Ruby Granger #18 Still no deal with Waterstones but half her food was mailed from home

[opal73]

Yeah, that’s not going to happen with most of the UK StudyTubers, I’m afraid …

Even Yoora Jung was job hunting after getting her degree (she also plans to go to medical school I believe), people in the comments were all "she's got 1M subs what's she looking for a job for?

You can do very well with Youtube but it does help to have other skills than studying when it comes down to it. You're only in school and university so many years, it helps to build experience and skills outside of that (even if it isn't necessarily full time).

The Studytube community is not what it used to be either, it's become very saturated and younger people have a greater tendency to want to watch newer studytubers just starting uni they can compare to over ones that have been making the same types of videos for 5 years like Ruby has.

 

[Marie_10]

I know that Ruby was talking about Masters not too long ago, but I wonder if she changed her mind on doing one now that she's admitted disliking going to university. Could she do a Masters from home, or are all classes back to in-person in the UK? I could only see her pursuing higher education if she can do it from home.

I personally think that she'll pull through and finish her last year, or at least I hope she does. I know what it feels like to drop out and it's not a good feeling at all.

 

[Magpie02]

I feel like something doesn't add up. According to what Ruby has shown us in her videos she got As across the board. She spent the entire summer working towards her "dissertation." And now all that work for nothing?

 

[yayadumpling]

I know that Ruby was talking about Masters not too long ago, but I wonder if she changed her mind on doing one now that she's admitted disliking going to university. Could she do a Masters from home, or are all classes back to in-person in the UK? I could only see her pursuing higher education if she can do it from home.

I personally think that she'll pull through and finish her last year, or at least I hope she does. I know what it feels like to drop out and it's not a good feeling at all.

i'm assuming the UK has open online universities where you can study from home! so she could do that...

 

[queencarmen]

I reckon she'll do masters and PHD and live at home just to prolong her academic life for as long as possible

 

[xoxoxo13]

i'm assuming the UK has open online universities where you can study from home! so she could do that...

do they have the same prestige as traditional unis though?

 

[yayadumpling]

do they have the same prestige as traditional unis though?

i'll let you answer that for yourself hahahaha (in australia no one really cares but in the uk i knowww it's a little different)

 

[extrababy]

Her views on socialising in her latest video sound really negative and unhealthy. Like of course we all need to spend time alone, and at some times the best thing is to be spending time by ourselves, but it really seems unhealthy to still 'regret' the fact that two years ago she socialised more than usual? I get it if she was socialising with toxic people who she regretted spending time with, but it seems to be more like she like deeply regrets the fact she was socialising at all?

 

[lemonlime]

i'm assuming the UK has open online universities where you can study from home! so she could do that...

I doubt she would thrive studying at open uni. She relies on constant validation and praise, I think one of the reasons she isn't enjoying uni because she is just another average jane in her course (barring her excessive busywork & study hours) and not the Gifted Child like she thought she was.

Most of these studytubers suffer from 'big fish in small pond' syndrome, they all thought they were hot tit until they went to uni and faced the fact that being head girl or star student at their old school meant duck all, unless they applied their soft skills to their new studies. Vast majority of them failed/are failing miserably at this. I've always found Eve Bennett a bit irritating and spoiled but one thing I can applaud her for is how she adjusted to Oxford and eventually managed to make the most of it. When I look at Ruby or Jade, I can't help but laugh at how much they are a shadow of their former selves. Both are narcissistic and and delusional, refusing to accept that they actually hate studying but can't let go of their online persona because the cash and the praise is just too sweet. Jade is a greenwashed MLM clown and Ruby is forever living in Neverland. I have no idea how younger fans look up to these two.

 

[Ilaariaa]

i'm assuming the UK has open online universities where you can study from home! so she could do that...

I can't see her doing that. This is someone who gave up on studying English completely because she could not do it at Oxford. She won't settle for an online uni.

