what's your husband's position on them coming around? sometimes your husband may have to be your advocate so i would definitely tell him that you don't want them around bc you need to bond with your baby and recover at the same time. your MIL should be offering to do housework while you care for your child, NOT be the one caring for your child while you do taxing work. it's absolutely gonna end up with them hogging your baby while you try and get them to leave.This is my worry. My MIL has already been giving all the reasons she needs to come round. So I can have a bath, so I can get housework done, so I have some company. I've had to say 'I need to learn to be on my own with my child' and me and your son will be absolutely fine I am sure.
Worst bit is it sounds like the in-laws is gonna come round and sit there expecting to hold a baby whilst I run around after them (they never come alone!).
My hubby is the youngest son, so I don't think she sees him as the grown up he is. And we've never been given free reign around our niece and nephew on that side so they've never seen how he is with kids (which is amazing because our niece and nephew from my side adore him and he cares so deeply for them), so they think he won't be any help. Sounds like his dad wasn't very involved in caring for a baby when he was growing up too, he recently admitted that he never changed a nappy.
I get it's exciting to have a grandchild coming into the world, gosh I was a nightmare sitting waiting for my sister to get in touch when she was pregnant with both my niece and nephew, but I am sick of people making it about their wishes and their requirements now.
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Luckily my hubby is very supportive of me and wants what I think is best for me. So when we have spoken about things he's been very understanding when I've been upset.
We've sat down and made a little list of things we both want for labour and after delivery and we are both on the same page. It's just probably not the same page as everyone else is, but at least he is there to advocate for what we want. He also said, leave the curtains shut and ignore the doorbell on the days I don't wanna see anyone
Hi all! Anyone else had really really bad insomnia with their pregnancy? I’m 12 weeks pregnant with my third and I am not sleeping well at all. In fact last night I was awake all night 
! Literally exhausted beyond belief!
! Literally exhausted beyond belief!
yeah, in my first pregnancy I had insomnia, especially in my first trimester. When I look back I have no idea how I actually functioned and dragged myself to work 5 days a week. My midwife helpfully told me that it would prepare me for sleepless nights with a new bornHi all! Anyone else had really really bad insomnia with their pregnancy? I’m 12 weeks pregnant with my third and I am not sleeping well at all. In fact last night I was awake all night
. Didn’t appreciate it!Yes! I had it in first trimester with 2nd pregnancy, was so disappointed cos my first I slept like i logHi all! Anyone else had really really bad insomnia with their pregnancy? I’m 12 weeks pregnant with my third and I am not sleeping well at all. In fact last night I was awake all night
Id put it down to being on nightshift for the first time in years though
Yeah I vaguely remember having it with my second but this feels even worse. I bloody well hope it improves soon as I’m barely functioning.yeah, in my first pregnancy I had insomnia, especially in my first trimester. When I look back I have no idea how I actually functioned and dragged myself to work 5 days a week. My midwife helpfully told me that it would prepare me for sleepless nights with a new born
I'm glad it all worked out well (and that you had a nice bath and a cuppa!)This was exactly the situation! Crossed wires. Him being tit with what he was trying to say and me being overly sensitive. We talked it out, I had a bath and a cuppa and alls right lol. I think I’m just so in my feelings cos I’m so fed up, tired and shitting myself for birth
taking things to heart and being extra sensitive is natural at this stage of pregnancy - I'm 38+1 and I have to try really hard not to react straightaway with my first thoughts when it feels like my husband is being insensitive while I wait for my rational brain to kick in haha it's tiring being so hormonal and emotional!! We can do this though 
So far this pregnancy has been the hardest out all 3. Got my 12 week scan today so I’m looking forward to finally seeing the little chimp that is causing all of my new found ailmentsYes! I had it in first trimester with 2nd pregnancy, was so disappointed cos my first I slept like i log
Id put it down to being on nightshift for the first time in years though
.It depends what sort of work environment you're in/what sort of relationship you have with your boss, but if it was me I'd arrange a meeting with my boss to discuss it first out of professional courtesy. Do you have regular line management meetings that you could discuss it in? In most professional environments, disclosing it in person during a one-to-one meeting would be preferable, but your situation may differ from that. You'll probably need to submit a formal notification in writing by your 25th week of pregnancy for HR purposes anyway, just so you're awareWhat's people's thoughts on announcing pregnancy on social media before telling your boss (who you have on social media?) and having them find out that way.
