My husband was amazing in fairness (still is!) but would do weird things like insist on standing there whilst I was up a ladder touching up the paint on our front door. Not offering to -do- the painting, no no, but I couldn’t be trusted to stand on the ladder, I guess just incase I forgot I was a heavily pregnant woman standing on a ladder and instead thought I was an Olympic gymnast on the balance beam and opted for some multi-somersault dismount?!?! Men are funny.Honestly, that’s valid! It would wind me up too
I’m currently like mate, we’re approx two weeks away from a planned section, could you CRACK ON because I am sweating and the sound of you playing chess with any downtime you have is going to send me into an almighty fit of rage. Add insult to injury my dog is now experiencing a phantom pregnancy, so I feel like we’re both fed up of him
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Someone (stranger basically) I am going to have a 10 pound baby based off my bump.. what is wrong with people?!??? I couldn’t even hide my annoyance at the comment.
thanks not terrified about birth at all… never mind birthing a toddler
thanks not terrified about birth at all… never mind birthing a toddler
People starting making comments about my bump and I hated it. I hate any attention drawn to myself anyway. I’m a large woman anyway so I probably did look huge but it was the only time in my entire life I just gave myself a break and decided to accept my body and not hate myself. In the end? My full term baby weighed less than 5lbs anyway and shocked everyone with how tiny he was as he was tracking as bang average the whole way through. Obviously you aren’t going to have a tiny little bee sting of a bump and birth a double digit baby but other than that, there’s duck all science to it and I won’t be persuaded otherwise.Someone (stranger basically) I am going to have a 10 pound baby based off my bump.. what is wrong with people?!??? I couldn’t even hide my annoyance at the comment.
thanks not terrified about birth at all… never mind birthing a toddler
My first was 10lb 11ozSomeone (stranger basically) I am going to have a 10 pound baby based off my bump.. what is wrong with people?!??? I couldn’t even hide my annoyance at the comment.
thanks not terrified about birth at all… never mind birthing a toddler
Luckily for me he came out via the sunroof, though I did labour with him for ages.
I wouldn’t say I was particularly massive carrying him either, just all bump. Second baby was 8lbs 11oz and looked tiny at birth compared to his big brother
So the glucose test wasn’t as disgusting as I thought it would be. Although the last couple of gulps was a bit of a struggle. However got tea and toast from the midwives afterwards and that was great! This was because I needed to get my whooping cough vaccine and I assume it’s because they didn’t want me to keel over haha.
It was nice having the midwives there during the waiting period as I was able to talk to them about everything that was in my head and I had a minor meltdown and they’ve booked me in for a reassurance next week. I think basically since I had my scare on week 6 I’m still a bit nervous. They definitely have put my on a list to check for mental health. Whoops. I did come back and have a cry at my husband as I was feeling a bit overwhelmed. But feeling better today (except my arm with my vaccine lol).
I did ask about the leg cramps and they suggested nettle tea (which I had never heard about) and also magnesium but I’ll need to double check what dosage.
It was nice having the midwives there during the waiting period as I was able to talk to them about everything that was in my head and I had a minor meltdown and they’ve booked me in for a reassurance next week. I think basically since I had my scare on week 6 I’m still a bit nervous. They definitely have put my on a list to check for mental health. Whoops. I did come back and have a cry at my husband as I was feeling a bit overwhelmed. But feeling better today (except my arm with my vaccine lol).
I did ask about the leg cramps and they suggested nettle tea (which I had never heard about) and also magnesium but I’ll need to double check what dosage.
My first was 10lbs 1 and a sunroof job too, this baby is measuring smaller (thank GOD) but I'm still just as round - looks like I have a football up my top! But I just wish people would stop commenting on women's bodies full stop, but especially when pregnant & a lot more vulnerable.
I agree, I got so many comments on how big I was with my first and all the “he’s gonna be massive when he’s born” which, well they weren’t wrong about in my case, but it’s not the point is it? It’s insensitive and used to irritate the life out of me.
Same as when people would randomly touch the bump; I’m not a tactile person (unless you’re my husband or children) so it really made me feel uncomfortable. I don’t stand for it now, I felt like a lot of things were out of my control during my first - and after a very traumatic delivery - but when I was pregnant the second time I was firm on my boundaries and will be with this one too.
