Pregnancy #45

[Ro98]

Been signed off with the ongoing dizziness until my mat leave, they're 99% sure it's something that will disappear once he's born and my body just can't handle a lot of movement which I've come to terms with.
Although I can't wait to do a proper workout again & not feel absolutely useless and guilty.
But it will all be sooo so worth it when he arrives so just trying to focus on that even if I have another 14 weeks to go

 

[Gossipgirl993]

You know I read it like that, I’m sorry everyone has jumped down your throat and jumped to conclusions.

I have to agree. Everyone has bad days and we all say things that we may feel bad about later it’s human nature. I also understand the annoyance of relying on public transport because I do it myself. All of those people are also being rude to you by seeing you’re heavily pregnant and not offering you a seat it’s just the polite and decent thing to do.

 

[Gossipgirl993]

Prior comments aside though - that comment wasn’t an unreasonable one.

It wasn’t if it’s true fair enough. Let the person who posted it come on first and see what they have to say for themselves though.

People are judging because it was only yesterday the same person was pretty much picking at someone else’s posts even though the said person apologised and yes the prior posts do speak for themselves. The past two days there has been a pattern and it takes away the support this thread can bring.

 

[WeepingCassandra]

OH is rearranging the bedroom so we can fit the snuzpod in and we've got our first NCT class tomorrow. It's all making me feel very anxious

 

[tarquin16]

Have any first time Mum’s (past or present) felt really really terrified towards late pregnancy? I’m in my third trimester now and I’m so petrified. Scared of birth, scared of having a little human to take care of! I don’t have any immediate friends or family with babies either so I just have absolutely no clue what I’m doing or how I’m going to cope.

I got to 38 weeks and all of a sudden felt like this, I was induced and labour wasn't as bad as I thought it would be, the pain didn't ramp up as much as I thought it would as I felt in a lot of pain at 4cm and thought how will I get to 10cm but it didn't ramp up as much as I expected. Baby is now eleven days old, I still feel clueless and baby blues has hit but every day I get a bit better at knowing what to do so will get there

 

[Rdogk24]

Have any first time Mum’s (past or present) felt really really terrified towards late pregnancy? I’m in my third trimester now and I’m so petrified. Scared of birth, scared of having a little human to take care of! I don’t have any immediate friends or family with babies either so I just have absolutely no clue what I’m doing or how I’m going to cope.

 

[themuffinwoman]

Prior comments aside though - that comment wasn’t an unreasonable one.

Maybe we should have a rule that nobody gives advice, midwife or not. I’ve seen duff advice from regular posters on here, particularly over the last few days, especially when advice differs from trust to trust and you get people saying things like “you can drink water on your GD test”, which someone then subsequently said they weren’t even supposed to brush their teeth.

Given her previous savage comments I find it hypocritical for her to tell someone to not troll the thread. Also, the OP hasn’t come onto defend herself, so nobody knows the actual story.

Point is, all of these snappy posts are a waste of time on what is usually a nice thread.

 

[Spencerskates]

Is anyone really struggling with wanting to get stuff done but not being able to?

I desperately want the nursery somewhat complete (I’m almost 22 weeks so know there isn’t a rush, but trying to work around busy times at work etc) but we’ve got so much to sort out in the room as it’s currently just a dumping ground.

Lots of the sorting needs a tip run, and I can’t move the big items of furniture myself, even pre-pregnancy (we’re talking big wardrobes, bookcases etc) but then I feel bad nagging at my partner to do it because he doesn’t have the same sense of urgency. But then if I asked my dad to help, my OH would worry that my parents thought he wasn’t doing enough. But then if my OH’s parents help, mine feel pushed out.

I feel like I’m trying to please everyone and would normally be fiercely independent and find some way to do it but I feel useless and a nag.

 

[WeepingCassandra]

This maybe a silly question! Can you use the bassinet part of pushchair for daytime naps?

We've been told that our Cosatto bassinet is suitable for "occasional over night sleeping" which apparently translates to "max 3 nights". I don't know if the baby combusts after 3 nights or what.

 

[WotsitG1]

Hormones are in full force this morning…. Just full on blabbed, proper ugly cried over my Dog….. she’s fine, she’s good, loving life asleep on sofa but just cried about how much I love the little Git.

 

[Gossipgirl79]

So exciting to click the next poll response 20 weeks today, I have my scan in a few hours. Isn’t it incredible you go from ‘hmm I’m not sure if what I feel is the baby’ to ‘there’s no mistaking that’s the baby’ in a matter of days

I’m 36 weeks now and the movements are crazy!! No judging at ALL and interest if this has happened to anyone….but makes me wonder HOW people don’t know they’re pregnant until they give birth!

 

[Facehugger]

For you ladies who are suffering with suspected UTI's, if you're getting pain regularly please go get checked.
I was 32 weeks and was having mild pains every hour for 4 days. My useless midwife brushed it off as a UTI, however it was not. I was in early premature labour, she missed it, it was my first and only baby so I trusted her advice. After 4 days pains ramped up to every 3 minutes and I was blue lighted to hospital.
Divvy woman saw me outside the maternity unit next morning after he was born, I'd gone out for some fresh air, 'Oh hello, what you doing here?'. Me: 'There's a 4lb premature baby upstairs in an incubator, water infection you say?'
Useless.

