Sarah Everard

[Hilopicklelo]

This has really hit home as a woman. We may not know her but we are "her". We're told to follow all these rules to keep ourselves safe and look what still happens.
Heartbreaking

 

[AlanBanan]

I genuinely can’t stop thinking about this woman. I even was crying in the bath over her. A family lost a daughter, a sister, a niece, a cousin, all because some horrible disgusting man decided to take her life because his lust for power and control was too much for him to be a decent person. I hope she’s resting well in Heaven and that she didn’t suffer.

She was walking home, a little over a week ago she was alive and enjoying her life just for a morally corrupt scumbag decided to take it all from her whilst also destroying her family, boyfriends and friends lives in the process.

I hope he dies roaring.

 

[lime]

Lockdown has seriously gone to people's heads if we even need to entertain the idea of getting to the bottom of whether a Covid rule was broken in the context of a murder case.

 

[reCAPTCHA]

I thought I was being followed once- a stereotypical late night solo walk on an otherwise empty street. (pre-mobile phones!). The guy suddenly started jogging as he got closer then a split second later he shouted “This is my route home but I’m gonna run past you so you so you know I’m not following you”. I’ll never forgot how I went from blind panic when he broke into a run, to instant relief when he hollared at me and sped past!

 

[avabella]

This is so horrific and it disgusts me that people on Twitter are actually questioning the fact that she was at a friends house during lockdown!?!

 

[Moolo]

Perhaps she had a few drinks when visiting the friend? When you are drunk you’re more likely to take more risks?

Sorry but who cares?

Why are we all discussing what she was doing and not what he was doing? She could have been doing cartwheels along the street naked for all I care.

We need to stop victim blaming/shaming and discussing for hours what the person killed was doing and be much more focused on the other persons actions.

It's nothing to do with her actions and ALL to do with his.

 

[mcfeez]

People will do and say anything just to justify the men's actions. Why was she out alone, why was she walking at night, why was she there, why was she wearing this, why did she speak to him, why did she smile, why did she exist... I am heartbroken that it now appears to be a murder. I've heard and read and protested against so many horrible things like this over the past few years, I feel like I and every woman around me has second hand trauma from only what we hear, let alone what we have experienced. And the feeling of helplessness... My heart goes out to her family. No punishment would be enough.

I saw a man on twitter compare her walking home alone at around 9 at night (people are talking like it was 3 in the morning or something) to leaving a parked car with the keys in it. Comparing a woman to a car.

Instead of advising women not to do this, that or the other when out and about - lets just have a curfew for the guys instead. No men out after sundown. Should help things.

 

[Giggling Squid]

She was a friend of a friend, I’m the same age, similar lifestyle... I walk alone at night a lot. It’s hit me so hard. I just hope she didn’t suffer

 

[velvetn0mates]

i turned my back on trusting those in positions of authority when i was badly sexually assaulted in a night club (had CCTV evidence) and had a huge bite on my bottom lip and a bust nose yet a member of the force outside told me not to lead boys on in the future and sent me on my way.

God bless Sarah and her family

 

[Bitofthebubbly]

I’m so sick of hearing “not all men” and “women can do terrible things too!”. We know this, but the statistics speak for themselves, women are murdered by men disproportionately more than men are murdered by women. Both are awful of course, that goes without saying. But for once can we just focus on addressing male violence rather than trying to ignore it whilst pretending women are just as bad.

 

[Mascaragirl]

I don’t want a curfew for men I would just like it if men stopped raping and murdering women Is that too much too ask for?

 

[Hereforthegigs]

I just honestly don't get how these animals think they can get away with it. I was raped and attacked when I was 14, I'm now in my late 20s and so grateful I am alive as others haven't been so lucky. Luckily my attacker was convicted. This needs to stop, but I don't think it ever will

 

[Podcat]

Davinia McCall's got into controversy over comments on this affair.

Davina McCall slammed for defending men in wake of Sarah Everard case

Davina McCall has been criticised after saying it is “dangerous” to “call out all men” amid a conversation about safety in the wake of Sarah Everard’s suspected murder.

www.standard.co.uk

Thanks Davina for reminding us that men's feelings are always more important than women's safety.

 

[hanq2021]

So sad! I was driving home from a friends with my bf a few years ago at about midnight and I pulled up at some lights and this girl was crossing the road walking very fast looking agitated and a guy following behind. My bf made me ask her was she ok (which normally id just mind my own business) when I did she practically ran over to my car and was petrified and said the guy had been following her for about 10 mins, I told her to get in and we’d drive her home, when she got in he stopped dead on the spot stood staring at us and then turned back and walked back the way he came! Who knows what his intentions was that night but I’m so glad I helped!

 

[Burrito88]

Perhaps she had a few drinks when visiting the friend? When you are drunk you’re more likely to take more risks?

It doesn’t matter if she was drunk. She didn’t consent to being kidnapped and murdered.

 

[Hilopicklelo]

I've been catching up with this as well - it's just so awful.

It's exhausting being a woman, it really is - the news will be all filled with her actions, people will be blaming her for being out / being out at night / being at a friends and twitter was trending with notallmen last night (ffs)

I'm not quite sure how to articulate it properly but how about we work on why it's so unsafe for us to be alone anywhere at anytime of the sodding day because of men?

This poor woman

I hate the #notallmen quote. It's not brag worthy that you wouldn't murder, kidnap, assault or rape a woman.
Also it's not just those things. It's the cat calling, brushing up against women instead of walking around, leering, making comments in regards to our bodies, turning aggressive when we say no.

 

[Elsass]

This is so horrific and it disgusts me that people on Twitter are actually questioning the fact that she was at a friends house during lockdown!?!

Under the anonymity of tattle. I will say it did cross my mind when she first went missing- why was she visiting a friends house in lockdown?

I don’t mind admitting that here on tattle. We all think things privately and I’m sure I wasn’t the only one. On Twitter though? Where her family and friends and people desperately searching for her are trying to share information to find her? And does being in lockdown mean that women shouldn’t be safe in the street?! Of course not. It’s irrelevant.

 

[Mrspowell]

Anyone else struggling to think of anything else. I feel like I’ve had this huge realisation today. I’ve never even realised until now why I do the things I do. The things all women have talked about. I’m also realising all the incidents that have happened over my life since a young teen, all the near misses. That I brushed off as just life. It’s not normal and it’s not ok. And i can’t get passed it. Sarah is all of us. We’ve just been lucky.

 

[frisbeee]

Unbelievable that in 2021 the onus is still being put on women to protect themselves. She did everything we are told to do to stay safe (none of which we should have to) and this still happened. At some point the blame has to be completely removed from women and shifted to the perpetrators.

So desperately sad for Sarah and all who know her.

 

[Hilopicklelo]

If he did manage to get her into a car then I'd imagine he used his badge or uniform.
Let's be honest, if a police officer turned up and offered you a lift home so you weren't walking alone in the dark, you'd more than likely accept.

Tbh even if he wasn't in uniform etc, we should still be able to trust that a man isn't going to murder us. This is all on him. Completely.