Is it possible she's feeling depressed or burnt out at the moment? I have a dear friend who has always been passionate about uni and his studies (funnily enough he's also a lit student but studies classic lit) but last year after lockdown and the exam session he confided in me that he was feeling so tired and stressed he was considering taking a year off. Ultimately he didn't do it because he was only a year away from graduation.
Maybe Ruby is feeling similarly and her way to communicate that is that she doesn't like uni anymore

 

[CatCafe234]

do they have the same prestige as traditional unis though?

The Open University is well-regarded, when it was first created it was a world-leading concept and it retains a good reputation today, not least because at undergrad and postgrad level it tends to attract a lot of less typical students who are often combining their studies with careers or family life (not a student there btw, I just wanted to flag that we do have an online uni that is well-regarded). It has a good reputation for research too, but I think at that level it’s more traditional in terms of being located on a physical campus.

 

[LucyOos]

Probably been mentioned already, but did anyone else notice she talks about 'adults' in her video like she isn't one and has been for at least three years now?

Also, as an introvert, I love uni. The idea of uni not being fun or whatever because you don't like parties and introverts are not made for uni is absurd. I love every second of my freedom at uni, because I get to be an introvert now.
At school, I had to go places because school told to or my parents did or you were 'supposed' to do things, but now I get to choose if I spend all day in bed or in the library or cycle to the woods or whatever. I can take long midnight walks in the city and cook for myself and talk to whoever I want to. In my country we don't live on campus, we just live in apartments in the city and it's up to the student to figure it out, so I got to decide where I wanted to live and what I could afford etc. I I can choose to eat nothing but toast for the day without anyone telling me different. And I can tell people I don't want to see them.
To me, this freedom was a large part of growing up because I also realised; everyone is doing this, figuring out who they are and want to be and do at this stage. No one cares if you like or dislike something, because they're all on the same journey as you are.
I think this is especially liberating for an introvert.

 

[ScarletBear]

do they have the same prestige as traditional unis though?

The UK also has courses with distance learning options. My BA is in Publishing studies, and they offer an MA in Publishing via Distance Learning… I really wouldn’t be surprised if she applied there and tried to break into publishing, especially as she knows people currently doing that BA course

 

[GoinDowntown]

I don't really get what she hates about uni to be honest. She never leaves her room anyway, so what does it matter which room she makes her to-do lists in?

I thought it was strange that she said it's ok to call your parents just to know they're still there? Does she think they cease to exist when she can't physically see them? She's regressed to the mentality of a three year old.

I really hope her parents aren't enabling this behaviour.

As for the ridiculous "so long as it's not hurting anyone, why shouldn't you do what you want" argument, she clearly doesn't consider the environmental factor of taking a train twice a week and getting her parents to pick her up and drop her off at the train station, nor the costs all this travel must accrue. (Or does she have an unlimited rail pass?)

She is inconveniencing her parents and probably worrying them a lot. She's taking attention away from Martha.
And she is hurting herself. She can't settle in and feel like home because she doesn't stay long enough to find a good routine. So much wasted time travelling where she could be doing other stuff.

I don't think she's inconveniencing Blakeney to be honest, she is probably glad to get a break from Ruby and have some other friends over to watch "bad television" while Ruby is out.

But maybe if she had some more friends she could hang out with them on the weekends. No one is forcing her to go to any bloody parties (who would invite her anyway?). But, before Covid at least, why couldn't she have hosted a movie night or an afternoon tea party or even a group study session? Not every party has to involve alcohol or drugs? If she organises it herself, she can have it on her own terms with the activities that she enjoys.

Being an introvert doesn't mean you won't have any friends. Thinking you're superior to other people and not wanting to expose yourself to other viewpoints is what causes you not to have any friends. But she's lumped all the other students into the same drinking, clubbing, drug-taking, sleeping around category and refuses to have anyhing further to do with any of them. Instead she prefers to run home to mummy and daddy to play baby.