 

[jackolantern]

Maybe we should have a rule that nobody gives advice, midwife or not. I’ve seen duff advice from regular posters on here, particularly over the last few days, especially when advice differs from trust to trust and you get people saying things like “you can drink water on your GD test”, which someone then subsequently said they weren’t even supposed to brush their teeth.

Given her previous savage comments I find it hypocritical for her to tell someone to not troll the thread. Also, the OP hasn’t come onto defend herself, so nobody knows the actual story.

Point is, all of these snappy posts are a waste of time on what is usually a nice thread.

I mean it’s an largely an advice thread so you’re gonna struggle to not do so. It’s only natural if someone has reduced movements to want to encourage them to be seen. Would you prefer everyone just continued with the “drink a cold drink!”. There can be a huge cost to stuff like this so people who have been there before are going to want to help. I have no idea about the posters prior comments as I don’t have the time nor the inclination to track someone’s posting history. However in this instance, she was spot on.

 

[pink_lemonade]

Rant incoming 🫠


I’m 35 weeks this week and my bump is big FYI

had to get the bloody bus today to work, got the 8am one, which was heaving! Seats taken, everyone stood up even at the front by the driver so I got on, stood up right at the front which wasn’t great, I don’t care about not having a seat obviously I would of preferred to sit down but don’t expect everyone to rise for me. Well a bigger lady got on after me, huffing and puffing cos of the bus, driver told her that she needs to move down past me cos she would be blocking his view. More huffing and puffing with her stuff, I moved to the side cos she was looking to get past me, it was a tight squeeze so she goes ‘make room for a big one’and I snapped and said ‘well I’m pregnant so I can’t move MY stomach’ whilst looking down at hers, she didn’t say a thing but her face changed to expression and she shuffled past 🫠
I feel like a right bitch but HORMONES and if I could take my bump off to let her through then I would of.

came into work, all my stuff had been moved from my desk, my laptop wouldn’t work and then I had to go to the bathroom to cry to release my frustration
I don’t know if I’ll be going into the office for much longer and after the faff of going from 3 days to 2, I might just go on mat leave cos it’s too stressful

 

[WeepingCassandra]

Growth scan was all good. Looking like 65th percentile so nothing to worry about and it was happily wiggling about again during the scan! I must say though, the late scans are really weird to look at xD

 

[themuffinwoman]

I didn’t really enjoy telling people, I don’t like being the centre of attention and feel really awkward about stuff so kind of kept it to myself as long as I could Also not having a baby shower much to the disgust of my friends, I honestly can’t think of anything worse!

Omg I’m also not having a baby shower and it really baffles people. I’m like here’s my address just send me gifts please

 

[calmyourritas]

Hope the babies come soon! @tarquin16 @fairylights2000 @Nayalove96

 

[disillusionedbythegram]

Does anyone know much about statutory maternity pay…. I’m waiting on my workplace to let me know if they are sorting out my statutory pay… my manager sent forms away january 4th. From what I can see they have 28 days to respond. I emailed start of week and they said they were working on it.
I work part time & variable hours but I think I earnt over the £123 a week to get statutory off my workplace… I just would like a answer as I assume if it’s a no I have to apply for maternity pay from
Goverment which says it can take 20 days to apply. My last working day should be 5th match… just getting abit impatient.
Am I being unreasonable to email again maybe start of next week and ask for a response!
I hate not knowing what’s going on!

No you’re not being unreasonable, if it’s only statutory you're entitled then I’m almost positive it doesn’t come from them anyway it comes from the government. It’s if they top it up with additional maternity pay that it would come from them.
I’m in a really similar position and my workplace were being very slow about it too, so I worked it out for myself and basically told them I was entitled and enclosed my average earnings, and asked them to proceed with the application as I was unsure what the hold up was.
If you want to work it out yourself, it’s the average amount you earned in the 8 weeks prior to your qualifying week. Qualifying week is 15 weeks before expected due date, so to work it out you:
Find the Sunday before your due date, count 15 back from then. Then count 8 back from that date and that’s your window (so effectively weeks 16/17-24/25 is your qualifying window)
---

By the way thank you to everyone who recommended to call triage this morning when I had different movements. They gave me all the usual advice (that’s i’d already been doing) like cold water, lay on your side, drink something sugary etc and literally as I was on the phone he started a tap dancing party and has been going pretty much every hour since I do yoga on a Wednesday evening so I’m wondering if there’s any link with him being more chilled afterwards? Although probably not

 

[Savewaterdrinkgin]

Hi everyone I hope it’s ok to pop in and join you all. I’m almost 12 weeks with baby number 3. How is everyone doing?

 

[wellingtonboots]

Evening all! I’m days away from my due date and so fed up of how often I get false alarms! Cramps and backache every day, and they always turn out to be nothing. I’m getting so impatient now