Pregnancy #62

[101d]

Yep, I have this in SE England. It’s great!

I'm also SE and I don't have this! Mine is on a Wellbeing PHR

 

[Spencerskates]

The brown turned to bright red so I’ve called the unit and they’ve said I can come up to be checked out.

Really can’t catch a break this pregnancy

Thought after being released from fetal medicine that I could finally relax now

sending lots of love! Hope you get seen quickly and get some reassurance. Update up when you can, we’ll be thinking of you.

 

[Shinythings]

Do they warn you before they look at the genitals? I don't want to accidentally find out that way.

 

[hazmaz]

Wondering if someone can advise
I thought I was struggling with morning sickness as we’ve been on holiday for the last week and I have been feeling sooooo nauseous, last night I was actually sick but I have basically the runs too - Google is telling me that morning sickness doesn’t generally include the runs too so I am on the fence as to whether it could be a bug or not

 

[Chocolatelover333]

Has anyone been to the baby show before? If yes do you know if m&p offer a discount on their prams? (Not as a bundle) x

 

[Charlotte1007]

Have been prescribed Xonvea but concerned about side effects.

Anybody else on Xonvea?

they started me on this in my first trimester, don’t remember any side effects but tbh it only worked for around a week, I was up to the highest dose and still vomiting all day everyday, hope you have more luck odanastron was the only thing to help me but they don’t like to prescribe until second trimester. X

 

[nolongerlurking]

Anyone who has a physically demanding job, when are you going on mat leave? I work for the NHS and do 13 hour long shifts, but I’m considering working up until 37 weeks and taking annual leave until 39 then starting mat leave but I’m worried I won’t last that long I just can’t afford to take a year off so want as much time afterwards as possible

 

[Greencatfysh]

Thanks everyone for the wisdom 🩷

 

[Spencerskates]

I'm 14 weeks with my first baby and dying to know if it's a girl or boy. What's people's options on early gender scans ?

Depending on how early, they’re not always super accurate! Ours was right at 16+3, although I’ve heard that a boy is a boy, but girls can sometimes be misjudged early. Private scans tend to be slightly less detailed than the NHS ones too.

Have you looked at skull theory on your 12 week scan if you had a clear picture? There’ll be people online that explain it better than me but the general theory is that boys have stronger, squarer jaws and foreheads, and girls are much more rounded. Ours was really obvious but it’s not always clear!

 

[Greencatfysh]

Ahh I know. Thanks. It’s just getting so boring being pregnant now and thought this was something I could be doing to prepare!

 

[WeHadFunRight]

This is probably a stupid question but are the pads that are labelled as "for postnatal incontinence" also suitable for bleeding? Or do I need thicker ones for dealing with the blood? For some reason postnatal pads is what my mind is choosing to overthink today

So, basically postnatal incontinence is when your pelvic floor is weakened (terminology?) during pregnancy and childbirth and you find you have some leaks (especially coughing/sneezing/jumping) - so many women struggle for a while after having a baby but they’re not the same as the maternity pads which are much more absorbent as the volume of lochia at first can be a lot. You need these for the first few weeks and then if you find you have a weakened pelvic floor and are leaking urine you’ll want some tena or equivalent xx

 

[Bec_123]

You got your booking appointment super quick! I wouldn’t worry too much, they can figure it out and will base it on what detail you can remember. In my trust you wouldn’t get an early scan unless you have any other additional risk factors. You could always book a private scan in a few weeks to give yourself some reassurance?

Thank you, based on previous experience, my trust is the same too when it comes to early scans. Think I was just having a bit of a wobble last night x

 

[sarapal23]

Has anyone else had their screening results uploaded to badger? I got the screening at my 12 week scan and am almost 16 weeks and still have no news on the results! Assuming that’s a good thing but when I asked the question through badger I was told that it’s the antenatal midwife’s job and they will probably upload them… no letter either! So frustrating

 

[Bingobango]

Saw my mum yesterday and we were talking about who I wanted around when I give birth. I told her I was happy for visitors but no kissing baby and she looked stunned and then in a really moody voice said she'll maybe just on the top of the head and when I said no she said well you'll have to remind me or the emotions will just take over and I won't help myself. Had a feeling she would be like this. MIL was instantly like whatever makes you guys comfortable
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I think it could be okay?

I wouldn’t let my partner go away that late personally but we also have a toddler already so for me it mostly just sounds tiring parenting alone

I'm a bit more of silent follower on here but have been thinking about you. Glad to here your home.

 

[Shinythings]

I do wonder how many times a twin is missed at an early scan.

 

[Super_Berry]

Told my mum one of our baby names today after she’s begged for months and recommended loads of obscure, rare and old fashioned horrible names. She’s been saying for ages how ‘she wants to get the baby’s name right’ and she’s ’been researching’.. without us asking her or wanting her to mind you. Straight away she was rude and dismissive of it (we said a nice normal fairly common name everyone in here will have heard of that suits a baby at all life stages). Back to not telling a soul it is

I'm sorry to hear this. My dad was trying to ask me about our names this weekend but I wouldn't say. I honestly can just see him coming over for weeks after our baby is born and saying this like, are you sure about this name? What.abour this name instead etc?

 

[PoppyKJ]

Does anyone know if I happen to go overdue with my baby, can I request a c-section instead of being induced?

I plan to ask my midwife at my next appointment as my preference would be to have a c-section date booked in if I’ve not gone into spontaneous labour. But I just want to know if anyone knows if that’s possible and when I’d be able to request it?

I hope that makes sense!

Mine is a bit different, but I have been told for medical reasons they want to induce at 39 weeks. I’ve said book me in for a section - if I go naturally then I’ll go with it, but I don’t want an induction and that’s all in my notes. They’ve booked me for a pre op at 38 weeks, so just see what happens!

 

[Shinythings]

We had a scan at 16 weeks and the sonographer said he was 100% sure of the sex. Had our 20 week nhs scan last week and the sonographer said she thinks she knows what the gender is. Put the emoji on to cover what they think gender is lol

Any thoughts?

Girl.

 

[Greencatfysh]

My back has started spasming on the lower left side and omg it’s the worst pain ever phoned triage to make sure everything sounded normal and they were just like ‘let the paracetamol kick in and ride it out basically’. I almost cried haha at least everything sounds okay with baby but my god I take back everything I said about the third trimester going well I refuse to deal with back pain for 8 more weeks

Bless you, I had this and had to go into triage. I could hardly walk. They gave me strong painkillers so don’t put up with it if you’re in too much pain!

 

[Jaybob]

Had my baby shower today and my mum organised it and she honestly gave 100% to it, decorated beautifully, just fabulous and couldn’t be more grateful for her and the effort she made!

But many people I thought would come didn’t (some family and friends), and the guests that did come didn’t talk to me much including my own nan or come to just to see me, just an excuse for a drink. Made me question whether people even like me, it felt like lonely in a room full of people situation.

I’m trying not to be upset or think of the day negatively as my mum and others put so much effort in to make it amazing for me.
Just needed to rant really without feeling bad about it

That's really weird! I'm sorry that happened to you. Did everyone know you are pregnant? Or was the whole thing a big shock? I have a cousin who has ignored me since my kid was born as they can't cope. Maybe your guests were uncomfortable about "talking baby stuff" with you? So didn't know what to say? Maybe you should ask someone you trust if you were being ignored, or is it just your expectations and hormones? Was everyone quieter than normal?