills them with feelings of existential worth, hope, and contentment. Being recognized as the perfect parent is the primary motivation for their kindness, affection, and nurturing. When the child attempts to individuate from the parent, the house of cards comes tumbling down—that is when the narcissists’ core shame re-emerges. This is also the type of narrative that is responsible for the extremely toxic nature of an overly enmeshed parent-child relationship.
My Child Will Make Me Immortal!
The severely narcissistic and potentially sociopathic parent is more emotionally invested in their bloodline and the child’s role in carrying it forward than in the child themselves. The child is the golden ticket who will legitimize their life, assuring them of their imagined legacy. The fact the child will outlive them provides hope that the world will never forget them and their fictional contributions.
Unfortunately for the child of a pathologically narcissistic parent, a future fraught with constant approval-seeking and narcissistic injury-dodging will be a tough road to travel. With courage, determination, and the help of a psychotherapist with trauma background, the outlook can become brighter and more imbued with self-love abundance – the codependency cure™."
By Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed, LCPC, CADC
Sez: cries about toddler liking dad more
Also sez: proceeds to film Easter egg hunt while dad actually interacts and enjoys it with him, and refuses to take a bite (or even pretend to take a bite) of chocolate when son offers to her to eat.
Also sez: proceeds to film Easter egg hunt while dad actually interacts and enjoys it with him, and refuses to take a bite (or even pretend to take a bite) of chocolate when son offers to her to eat.
That’s disturbing
Hopped over to the SD Unfiltered Reddit page today after an age, and man there are folks out there jumping through all kinds of hoops to defend her. The blindness is baffling. Of course they're also discuss (and dissing) these tattle threads. Some of those redditors are only there to counter the criticism.
I did this yesterday too! I found it quite funny but also a bit sad. One recent trend is on anti-vax and how people can't say she is if they have no hard evidence
Those particular stans are the worst because they see everything that's on Reddit, as well as everything we call out on here, and still find a way to justify Sarah's actions. They see it and don't care. Nothing will dissuade them from worshipping their queen.
Also, talk about hypocrasy. It's ok for them to hate-read this forum and complain about it on Reddit but if we hate-watch Sarah and talk about it here we're haters and need to get a life
No body can tell me she doesn't get botox! Lmfao its sunny AF and her eyes are squinting but the rest of her face is frooozeeennn. Holistic "princess" my butt
On top of this Sarah hasn't done any craazyyyy scandals recently, which is kind of nice. They'd have to go pretty far back on here or on reddit to get to the Sabi and soul scandal.Those particular stans are the worst because they see everything that's on Reddit, as well as everything we call out on here, and still find a way to justify Sarah's actions. They see it and don't care. Nothing will dissuade them from worshipping their queen.
Also, talk about hypocrasy. It's ok for them to hate-read this forum and complain about it on Reddit but if we hate-watch Sarah and talk about it here we're haters and need to get a life
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