Don't always see them weekly at work nevermind daily and not really one to make a song and dance about things
So I’ve just spoken to the consultant and have turned down induction next week. She didn’t sound too happy tbh but it’s my decision. She was really short/tone changed once I explained my decision and she hung up on me really abruptly. Said she couldn’t give me a timeframe or rough date so no idea when or what to expect 
. Really hope I just go naturally before but guess we just wait and see now.
. Really hope I just go naturally before but guess we just wait and see now.
Had my 12 wee scan this morning, was amazing seeing baba. Have also been suffering with insomnia, not having trouble falling asleep but waking up in the middle of the night and then not being able to get to sleep. My fatigue seems to be generally starting to wear off now so hoping I start sleeping better soon. At least until the third trimesterSo far this pregnancy has been the hardest out all 3. Got my 12 week scan today so I’m looking forward to finally seeing the little chimp that is causing all of my new found ailments
I wish Penn Badgley would do a hypnobirthing podcast to listen to while in labour. He has a very calming voice. Just my thought of the day.
I’m personally going to hold off on any wider announcements (unsure if I’ll do one tbh) until I’ve told our managing partner and my immediate supervisor, out of courtesy really. I don’t see them that often but will schedule a meeting next week to tell them both, then tell the rest of my colleagues. I do think it runs the risk of being a little rude not telling them personally (even via email if that’s easier) before putting it on social media, and whilst they are legally obliged to allow you time off for antenatal appointments etc, keeping them on side doesn’t hurt! But equally, you know your line of work and your boss better than any of us, so only you know whether they’d be ok with it!What's people's thoughts on announcing pregnancy on social media before telling your boss (who you have on social media?) and having them find out that way.
Don't always see them weekly at work nevermind daily and not really one to make a song and dance about things
I personally would tell them if I was close enough to have them on social media but that’s just me I have about two people from work on it. I’m not one to make a song and dance about and found it a bit awkward not sure whyWhat's people's thoughts on announcing pregnancy on social media before telling your boss (who you have on social media?) and having them find out that way.
Don't always see them weekly at work nevermind daily and not really one to make a song and dance about things
but a quick phone call or email I’m sure will do. I was also quite sick at times so wanted my boss to know as I was struggling at work but then I just emailed HR and just let the rest of work find out as and when. I’m 34 weeks now and will still get a random teams message of someone who’s just found outYes, it is hideous. I often wake between 1-2 in the morning and can’t get back to sleep until about 5. Until recently, my toddler was waking at this time as well, so it was awful and it did really get me down. I’m nearly in tri3 and it’s easing now (and toddler is sleeping until a more civilised time - clocks changing helped!)Hi all! Anyone else had really really bad insomnia with their pregnancy? I’m 12 weeks pregnant with my third and I am not sleeping well at all. In fact last night I was awake all night
Don’t try and read her reaction- consultants are a bit of a funny breed. The ones I had were all monotone and didn’t show any emotion over anything. At worst she’s probably just thinking she needs to push through your request down the right avenues asap. All my consultants and MWs tried to steer me down the C-section route. I find it so weird how we all seem to kind of get the right antenatal care for someone elseSo I’ve just spoken to the consultant and have turned down induction next week. She didn’t sound too happy tbh but it’s my decision. She was really short/tone changed once I explained my decision and she hung up on me really abruptly. Said she couldn’t give me a timeframe or rough date so no idea when or what to expect
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I'm almost 6 weeks and have been taking the Pregnacare Plus supplements for the past 2 weeks since I found out I'm pregnant. Has anyone experienced these supplements (or any folic acid / iron supplements) turning their poop black? It's only been in the last week or so, feeling absolutely fine otherwise and Google is typically terrifying about this so I'm just wondering if anyone has had the same happen?
I'm almost 6 weeks and have been taking the Pregnacare Plus supplements for the past 2 weeks since I found out I'm pregnant. Has anyone experienced these supplements (or any folic acid / iron supplements) turning their poop black? It's only been in the last week or so, feeling absolutely fine otherwise and Google is typically terrifying about this so I'm just wondering if anyone has had the same happen?
Has anyone had experience with baby measuring/being big? What do they offer in terms of labour?
I’m 32 weeks and waiting on my next growth scan, but I’m terrified of the idea that I could end up two weeks overdue and have to push out a 12lbs+ baby vaginally. I mentioned this at my antenatal class and asked whether this is one of the times a caesarean might be suggested, and she was absolutely horrified at the idea and totally shot me down!
I’m 32 weeks and waiting on my next growth scan, but I’m terrified of the idea that I could end up two weeks overdue and have to push out a 12lbs+ baby vaginally. I mentioned this at my antenatal class and asked whether this is one of the times a caesarean might be suggested, and she was absolutely horrified at the idea and totally shot me down!
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