To be honest, if my Son had told me to Fuck Off, Menopause or no menopause I would've kicked his arse too. Girls can be so vicious, it's probably best she stays away for now and when she comes home, some ground rules are laid down. I do think we indulge our children too much, these days they seem to have a never ending source of cash and privileges that I never got.What age was everyone when they finished? I'm really struggling with my teenager, who won't go to school, is so lazy, rude to me - her friends even tell her not to speak to me the way she does. The other day she was going out of the house with her nipples hanging out of her top, which is a bralette. I told her to put on another top. She told me to F off at which point I lost it, grabbed her back, she was out the door and pushed her up the stairs. She went into school (she'd refused to go in earlier) and they took her to A and E as she had complained of dizziness and the police were with her. I don't know wether my losing it is menopause, or just me being totally drained by her, or if I'm unstable. She's staying with a friend now. I feel so low.
Absolutely this, do the bare minimum, if the clothes aren't in the laundry basket, don't wash them. do not pick up after her, do not go in her room, it's her domain and if she wants to live in a pigsty, let her.Sorry you’re going through this. Do you have any friends or family for support?
My advice with teenagers, is pick your battles. If she wants to live in a pig sty, shut the door and let her!
My only rule with their rooms was that no food or plates or cups went in there.
Is there a teacher at school that you could get help from?
Dont give up on your daughter, she’s testing you. Let her know how much you love her and always will, you just dont like her behaviour.
And like others have said, speak to your doctor about how your feeling and see what other help you can get
I'm just grateful I can still remember what it feels like even if I'll probably never experience it again.Absolutely crying at the shagging all
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Thanks so much for the advice, really felt quite lost last week when the penny dropped was was actually happening
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At the worst it will vary your diet. We should be eating different colour veg and fruit anywayI’m seeing a nutritionist who focus on menopausal women. There’s a bunch of things involved but the main thing she recommends for hot flushes are red and purple food: berries, tomatoes, eggplant, radicchio, anything in those colours. At least 3 portions of those a day. I’m on early days still, haven’t have enough yet to start seeing results- it takes a month for that. It’s just food, no harm trying. I’m hopeful, those hot flushes are killing me, I’ll try anything.
Have you been to the docs and had your FSH levels checked?I do consider it, but the passed 2mths all I've had is a few night sweats, really sore boobs and some serious bloating.
The more serious things I was suffering have gone away, which is why I feel I can cope again. Rewind about 4/5mths though and I was a mess, but thankfully all that hasn't come back!
I’m in my 30s and I’m currently in my 3rd year of taking HRT. I basically educated myself, went with a symptom checker from the menopause society and then listed what I thought I needed.Absolutely, but finding a doctor who is willing to give it at what they perseve as a young age and in their book minor symptoms will be a mission.
My mental health right now is good, but to gear myself up for the fight and be let down I cba with.
Being a general patient now needing treatment is hard enough, and being a woman needing help is proper tough so this will be unbelievably hard and I don't know if I have the energy
It's like doctors need you at breaking point from what I've read and heard
I used to take it via tablets, as at the time it was always more convenient for me to take. I have tried the powder, but it’s not a great taste. Probably better to mix it up in a smoothie if you’re going to take it that way.What’s the best way to take spirulina ? Tablet or powder ? Iv been thinking about this for a few weeks now and did you find any other benefits from taking it ?
I agree with you. So little is known about the menopause, what to expect, what peri-menopause means, etc. You might get a leaflet off of your Doctor, but there will usually be nothing of value written upon it!Around 13 years ago I had a very bad breakdown and my nan said to me that she thought I was going’through the change’. I totally dismissed this as I thought I was too young, said the doctor would have considered this and I’d never heard of peri. Looking back she was absolutely right. They also diagnosed me with bipolar instead which is absolute tosh. The menopause has absolutely chewed me up and I’m still suffering. There really should be more help offered in this day and age. I often think of ladies suffering years ago, not talking about it or getting help. Women really do get the rough end of the stick!
I do think many older women have been conditioned into not talking about menopause and quite likely, they probably had nobody to discuss it with anyway.I bet donkey's years ago, when menopause was never spoken about at all, women must have thought they were literally going mad. Like you say, all that was ever mentioned was hot flushes. Funnily enough, I know one or two oder women who literally hate hearing about the menopause in mainstream media. I wonder if it's because they were of a 'put up and shut up' generation as their attitude is very much about not 'making a fuss' and 'just get on with it'.
Yes it’s hard to get testosterone on the NHS which is why the celebs eg. Davina McCall that talk about it get on my nerves as they’ve all used private health care.Just been to my Dr, (after 3 month wait) can’t get testosterone on the NHS apparently, asked about menopause clinic they are all booked, asked about private clinics, apparently booked up too. So no testosterone for me. Also haven’t been taking my progesterone properly so got to have an emergency scan arranged. Fuck this, I just want to cry.
I've only just seen this and I'm exactly the same! I can't cope with my boobs anymore. So many sore neck days. I had an awful time during menopause too, my personality changed so quickly. I'm a lot more stable now but I've never cried so much. Also depresses me having no clothes that fit.I've gone from a size 10/12 to a 16 and as for my boobs they a ridiculously enormous and at only small height I can't carry more weight. None of my clothes fit, it's really depressing me.
You could be talking about me it's so sad isn't it. I'm sorry you feel like this.I found myself thinking over things from years ago that I had successfully blocked out.
I did lose a lot of confidence.
I also found myself taking things too personally and going over and over in my head things people had said.
I have always suffered with anxiety so the anxiety side is not new to me but I have quite a few friends that are suffering with it for the first time in their lives due to peri and really struggling.
Us poor women and what we have to go through
None of the good ones do. All these celebrities discussing the menopause go privately, fucks me right off. I don't have an issue with them going private, I have an issue with the idea that all women have the same access when they don't. Anyway job for today is to email my MP about the appalling menopause service GPs provideYes I believe you can go and see her privately. Shame she doesn't work for free on the NHS!
Me to, I stopped running there for a few wks, my mood and insomnia went to a new level I’m back out running and my mood is changing, still have nights where insomnia is a killer but once I’m back into my regular routine and not eating a lot of crap it will get back to some form of normality for meI second this!
It's almost certainly the menopause.Hey, not sure where to start I feel iv hit a low feeling very insecure in my marriage, feeling invisible, unattractive, thinking my husband is with other people feel I’m going crazy and loosing my mind, this has just come out of the blue iv been raking my mind for clues, actions and behaviours and nothing, it’s not adding up I just have these overwhelming feelings and thoughts, so my question is, is this part of the peri menopause/menopause?? Or should I be worried that these feelings and thoughts are my gut and intuition telling me something.