I would personally wait until between 12-16 weeks, baby is soooo small at 9 weeks that there wouldn’t really be a lot to see, after 12 weeks it’s a lot clearer and more baby like! I had a dating scan at 9 weeks because I wasn’t sure on my dates, it was just a blob on the screen, so I didn’t bother with a picture. It was reassuring to see it and know there was a heartbeat though.
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I had an early scan at about 9 weeks. Couldn’t see much just looked like a jellybean but was still very special. Ive had two private scans (the other at 18 weeks for gender) because as a FTM I have found them very special, I totally understand why the NHS scans are so medical (it’s a serious medical thing after all!) but felt really spoilt at the private scan.
If your partner can’t go I’d definitely try a private scan if I were you although if you can wait a bit until you can ‘see’ more, it might be better (although any time you see your baby is special of course)
I did this at 8 weeks primarily due to a previous loss and knew I’d have to go to first NHS scan alone, friend of mine had a missed miscarriage diagnosed at dating scan so I got paranoid. Once one bad thing happens to you it feels like anything and everything will.
If you want a scan then go for it. At my scan he wasn’t moving yet and could only really see a little blobby thing with a heartbeat but I got the reassurance I needed. We also told close family and friends very early on with both pregnancies as they were the people we wanted support from if something went wrong.
I had a private scan at 8 weeks as i wanted to see the baby for the first time with my partner. We couldn’t really see much, it just looked like a blob but it was a lovely thing to do together and it put my mind at rest that things were ok. We told our parents and siblings after that scan and then told everyone else after the 12 week one. If you want to go for it
I had an early private scan this time to try and help me relax (previous losses) plus I knew my partner wouldn’t be allowed to the 12 week scan.
If you’re in a position to pay for one then do it. This is my scan from around 9 weeks.
If you’re in a position to pay for one then do it. This is my scan from around 9 weeks.
Thank you so much everyone! We have the midwife call on Thursday so will double check partners can’t come. If he can’t then we will definitely go ahead with this. I’ve previously had a loss so feel like I need him there either way! Its so nice to be able to talk to people about this! Wishing you all a healthy journey with your bumps / babies 
Definitely check whether he can come or not, I know a few people who have just presumed they can't and haven't actually asked, and then turned up and others have been with partners ect because it was allowedThank you so much everyone! We have the midwife call on Thursday so will double check partners can’t come. If he can’t then we will definitely go ahead with this. I’ve previously had a loss so feel like I need him there either way! Its so nice to be able to talk to people about this! Wishing you all a healthy journey with your bumps / babies
Major struggling with morning sickness today 
up until last night it was just nausea but now I can't keep down water 
I've had to get a line for work as I've already self certified for a week and they are not best pleased 
there's not really much point to this post other than to vent 
up until last night it was just nausea but now I can't keep down water I've had to get a line for work as I've already self certified for a week and they are not best pleased there's not really much point to this post other than to vent Sending lots of love. I am feeling awful today as wellMajor struggling with morning sickness today
Too bad if work aren’t pleased. If they’d rather you came and threw up everywhere I’m sure you could oblige....!This is my scan at 8wks, I saw a lot more than I expected to be fair!
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I’m 10+2 today. Had my booking app last week, was told partner can come to 12 week scan! We have a private scan booked for this Thursday just so we know all is ok over Xmas. Are 12 week is on the 5th jan!!
I just hit 9 weeks yesterday! I had my booking appointment today and it started to feel real a bit, counting down to my scan which is arranged for the 6th of Jan. Temped to do a private scan before then because I'm just too impatient.
I'm hoping my sickness is starting to wane. It was really bad for 3 weeks but the last 5 days have been okay. Discovered at my booking appointment I have lost 6lbs in the last 3 weeks from the nausea. I'm quite petite so I don't want to lose any more than this. Fingers crossed I'm out of the woods.
Have you all been able to bring your partners to the scans?
Would recommend ice pops sipping water ginger nuts and micro chipsSending lots of love. I am feeling awful today as well
I know it’s hard but keep eating as it can make it worse if you don’t xxx
Ahh so happy your partner can go to your scan with you! I've booked a private scan for the 27th so I will hopefully tell more family over Christmas. It is a pity I couldn't get it before but it is close enough.
My hospital only just changed their policy for partners before I got pregnant so I'm relieved mine can come to the 12 & 20 week one. Our close friends are just about to have a baby in the same hospital and the partner could only attend at 20 weeks.
