No, I get it. I could make a list of all my faults (short, slightly fat, eyes too small, weird pale lashes despite dark hair etc) but I've worked really hard on self talk and getting over myself. Not saying I don't have moments where I think dark thoughts but I'm keeping away from them as best I can. I think it helps I don't live in the uk. When I make trips back there I find myself comparing myself more to those around me and getting more swept up into the competitive culture of having stuff. It's also helped me immensely to take up dance in my 30s, less focus on how I look and more on what I do and how I move and how sexuality and sensuality is not something you can buy in a bottle (or under the knife).
It really struck me reading your comment that you could try and 'fix' your 'faults' by e.g. losing weight, tinting your lashes (not sure about growing taller or making your eyes larger
) but true self-acceptance is not 'fixing' things and still being happy, and to do this you need to focus your energies not on physical solutions but other things, like you working on your self-talk and dancing. We/Sali could give you advice on making your eyes look bigger with make-up, but this is at best an intermediate, and at worst a false step to true happiness, as well as temporary - what about when you take your make-up off?
I think stereotypical magazine journalism (Sali included) is still largely stuck in the less self-enlightened version of helping you by giving you advice on 'fixing' your 'faults', and even 'helping' by telling you what these faults may be so that you know what to fix! One end of the spectrum of 'superficial fixes' is someone like Katie Price, who has had lots of things done, but still doesn't seem happy.
Maybe this is obvious to some, and I think I knew it intellectually, but these were my thoughts on reading your comment. I haven't had as much sleep as normal, so maybe it's not my best work
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Disclaimer: I'm very much not trying to disparage people changing their appearance to feel better, as it's really understandable and we are up against lots of ingrained patriarchal bullshit.