I had my first bump touch from a stranger in this pregnancy at the weekend !
on Saturday we took our kids into London to see Paddington the musical (great show for kiddos but horrible idea in a heatwave) and I wore a “baby on board” badge on the train . It was a busy service and I ended up having to sit away from my husband and our kids and got chatting to the lady next to me who clocked the badge . She was very friendly and pleasant but as I got up to get off she put her hands on my stomach !!
so strange and I hate when people do it . If people ask I always say no ! But when they don’t and just go for it it’s so jarring
Baby arrived last Wednesday morning. I'll put the details behind a spoiler tag as I don't want to upset anyone (please don't read if you want a positive birth story!). We are home and doing ok, post partum hormones are just kicking my a.
So Monday night OH and I... did the deed
hoping to kick things off. All that happened was increasing back pain and cramps, so I calleed triage again as they weren't going away but also weren't regular. Movement wasn't great either so they advised to come in and have a CTG to just double check everything.
Got on the CTG and it was fine for a bit, then baby threw nice decel for ~5 minutes, cue emergency bell and me being rotated like a chicken on a spit until her heart rate settled at normal again. They advised that because she wasn't moving a huge amount on the CTG/the decel and because I was full term and with bulging waters at 3cm, they go ahead and break my waters that morning. I wasn't keen on this and asked for a few hours to walk around and do stairs/ball bouncing etc. to see if I could get them to break naturally. No dice, just lots of pelvic pain. Came back to the ward and unfortunately our place in the queue got moved back as there were two PPROM in triage who needed the delivery rooms so we decided to head home and let them call us back when they had space. Got home at 7pm, they called at 9pm (I was realllllly hoping for a decent sleep!) - still in a fair bit of discomfort at this point so I just went with it.
Headed back to the hospital and got settled in our room. Our midwife was amazing and pushed the doctor to agree to wait 2 hours after having my waters broken to start the hormone drip if the contractions didn't start on their own. They broke my waters about 12:30am which was far more comfortable than it was with my first (and the help of gas and air). I then did some walking and ball stuff in the room and decide to go for a wander about to try and get contractions started. Managed to get about 5 metres off the ward before they started.
I tried my best to labour in standing or on the ball but the pain went from 0 - 100 in about 20 minutes and I just couldn't manage it. Got checked and midwife said I was dilating quite quickly so decided against pethidine, tried to get an epidural - which tbf arrived really quickly - but unfortunately for one reason or another it just didn't work. I remember the anaesthetist coming back at least twice with a different unit but it kept faulting so I was getting absolutely no pain relief from it. My catheter also stopped draining so they suggested that I turn onto my left hand side to see if baby was sitting on my bladder (I felt like my bladder was about to burst) - then all hell broke loose. I have never felt pain like it. Contractions + full bladder + needing to push with no pain relief other than gas and air was not fun. Midwife checked again and said I was only 8cm so not to push yet but it was so hard.
At this point I was full on feral screaming which I always said I'd never do. After what felt like an age it was time to push and I just somehow got through it with my OH and gas + air (at one point I took so much in one go I definitely blacked out a bit). Eventually she was born and the relief was immense.
Unfortunately I suffered a 3C perineal tear (which was initially assessed as a 2 but the midwife spotted it) and lost 750ml of blood so again, the emergency bell was pulled, but managed to deliver the placenta without further issues so that's positive I guess?
Ended up in theatre for an hour and having the best nap of my life as my OH and baby girl also napped in our delivery room.
Wasn't exactly the route I wanted but I'm kinda... glad I did it? I just wish I hadn't torn so badly, it's really knocked me and I cry about it multiple times a day at the moment. Stupidly I feel more mentally well about the baby than I did with my first but the OASI has really really knocked me, all I can think is I'll never leave the house again, I'll never be normal again, I'll never have regular BMs again etc.
So Monday night OH and I... did the deed
hoping to kick things off. All that happened was increasing back pain and cramps, so I calleed triage again as they weren't going away but also weren't regular. Movement wasn't great either so they advised to come in and have a CTG to just double check everything.Got on the CTG and it was fine for a bit, then baby threw nice decel for ~5 minutes, cue emergency bell and me being rotated like a chicken on a spit until her heart rate settled at normal again. They advised that because she wasn't moving a huge amount on the CTG/the decel and because I was full term and with bulging waters at 3cm, they go ahead and break my waters that morning. I wasn't keen on this and asked for a few hours to walk around and do stairs/ball bouncing etc. to see if I could get them to break naturally. No dice, just lots of pelvic pain. Came back to the ward and unfortunately our place in the queue got moved back as there were two PPROM in triage who needed the delivery rooms so we decided to head home and let them call us back when they had space. Got home at 7pm, they called at 9pm (I was realllllly hoping for a decent sleep!) - still in a fair bit of discomfort at this point so I just went with it.