Yeah it’s a real relief they can attend now. We had one at 6+4 and I was such a nervous state before hand... honestly not sure how I would have coped without the support!
How are you feeling? Any sickness?
love this post! Really resonates with me, I done up a nice nursery and bought a gorgeous expensive sleigh-style cot, with visions in my head of popping my little girl down to sleep in her beautiful cot while I potter around getting on with things, and has my now 20 month old little angel ever once slept in that beautiful expensive cot?? No she bloody hasn’t
not even once in her whole life!! she screams bloody murder if I try to get her to sleep on her own.Something I feel that all first time mums should be made aware of is that there is a strong chance that the baby will prefer to sleep with you, and that’s absolutely normal and not something to try and ‘train’ them out of - some things well worth reading up on before the baby gets here are: safe co-sleeping/safe bed-sharing (yes it can be done safely and is often a life saver for the parents who aren’t getting any sleep because baby screams as soon as they are put down to sleep on their own) normal baby sleeping patterns, 4th trimester, attachment theories, and baby-led parenting/ evolutionary parenting, these things are unfortunately not even touched on in most antenatal classes but will help you understand your babies behaviours and needs a bit better, there’s an unbelievable amount of ridiculously wrong info out there about what’s normal for a babies sleep patterns and leads some parents into doing things like forcing unrealistic routines and early night weaning
the birth and afterwards - some things I wish someone had told me - someone else mentioned it but labour pains can just be all in your bum and back - I didn’t have a single contraction across the front of my belly, just had constant crippling pain across my back for the entire time, didn’t even know when I was having a contraction as the pain was constant, I couldn’t sit down or lie down as I couldn’t bend my back, it was nothing like what I’d seen on tv with a women clutching her tummy as a contraction rips through her then stops until the next one, didn’t feel a thing in the front of my belly! (Turned got my little girl was in an awkward back to back position), don’t feel like you have to try and get through this without pain relief, the moment I had the epidural my labour actually become an amazing positive experience and I had fully bought into the idea from things like hypno birthing that my labour would only be positive and amazing if I didn’t take all the drugs
breastfeeding after the birth can give you such bad uterus contractions you will feel like you are in labour again, will make you pour with blood, but is amazing for getting your uterus back to its normal size much quicker!
just wanted to share some of my thoughts, and read through this thread to try and gear myself up to go for baby number 2!
What are your thoughts on finding out the sex? My husband always said he didn't want to know until we had a positive test and then he was like "I need to know NOW"
I'm not fussed about boy or girl, and we won't have overly gendered baby stuff but to me it will be a really big thing for bonding. It makes the whole arrival of the baby less abstract and we can start calling it he or she and then using their name before birth.
I did the sneak peek test on Saturday and apparently will find out this weekend or next Monday!
I'm not fussed about boy or girl, and we won't have overly gendered baby stuff but to me it will be a really big thing for bonding. It makes the whole arrival of the baby less abstract and we can start calling it he or she and then using their name before birth.
I did the sneak peek test on Saturday and apparently will find out this weekend or next Monday!
I wanted a surprise initially but husband wanted to know. Again, previous miscarriage influenced my decision as I wanted to picture the baby better and glad we did find out, instantly changed my outlook and I could see myself with the baby in the future way better than I could before. Annoyingly most people presume it’s so you can decide what clothes to buy which forWhat are your thoughts on finding out the sex? My husband always said he didn't want to know until we had a positive test and then he was like "I need to know NOW"
I'm not fussed about boy or girl, and we won't have overly gendered baby stuff but to me it will be a really big thing for bonding. It makes the whole arrival of the baby less abstract and we can start calling it he or she and then using their name before birth.
I did the sneak peek test on Saturday and apparently will find out this weekend or next Monday!
me it was never about (although is Convenient to not have to only buy gender neutral as many shops don’t even have a gender neutral section beyond newborn!)
We found out with all of ours. Mostly because I’m a planner and couldn’t stand not being organised and knowing. We weren’t fussed either way (and turn out getting 1 of each the first time anyway!) but like you said, we started using he and she and it really made it feel a lot more real.What are your thoughts on finding out the sex? My husband always said he didn't want to know until we had a positive test and then he was like "I need to know NOW"
I'm not fussed about boy or girl, and we won't have overly gendered baby stuff but to me it will be a really big thing for bonding. It makes the whole arrival of the baby less abstract and we can start calling it he or she and then using their name before birth.
I did the sneak peek test on Saturday and apparently will find out this weekend or next Monday!
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