The video of the kids before bed makes me feel really uncomfortable for the obvious reasons... but a couple of other things that struck me was 1. Roma clearly hadn’t had a bath. Call me OTT but my 1 year old has a bath everyday, he’s usually filthy from all the playing and eating he’s done
![Face with tears of joy :joy: 😂](https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/gh/joypixels/emoji-assets@5.0/png/64/1f602.png)
but also because it’s a nice wind down time before bed and personally I find that there is a lot of educational benefits to the kind of play kids do in the bath (counting, learning colours, singing) and there are also great benefits to improving both fine and gross motor skills during bath time.
And 2. that a 10 year old is in pyjamas and ready for bed at the same time as an 18 month old
![Flushed face :flushed: 😳](https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/gh/joypixels/emoji-assets@5.0/png/64/1f633.png)
the evening should be where she encourages Alfie to have some alone time, away from his much younger brother and sister, to enjoy his own hobbies or to do some homework. Or go for a dog walk with his dad while she puts the smaller ones to bed. Or even just play on his PlayStation, let the kid be a normal ten year old ffs. My eldest is 5 and my youngest is nearly 2 and even they don’t have the same bedtime routine and there’s less than 4 years between them … my eldest will do her reading or spellings, or play with her Barbie’s or on her iPad while I put my 1 year old in the bath/do pjs and read a book etc. in fact, she usually doesn’t even get into the shower until my youngest is in bed.
Its all so weird in the shack, like a mild version of these stories you hear in America where the parents keep their 15 kids locked up for 20 odd years and they’re completely un-socialised and behave like toddlers
![Flushed face :flushed: 😳](https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/gh/joypixels/emoji-assets@5.0/png/64/1f633.png)
![Flushed face :flushed: 😳](https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/gh/joypixels/emoji-assets@5.0/png/64/1f633.png)