Hi, hope you're okay,
Did you get together when you were quite young? Is he maybe having thoughts about his sexuality? No offence meant x
he moved back to his mums 4 years ago.
He is very arrogant, stubborn and upfront. I’ve told him if he doesn’t wanna be with metell me and he said he’s happy. If I cheat he walks away.
I forgave him at the beginning but to be honest. It doesn’t look good for him does it?
You took the words right out of my mouthWhat a bizarre thread. If you weren't a VIP Tattler, I'd say it was all a complete wind up.
Not sure it's a great move getting involved with someone who's allegedly suicidal, even if you are desperate for a shag, would be my only comment.
yes I was 17.Hi, hope you're okay,
Did you get together when you were quite young? Is he maybe having thoughts about his sexuality? No offence meant x
Thank you.It doesn’t sound like there is a relationship at all on his part. He won’t change.
End it, be thankful for your kids and find someone that’s worth it.
I can assure you of this - he won’t take you to court or any such thing. He’s full of shit. This is him trying to intimidate you.yes I was 17.
Oh well, he’s blown up and decided to take me to family court
Yes. Dont Reply to anything he sends you but keep all of his texts or any emails or anything he sends you from this point forward.He’s nasty bit of scum.
Nail on the head! Women’s abuse charities will help so much. XXYou’re in a controlling relationship (except it’s not a relationship). But I don’t think you’ve realised yet. He’s keeping you hostage as a paid carer for his children, whilst living his own life however he likes. Speak to some women’s abuse charities, I think you’ve become very manipulated, but in a very slow and subtle way that you’re passive to the situation. I think you need some professional help to dissect and reflect objectively to the situation you find yourself in. Do not get involved with the suicidal man, he just sounds like another manipulator who wants to use you.
What a bizarre thread. If you weren't a VIP Tattler, I'd say it was all a complete wind up.
Not sure it's a great move getting involved with someone who's allegedly suicidal, even if you are desperate for a shag, would be my only comment.
I've been reading this thread with a pinch of salt and glad I'm not the only one lolYou took the words right out of my mouthjust waiting for Jeremy beadle to pop out soon! This can’t be real.
He controlled what I did. Who I spoke to etc. It’s only now I’ve realised.He has not filed any type of court proceedings over this weekend, especially without access to a solicitor, he’s full of crap. In any case what on Earth would he be requesting the court do? You don’t have a mortgage (or it seems any sort of shared finances) and he chooses not to see the children himself, and you said your children don’t like him anyway.
However do not in any circumstances send him any more text messages, especially regarding your need for sex, if things do get nasty, he would cling on to those messages as a way of smearing you in court.
I’m really struggling to understand this set-up, especially why he has manufactured this situation. I wonder if it’s all, or a mixture of the following:
-he’s a psychopath/sociopath/narcissist (and gets kicks from controlling you)
-financial reasons (maybe he earns much more than you think, so has manipulated you into thinking you have got it good)
-cultural reasons maybe? Are you in the UK, this all seems so backward?!
-he’s kept you thinking you’re in a relationship (when you’re not) to prevent any other good men/father figures being near your/‘his’ children.
-or he’s living a completely unacceptable hidden life, and this ‘family’ he has kept is just a front for something very unsavoury that he’d never want you to see (thinking illegal addiction/abuse type things).
-or finally he just checked out of your relationship years ago, and is totally spineless, and didn’t tell you, and perhaps he does in fact want a relationship with his children, just not with you, but he’s so spineless he’d rather not see his children just so he doesn’t have to tell you the truth.
Only you can work out what’s gone on here. You definitely need professional help to navigate this situation.
contact, contact for children he hasn’t seen in 18 monthsTake you to family court. For what exactly?!
This is what I’m so incredulous about.He controlled what I did. Who I spoke to etc. It’s only now I’ve realised.
sorry I’m heading bed as my head is spinning
contact, contact for children he hasn’t seen in 18 months
I think sometimes people love the idea of what someone can be, rather than the reality.Thank you. It’s not just sex I wanted to show him I love him, 12 years and first love means a lot to me. But he’s not interested so it’s absolutely fine.
Do not contact him.Thanks all for the lovely advice.
See what today brings.
Well, according to you, it's bringing the allegedly suicidal one to fuck you senseless isn't it?See what today brings.
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