Wow, first the German, now the Catholics …
Wait, what ? Her kids range from 9 to 3. You want Anna to put Emilia up for adoption ? I’m sorry but I dislike them as much as the next person on these threads but this is an insane notion.
I completely agree. It’s not the same love, for sure, but there is love all the same.
Sorry but are you actually ok? You think these kids should be put up for adoption/foster?
.It's not just you. Between the bias/ prejudice towards Germans, Catholics, and the outlandish ideas of kids being put up for adoption, I'm beginning to wonder whether this is a genuine profile or just someone who has come here for the sole purpose of stirring things up
Had exactly the same thoughts. It’s very odd. Jonathan in disguise? But the grammar is too good!
I work with children who can't live with their parents for different reasons. Most of these parents have trouble showing their children affection and love, in most cases there is not a good bond between them. The kids have often been neglected and/or even abused.
Didn’t know that place on O’Connell street was rolling donuts, I don’t like the ones with icing and toppings and all that shite I think it’s sickeningly sweet.
This is exactly what I see. Anna, certainly, shows love through giving things, not attention or love. It's possible she doesn't know how to function differently, and I certainly think that we are not "wired" the same, and life experiences, especially in childhood, have a lasting effect on us.
I agree about Andrea. Also, Andrea is a lot less unkempt (except for the runny nose). Poor Alessia is left with ragged hair, a face which needs wiping, and with the missing tooth, she is quite distressed looking. I am not passing judgement on the poor girl, just that her parents don't seem to do anything to keep her neat and tidy. Anna used to put her in cute pig tails, why doesn't she do that any more ? I don't know when was the last time I saw Anna take Alessia in her arms for a cuddle. Alessia will probably be the most damaged (with E1 now given his outing by his dad) of all their children.
What a bizarre thing to say (twice in the same thread, no less). Up for adoption or Foster care? That would be awful for those children. Jonny is a danger unto himself, but Anna clearly loves her children, she's just oblivious to how to cope. She needs intervention and support, her mental health clearly needs attention and she needs guidance and to be away from her predatory husband, but Foster care in England isn't all hearts and rainbows.
A few people have said something like this, or that she obviously loves her children, that type of comment. Would those of you who think this care to share why you feel this way? Maybe some examples? I do try to see both the good and bad and to understand any mental health issues. I can see things that might appear as her loving her children, like all the sweets she buys or toys that are given. To me, this seems more like lazy parenting. Instead of engaging the children, or spending quality time with them, I feel like sweets, toys and electronics are given to just keep them pacified, quiet and out of their hair in the easiest way possible. She gives them compliments, which could seem loving, but her compliments to the children mostly seem to be about how cute the children look or a self compliment to the parent vs truly for the child. Like saying Emilia is smart because she's like Anna, so turning it around as a self compliment. When she's been told I love you by the children, she's answered with thank you instead of I love you, too. When she's been given hugs/kisses, she's often winced. I know children are rambunctious, but kisses are sweet even if not exactly gentle. And then there's the cold shower, showing her children naked to a huge audience, not buckling them into vehicles properly, not wiping their noses because she said if she did that it's all she'd do all day, etc.
