I mentioned this in another thread as a possible clue to what may have unfolded and got absolutely piled on as a victim shamer. But I'm almost certain this is what happened. It's the only explanation for no struggle or screaming being noticed.
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its boggling my mind too, i feel like guys who constantly jump to 'well not all men' are exactly the men being talked about and thats why they get so defensive and offended/ Then they jump to men kill men and cant see the common denominator in that?
They're searching military tunnels that back onto his families' old garage. Couzens was in the Territorial Army some years ago.
Like every other woman on this thread, I’ve got countless tales of inappropriateness, abuse & violation etc.
Not going to write about them because I can’t summon up the energy because like you I’m angry. One thing that’s been present throughout all the various incidents however, has been me over explaining myself. Me explaining why I did a certain thing or said something or didn’t say something. It always comes back to us to account for ourselves. As someone will always ask us why, like the responsibility lays at our door. It’s just another load we as women have to carry.
I’m tired of it.
Not going to write about them because I can’t summon up the energy because like you I’m angry. One thing that’s been present throughout all the various incidents however, has been me over explaining myself. Me explaining why I did a certain thing or said something or didn’t say something. It always comes back to us to account for ourselves. As someone will always ask us why, like the responsibility lays at our door. It’s just another load we as women have to carry.
I’m tired of it.
She’s literally lived here since 2006 presumably. To call her a foreign spouse now is dumb. Huge difference between someone who speaks little to no English and likely has no support bubble or access to services and someone who is professional and can access support services.
Could she still have been abused? Yes. Is the fact that she’s not British make a difference? No it no longer does.
I never read comments on articles anymore because of it. There are so many times when a man killing his partner warrants a mention and below the article are the inevitable comments about how women can be domestic abusers as well and a lot of the times it is a woman commenting!! It honestly beggars belief.
Chatting to my friend last night we were discussing all of the things we have had happen to us down the years and one thing that really stuck out to me was that two of my scarier incidents (someone trying to get me in a van and another following me home in the dark) were two men who were both young and physically attractive. Men I would have been interested in if they'd chatted me up on a night out. To this day, that scares me.
I think with the not all men thing - not all men are bad of course. But I can imagine a large amount of men whether intentionally or unintentionally have made women feel uncomfortable at some point. I run a lot and the sheer amount of vans who go past with men who stare or beep or shout something out is frankly a joke (especially because I’m a very red runner haha.) I don’t know what these men’s intentions are or if they think it’s a nice thing to do but it makes me so uncomfortable. It makes me think how many men do stuff like this perhaps without even realising they are doing it?
I cant fathom how his wife didn't know anything. I never ever buy that.
In all honesty I think it’s easy to say that but small things slip because they’re “normal” behaviours or you assume something is just wrong, not that they’re a literal murderer
Perhaps that is why she was released. She cooperated and provided all the details about her husband weird behaviors or hobbies. ...and now they are searching all the buildings and homes. Also they must have tracked already from the phone all the locations he spent most of his time. It is so creepy. I hope they will find answers.
News are reporting that ‘ police are refusing to comment as to whether the injuries he sustained in custody were self inflicted.’
from my point of view, he probably has 'spent' convictions on his record that weren't held against him when being vetted / gaining clearance. He's likely to have lay low the past few years gaining positive connections / reputation within the force so he'd be least suspected. The indecent exposure was maybe to see how far he could push it - if they brushed it off and didn't dismiss him then he'd know they weren't taking it as seriously as they should. He took the opportunity to likely sexually assault Sarah, and then things went too far and he hurt / strangled her (deliberately or not). Disposing of her body on his way home, his mobile shows activity at the old paintball site, so he was definitely there. His wife may have thought the alibi was to do with another case of indecent exposure, or was scared by the way he was acting when he got home.
Tragic all round, I'm 18 and don't think I've been harassed thus far (kinda sad that i'm not 100% sure whether i've blocked tit out) but men don't exactly walk round with labels so it's better to be weary than naïve i guess.
Tragic all round, I'm 18 and don't think I've been harassed thus far (kinda sad that i'm not 100% sure whether i've blocked tit out) but men don't exactly walk round with labels so it's better to be weary than naïve i guess.
I’m not talking about her now. I’m talking about the process of him seeking a foreign spouse all that time ago. Whether that was significant.
A vigil for Sarah has been declared unlawful but there is a High Court challenge being made to that decision.
www.bbc.co.uk
Sarah Everard: Court challenge over Clapham vigil ban under way
Lawyers for a Reclaim These Streets event go to the High Court after police say it would be unlawful.
www.bbc.co.uk
Quite rightly so this is an active criminal investigation they need to be very careful about what information is given to the media last thing we want is to prejudice any future proceedings.
This won’t stop people going - BLM wasn’t lawful but still happenedA vigil for Sarah has been declared unlawful but there is a High Court challenge being made to that decision.
Sarah Everard: Court challenge over Clapham vigil ban under way
Lawyers for a Reclaim These Streets event go to the High Court after police say it would be unlawful.
People are angry and want to show their support!Davinia McCall's got into controversy over comments on this affair.
www.standard.co.uk
Davina McCall slammed for defending men in wake of Sarah Everard case
Davina McCall has been criticised after saying it is “dangerous” to “call out all men” amid a conversation about safety in the wake of Sarah Everard’s suspected murder.
im really sorry to hear about your experiences thats terrifying! i would say it makes me feel lucky that ive never worried about walking home but it shouldnt be a thing of luck in how you were born its honestly depressing
I certainly have my thoughts on that.
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