Headed back to the hospital and got settled in our room. Our midwife was amazing and pushed the doctor to agree to wait 2 hours after having my waters broken to start the hormone drip if the contractions didn't start on their own. They broke my waters about 12:30am which was far more comfortable than it was with my first (and the help of gas and air). I then did some walking and ball stuff in the room and decide to go for a wander about to try and get contractions started. Managed to get about 5 metres off the ward before they started.
I tried my best to labour in standing or on the ball but the pain went from 0 - 100 in about 20 minutes and I just couldn't manage it. Got checked and midwife said I was dilating quite quickly so decided against pethidine, tried to get an epidural - which tbf arrived really quickly - but unfortunately for one reason or another it just didn't work. I remember the anaesthetist coming back at least twice with a different unit but it kept faulting so I was getting absolutely no pain relief from it. My catheter also stopped draining so they suggested that I turn onto my left hand side to see if baby was sitting on my bladder (I felt like my bladder was about to burst) - then all hell broke loose. I have never felt pain like it. Contractions + full bladder + needing to push with no pain relief other than gas and air was not fun. Midwife checked again and said I was only 8cm so not to push yet but it was so hard.
At this point I was full on feral screaming which I always said I'd never do. After what felt like an age it was time to push and I just somehow got through it with my OH and gas + air (at one point I took so much in one go I definitely blacked out a bit). Eventually she was born and the relief was immense.
Unfortunately I suffered a 3C perineal tear (which was initially assessed as a 2 but the midwife spotted it) and lost 750ml of blood so again, the emergency bell was pulled, but managed to deliver the placenta without further issues so that's positive I guess?
Ended up in theatre for an hour and having the best nap of my life as my OH and baby girl also napped in our delivery room.
Wasn't exactly the route I wanted but I'm kinda... glad I did it? I just wish I hadn't torn so badly, it's really knocked me and I cry about it multiple times a day at the moment. Stupidly I feel more mentally well about the baby than I did with my first but the OASI has really really knocked me, all I can think is I'll never leave the house again, I'll never be normal again, I'll never have regular BMs again etc.
Sorry to hear about the tear. Glad baby is here and you are both now home. Wishing you a speedy and smooth recovery xxxBaby arrived last Wednesday morning. I'll put the details behind a spoiler tag as I don't want to upset anyone (please don't read if you want a positive birth story!). We are home and doing ok, post partum hormones are just kicking my a.
So Monday night OH and I... did the deed
Got on the CTG and it was fine for a bit, then baby threw nice decel for ~5 minutes, cue emergency bell and me being rotated like a chicken on a spit until her heart rate settled at normal again. They advised that because she wasn't moving a huge amount on the CTG/the decel and because I was full term and with bulging waters at 3cm, they go ahead and break my waters that morning. I wasn't keen on this and asked for a few hours to walk around and do stairs/ball bouncing etc. to see if I could get them to break naturally. No dice, just lots of pelvic pain. Came back to the ward and unfortunately our place in the queue got moved back as there were two PPROM in triage who needed the delivery rooms so we decided to head home and let them call us back when they had space. Got home at 7pm, they called at 9pm (I was realllllly hoping for a decent sleep!) - still in a fair bit of discomfort at this point so I just went with it.
Headed back to the hospital and got settled in our room. Our midwife was amazing and pushed the doctor to agree to wait 2 hours after having my waters broken to start the hormone drip if the contractions didn't start on their own. They broke my waters about 12:30am which was far more comfortable than it was with my first (and the help of gas and air). I then did some walking and ball stuff in the room and decide to go for a wander about to try and get contractions started. Managed to get about 5 metres off the ward before they started.
