I'm telling you now as someone raised by their grandparents for only 3 years or so, I'm 27 and to this day, it hurts.
Long story short...
I love my mum. Today she is the most important thing in my life but I will never be able to let go of the fact she left me, her own reasons of course but that doesnt help my pain. I remember it all. Other mums at the school gates, other mums at parents evening and my friends talking about thier mums, when I couldnt remember the last time I seen mine.
I was happy and safe and spoilt by my grandparents and now as an adult we have the closest relationship along with my mum. But it will never take away from those years shes missing from my memory when I felt like I wasnt good enough for her.
So add on to my feelings of such a short time of my childhood to what her children have to deal with and grow up to understand who Sallie really is....
Permanent damage. Not assed. It is what it is, kids are so susceptible and even things you might think are
duck all or they ain't really paying attention can affect them for the rest of their lives and that's just a fact. Simple as
Also would like to add, I'm a mum myself now, with everything I could of ever wished for and all my babies are girls, if I go out for the night then get up in the morning with them to give them breakfast, you can bet your ass they are asking me over breakfast where I was at bedtime. When I left them in their own home and bedrooms with their father
Safe space or naaa, a mother neglecting her babies will always have an affect.
Naaa not assed in the slightest, we all go through
tit, we can all mess around with drugs or drink too many wines when we are hurting, we can all fall into a bad dark place, the second you mentioned having by babies taken from me, that would be the end of that. Simple as. And if worst came to worst and I lost them, I would die before I didnt give my last breath to have them back, not swanning around the globe trying to find myself when all she needs is a course of anti Bs and a month off the drugs and booze. If you cant sort your self out for the babies you've gave life too then they are better off without.