Honestly don’t even know where to begin with this one. I’m supposed to be having two baby showers, one with my boyfriend’s family and one with mine. My parents aren’t in my life (my dad is in another country, don’t get on with my mum - and she doesn’t speak to the rest of my family). My family (uncles, cousins etc) have naturally drifted apart over the years. We don’t do anything unless obligated, such as Xmas or visiting relatives graves - nor do we talk much outside of this. We do have a family group chat with no one speaks in anymore, and I did try to update them such as letting them know we are having a boy, or that I have a scan. I’ve only got thumbs up reacts back, no one bothers to actually reply. That’s fine, I’m not losing sleep over it. There’s no animosity, they just don’t really care about my life and I’m not that fussed about theirs. But with all that in mind, I don’t care to do a baby shower as they’re not people who have asked about my pregnancy, cared to reply to updates I have give so I don’t need to celebrate with them. It’s time, money and effort I don’t feel like is needed.
I’ve told my auntie this now that I’m not planning to and her reply is that I’m selfish for not holding a gathering for the family and that’s it NOT actually about me, it’s for the family to get together. She says it’s not anyone’s job to ask me about the pregnancy, it’s my responsibility to update people as they’re all busy. She says I’m getting the thumbs up reacts to my messages so what more do I want, and she’s going to throw one regardless as clearly “I just want love, and I’m lonely”. Bare in mind this auntie has been my mum figure most of my life, she actually has the audacity to say “Well I don’t ask you either, no one needs to” so it turns out she doesn’t actually ask on purpose lol I’ve been making excuses for her and how busy she must be. She’s told my sister that she’ll be proceeding with one regardless, she doesn’t care who comes and that I’m just moaning and secretly I’d love one.
I think she’s got a lot of tit going in in her life, she’s menopausal and getting married soon, although I don’t think her heart is in it. But duck me it’s not nice being a scapegoat for her to take it out on.
TLDR: WHY DO PEOPLE FEEL ENTITLED DURING YOUR PREGNANCY AS IF ITS THEIRS?! I swear true colours show during this time. Just take my baby as well why don’t you, as the shower is clearly yours!!!
I’ve always struggled with body image to be fair but throughout my pregnancy I’ve just been embracing it because I’m so lucky to be in this position but this morning I couldn’t find anything to wear because it’s not hot but it’s not cold but I’m sweating and I just lost my tit
my room looks like it’s been turned upside down. I think I’ve searched every website possible for new maternity clothes. Things that fit me lovely 2 weeks ago now don’t fit and my face is suddenly very round. I feel like front on my bump makes me look really wide like a whale and ughhh man it’s just so hard seeing yourself change so much in such a short space of time.
I don’t wanna sound like an awful person because I’m so grateful to be growing this little boy but god the mental side of it is tough sometimes
you’re not alone in your feelings x
your body is doing such a wonderful thing but you don’t have to love it every minute of the day! It changes so drastically in pregnancy! Just keep reminding yourself it’s not permanent and you’ll get back to feeling yourself at some point (this is currently my mantra)