I tried my best to labour in standing or on the ball but the pain went from 0 - 100 in about 20 minutes and I just couldn't manage it. Got checked and midwife said I was dilating quite quickly so decided against pethidine, tried to get an epidural - which tbf arrived really quickly - but unfortunately for one reason or another it just didn't work. I remember the anaesthetist coming back at least twice with a different unit but it kept faulting so I was getting absolutely no pain relief from it. My catheter also stopped draining so they suggested that I turn onto my left hand side to see if baby was sitting on my bladder (I felt like my bladder was about to burst) - then all hell broke loose. I have never felt pain like it. Contractions + full bladder + needing to push with no pain relief other than gas and air was not fun. Midwife checked again and said I was only 8cm so not to push yet but it was so hard.
At this point I was full on feral screaming which I always said I'd never do. After what felt like an age it was time to push and I just somehow got through it with my OH and gas + air (at one point I took so much in one go I definitely blacked out a bit). Eventually she was born and the relief was immense.
Unfortunately I suffered a 3C perineal tear (which was initially assessed as a 2 but the midwife spotted it) and lost 750ml of blood so again, the emergency bell was pulled, but managed to deliver the placenta without further issues so that's positive I guess?
Ended up in theatre for an hour and having the best nap of my life as my OH and baby girl also napped in our delivery room.
Wasn't exactly the route I wanted but I'm kinda... glad I did it? I just wish I hadn't torn so badly, it's really knocked me and I cry about it multiple times a day at the moment. Stupidly I feel more mentally well about the baby than I did with my first but the OASI has really really knocked me, all I can think is I'll never leave the house again, I'll never be normal again, I'll never have regular BMs again etc.
Collected my first batch of colostrum this evening. It was only 0.9ml but I am so proud of myself - it was time consuming and had to watch multiple you tube videos. But feeling good!
I had booked the NHS breast feeding class but it was cancelled and when I asked to get booked into another they said all the classes are full until my due date. Which is really disappointing when I mentioned this, the advice was booking a private breast feeding class… which annoyed tbh.
Any tips? I have labelled and popped in a zip lock bag in the freezer x
I had booked the NHS breast feeding class but it was cancelled and when I asked to get booked into another they said all the classes are full until my due date. Which is really disappointing when I mentioned this, the advice was booking a private breast feeding class… which annoyed tbh.
Any tips? I have labelled and popped in a zip lock bag in the freezer x
Got my BFP this morning!
Can’t wait to tell husbs this evening.
so weird as we are so excited to expand our family but why do I now feel terribly guilty looking at my nearly one year old? I’m sure it’ll be hard but everyone I know who has close age gaps has such good relationships with their siblings.
two under two club pending!!
Can’t wait to tell husbs this evening.
so weird as we are so excited to expand our family but why do I now feel terribly guilty looking at my nearly one year old? I’m sure it’ll be hard but everyone I know who has close age gaps has such good relationships with their siblings.
two under two club pending!!
Is anyone else suffering with heightened anxiety ?
I’m anxious as a person anyway but I feel like I’m worrying so much about things I wouldn’t worry about previously … like work situations and stupid little things
I’ve been wfh solidly for the last 3 weeks as our office has been closed due to the heat and I think maybe it’s a bit of cabin fever + the heat but it’s so draining
Just feel like I want to cry all the time
I’m anxious as a person anyway but I feel like I’m worrying so much about things I wouldn’t worry about previously … like work situations and stupid little things
I’ve been wfh solidly for the last 3 weeks as our office has been closed due to the heat and I think maybe it’s a bit of cabin fever + the heat but it’s so draining
Just feel like I want to cry all the time
I have GAD and aspects of my anxiety got worse in pregnancy. My first trimester was hard (previous loss) so I did talking therapies. I also got so anxious about going to the office as I didn’t want any unwanted comments and if I lost the baby again I’d have to face everyone so I put up a big avoidant wall and didn’t go in.Is anyone else suffering with heightened anxiety ?
I’m anxious as a person anyway but I feel like I’m worrying so much about things I wouldn’t worry about previously … like work situations and stupid little things
I’ve been wfh solidly for the last 3 weeks as our office has been closed due to the heat and I think maybe it’s a bit of cabin fever + the heat but it’s so draining
Just feel like I want to cry all the time
Many Co workers were shocked when I went on May leave
You’re not alone x
Yes and it’s very weird for me as I am not an anxious person normally. Like I’m usually fairly breezy through life in a “oh everything will be fine” type of way.Is anyone else suffering with heightened anxiety ?
