I could be so, so wrong.
But from everything I've read lately it seems to me that J is a compulsive liar. I suspect Anna fell for him before the cracks in his facade began to show. One way or another she became isolated from family and friends. Moved (maybe as a way to isolate her or to avoid his past catching up with him)
Anna had an Ed and so had her own mental health battles to deal with, insecurities and perhaps these might have been played upon. I don't get the feeling she was able to talk to J about it properly, even though I know people with an ED tend to hide it. However, underneath it all she wasn't feeling happy in herself, depressed and anxious.
They moved, had children, had success.
I think for J it was his way of going "look at me, I've done so well for myself. Look at my beautiful wife, my children, my house, my cars" I think this relates back to his past.
I think J steered the ship. More children, more this, more that etc.
I think Anna got lost in parenting which all too easily happens. Lost her own identity, her friends she may have gained through having children. Her struggles with the end of breastfeeding etc, her ED again.
I believe she loves children and loves the children she has but perhaps wasn't ready to deal with 4 children when her partner is probably filming, creating, editing every day. No sense of a real routine for herself so she created one. She exercises.
I think she goes to bed early to accommodate the exercise but also as a way of avoiding J where big cracks have begun to show in his facade. I don't think he is as nice as he portrays. I think he has some anger issues. I think Anna can be scared of him.
My concerns re cold showers is perhaps this was done to J in some way or it was his idea and Anna was struggling so took his lead. I think J fills her head with stuff.
I'm not sure what J gets out of giving his children cold showers. It is disturbing to me but not just due to the physical act of doling out punishment. I think perhaps there is more to it there.
I think all this with eduardo is such a shame and just not right. With J behaving how he is I think Anna doesn't see a way out with this. She has some form of stability with him. I can't imagine she feels comfortable with any of this and potentially that depression has or will resurface.
I actually kind of feel for Anna. I could be wrong in all this, I know she isn't innocent and has been complicit with things but I also think she has had her head twisted by J. I think J barrages her with his opinion, his opinion about trolls, brings it up and makes her doubt her abilities to parent properly, makes her fear doing wrong for the repercussions.
I don't know but it's all so sad and disturbing to me.
Also, I haven't watched their vlogs for a while but feel we don't see much of alessia? I also recall them saying as their kids got older they would film them less but that doesn't seem to be the case.
The relationship between E1 and E2 is so sad in terms of the favouritism. I suspect A2 will probably end up being the most unaffected by the whole thing as it may well have imploded with the older ones by the time he is older. His personality at the moment seems to be rather chill.
J's demeanour has changed so much from when I used to watch regularly. There does appear to be some strange sexual undertone to a lot of his content. It's creepy and weird. His face expressions in the tiktoks are strange and annoying to me.
They have beautiful children and I think we are all really rooting for the kids. I know I am.
Sadly, I think the only way out of their current situation is if Anna leaves J. That's the only way she might keep her kids if it comes to it. J isn't helping. If I were her I'd be livid about him broadcasting about the alcohol, about him making them look worse, about ranting and raving, and all the swearing etc. I suspect she is scared of him, depressed that he isn't who she thought he was, trapped, alone and lost and now facing issues again with SS.