Good morning,
I’ve had such a week I don’t even know where to begin so please bare with me. I’m in a relationship with someone and have been for 12 years, I love him but he just doesn’t have any desire to have sex with me. All I get told is “one day... one day.” This one day has become four years.
Anyway long story cut short, I bumped into an old friend of many years on Wednesday and he has recently split up with his wife (she’s walked out on him and he’s struggling with depression and suicidal.) his work colleagues have been there for him and he arranged for us to go for a coffee soon. He asked for my number aa he doesn’t have FB and it’s rare I see him, anyway.
one thing had led to another, the compliments the wanting to be with me.... he is now asking for sex. I struggle with a very high sex drive but I’ve told him no, I can’t. I can’t do it to my partner of 12-years, but last night I had phone sex. It was the most excitement I’ve had in a long time and my god, I feel as guilty as hell.
I told my partner at 1am and he had basically begged me to not cheat. He said something along thelines of “even though I don’t tell you often I do love you. I wouldn’t cheat on you, please don’t do anything.” Then the messages came in saying we will have sex, what we have had was incredible etc etc. But come this morning, nothing.
Will therapy help? He has admitted he has gained a little weight but what we did have was unbelieveable. I had the implant and turned into a hormonal cow. Then lockdown happened, I miss him. Just need that connection with him.
do you think counselling could help? We have children and I just want to save what we have. We’ve had problems over the years but always worked through it, he cheated on me back in 2009, i forgave him. I feel so guilty about last night but couldn’t help it, heat of the moment.
I’ve had such a week I don’t even know where to begin so please bare with me. I’m in a relationship with someone and have been for 12 years, I love him but he just doesn’t have any desire to have sex with me. All I get told is “one day... one day.” This one day has become four years.
Anyway long story cut short, I bumped into an old friend of many years on Wednesday and he has recently split up with his wife (she’s walked out on him and he’s struggling with depression and suicidal.) his work colleagues have been there for him and he arranged for us to go for a coffee soon. He asked for my number aa he doesn’t have FB and it’s rare I see him, anyway.
one thing had led to another, the compliments the wanting to be with me.... he is now asking for sex. I struggle with a very high sex drive but I’ve told him no, I can’t. I can’t do it to my partner of 12-years, but last night I had phone sex. It was the most excitement I’ve had in a long time and my god, I feel as guilty as hell.
I told my partner at 1am and he had basically begged me to not cheat. He said something along thelines of “even though I don’t tell you often I do love you. I wouldn’t cheat on you, please don’t do anything.” Then the messages came in saying we will have sex, what we have had was incredible etc etc. But come this morning, nothing.
Will therapy help? He has admitted he has gained a little weight but what we did have was unbelieveable. I had the implant and turned into a hormonal cow. Then lockdown happened, I miss him. Just need that connection with him.
do you think counselling could help? We have children and I just want to save what we have. We’ve had problems over the years but always worked through it, he cheated on me back in 2009, i forgave him. I feel so guilty about last night but couldn’t help it, heat of the moment.