I’m anxious as a person anyway but I feel like I’m worrying so much about things I wouldn’t worry about previously … like work situations and stupid little things
I’ve been wfh solidly for the last 3 weeks as our office has been closed due to the heat and I think maybe it’s a bit of cabin fever + the heat but it’s so draining
Just feel like I want to cry all the time
I’m really disliking it and had a bit of wobble when I was last at the midwife as I was like “I assume I am still pregnant” and she was a bit like why would you think you’re not. No reason just I’ve stopped throwing up and the movements haven’t started so who knows
In the end they booked me in for an extra appointment to try and allay my fears and worries a bit and told me I can come in for the Doppler whenever I want.
So I totally get where you’re coming from and it’s not a nice feeling. I think you’re right about being cooped up, hopefully your weather will get a bit cooler and you can get out and about a bit more.
Yes to the anxiety 100%! I feel like a whole new person. I genuinely think (and this will sound dramatic) that the first trimester scarred me from how sick and awful I felt and everyone around you is just excited whilst you feel like hot steaming pile of rit. I remember thinking I couldn’t do it and considered the A word (so glad I didn’t, i’m very excited and he was very much planned!) - you just don’t expect it to knock you mentally as much as it did.
This next bit is going to be long, so apologies!
I also had an appointment with an OBGYN today who basically spent the entire appointment dissuading me from having a planned c-section because the fear of having thrombosed piles (which I’ve had in pregnancy) was not a “medically appropriate choice”. She made me feel like i’d be really selfish for choosing to have a section and now I just don’t know what to do and have to decide by next week
I’m massively afraid of being nauseous and throwing up and feel like it’s part and parcel of a vaginal birth. She said she was happy for me to have an elective induction at 39 weeks so I get some aspect of “control” (I have OCD which makes me a bit of a nightmare and now live about 1.5 hours away from the hospital). I just don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be selfish and have a non-medically necessary c-section because i’m afraid of haemorrhoids again, plus I have no idea what recovering from a c-section feels like as it’s my first rodeo, but similarly l’m afraid of all the unknowns and the vomiting of a vaginal birth. She did say there was antisickness meds they could give me, but they did sweet f all in the first trimester and i’ve lost all confidence in my body and in medicine. Sorry for the ramble, it’s hard to get others to “get it”.
This next bit is going to be long, so apologies!
I also had an appointment with an OBGYN today who basically spent the entire appointment dissuading me from having a planned c-section because the fear of having thrombosed piles (which I’ve had in pregnancy) was not a “medically appropriate choice”. She made me feel like i’d be really selfish for choosing to have a section and now I just don’t know what to do and have to decide by next week
I’m massively afraid of being nauseous and throwing up and feel like it’s part and parcel of a vaginal birth. She said she was happy for me to have an elective induction at 39 weeks so I get some aspect of “control” (I have OCD which makes me a bit of a nightmare and now live about 1.5 hours away from the hospital). I just don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be selfish and have a non-medically necessary c-section because i’m afraid of haemorrhoids again, plus I have no idea what recovering from a c-section feels like as it’s my first rodeo, but similarly l’m afraid of all the unknowns and the vomiting of a vaginal birth. She did say there was antisickness meds they could give me, but they did sweet f all in the first trimester and i’ve lost all confidence in my body and in medicine. Sorry for the ramble, it’s hard to get others to “get it”.
So I ended up with an emergency section with BabyA (the recovery after the first week was fine by the way - just keep up with your pain relief and paracetamol and ibuprofen do just fine, don’t need the stronger stuff!) but I didn’t have any sickness during labour. The one time I did feel awful and sick (I wasn’t sick but a few of my friends were!) was after my section despite being pumped full of anti sickness. You can request on your birth plan that they administer anti sickness preventatively too, I am emetophobic and asked for this, it was on the front page of my notes
not to scare you about a section but that was just my experience!I threw up after my first in theatre (episiotomy, forceps delivery) but I'd been awake for over 40 hours, the pitocin made me feel sick anyway and I wasn't allowed to eat anything. With my second I didn't throw up or feel sick at all.
I’m only 8 weeks but my god I feel like I am dying. My first trimester with my first child was a breeze and now I am questioning all my life decisions. Just want to lie in a dark room with no responsibilities but unfortunately that’s not possible Wish my child would get comfy to watch a movie but we’re not there yet!
Wish my child would get comfy to watch a movie but we’re not there yet!