 

[LucyOos]

Being an introvert doesn't mean you won't have any friends. Thinking you're superior to other people and not wanting to expose yourself to other viewpoints is what causes you not to have any friends. But she's lumped all the other students into the same drinking, clubbing, drug-taking, sleeping around category and refuses to have anyhing further to do with any of them. Instead she prefers to run home to mummy and daddy to play baby.

This, the superiority, really irked me as well

 

[Ilaariaa]

But maybe if she had some more friends she could hang out with them on the weekends. No one is forcing her to go to any bloody parties (who would invite her anyway?). But, before Covid at least, why couldn't she have hosted a movie night or an afternoon tea party or even a group study session? Not every party has to involve alcohol or drugs? If she organises it herself, she can have it on her own terms with the activities that she enjoys.

Being an introvert doesn't mean you won't have any friends. Thinking you're superior to other people and not wanting to expose yourself to other viewpoints is what causes you not to have any friends. But she's lumped all the other students into the same drinking, clubbing, drug-taking, sleeping around category and refuses to have anyhing further to do with any of them. Instead she prefers to run home to mummy and daddy to play baby.

Exactly, omg.
I'm an introvert as well, I'm super shy, I don't drink, I don't like large gatherings of people. I still have a social life and I'm able to enjoy the social aspect of uni? I have a few uni friends I see one-on-one or in a small group, we go out for lunch or dinner, we go shopping, we go to the cinema or the park, we study together, we just hang out at each other's house and talk. I think this is normal for anyone. Even if you do enjoy drinking or clubbing or whatever it's not like you only socialize in those situations.
I think she has this very childish idea of friendship where you're best friends forever and you do everything together as a duo and no one else is allowed into your little club because everyone else is a mean bully who wears spaghetti strap tops and does cocaine. Hence why the only person she seems to want to interact with beside her parents is Blakeney, and she's so clingy and exhausting with her.

 

[July9696]

“I still want to go home EVERY DAY”

I don’t want to make fun of her for this at all. This is such an issue. She’s in her FOURTH year of uni, she’s 21 and everyday she feels like she wants to go home?!

I wonder what it is about her parents, her thoughts on independence and adulthood that has caused this codependency. I hope she realises this is a serious barrier. This is one topic I’d like to see her do a video on. Very personal so maybe she wouldn’t but wow.

 

[LitNerd]

I tried to watch her latest video and as a former student ambassador for four years and I literally cannot get through it

 

[emmer_moans]

“I still want to go home EVERY DAY”

I don’t want to make fun of her for this at all. This is such an issue. She’s in her FOURTH year of uni, she’s 21 and everyday she feels like she wants to go home?!

I wonder what it is about her parents, her thoughts on independence and adulthood that has caused this codependency. I hope she realises this is a serious barrier. This is one topic I’d like to see her do a video on. Very personal so maybe she wouldn’t but wow.

I know people from uni who had no parents to go home to, I also know most students couldn't afford to go home at all. Seriously, Ive said it before but what will she do when her parents decide to downsize or move somewhere? A lot of parents start to change their lifestyle once their kids are adults, many move to a new place to get some change of scenery, some retire, some want to get their social lives back after being Mum and Dad taxi service, etc. Some siblings get to have the older siblings' rooms because the uni going sibling no longer needs the space all year, etc. Her parents seem to like camping etc, what will Ruby do if they've gone to Scotland or somewhere, she wouldn't go stay at the half manor house alone, I imagine. Her parents need to be able to start living their social lives without pandering to adult children.

 

[Erebus]

Off topic slightly, but I never understood why these studytubers (Ruby, Jade, I think there was someone else) who have dreamt about going to Oxford since they were X years old, whose whole identity was centred around being an Oxbridge student, give up so easily on their dream after only one attempt? Is it a British thing maybe? In my country I personally know several people (including myself) who didn't get into their dream university but tried again the next year, or decided to change their profession after graduation and worked really hard to achieve it. I just don't understand how you can give up so quickly if you are privileged enough to try again and not worry about money. It's one thing that's always baffled me about Ruby