Pregnancy #45

[xoxo GG]

Just wondering if anyone else is struggling with family members shoving their ideals about raising a child on to you?
I've got my brother in law telling me to make sure that his parents get to babysit and have baby overnight (he has kids but they never stay at their grandparents), my in laws nagging about getting the nursery finished & telling me I need to make sure I breastfeed & I need to avoid a c-section & folk saying I need to be ready for the guests straight after I'm out of hospital coz they'll be coming round.

I'm 28 weeks & already wondering if I can disappear after I give birth to somewhere remote .

Starting to feel like when you get pregnant your opinions, feelings & choices are irrelevant.

Sorry for the rant, just do not know where else to turn without causing drama.

Set your boundaries now. As somebody who didn’t and was continually disrespected in the immediate postpartum period, make it clear what you want and stick to it x

 

[Nayalove96]

How are you doing @Nayalove96, hun?

Id Like to retract my statement about c sections being a breeze day 2 has hit me like a f5 tornado I’m in utter agony I haven’t been resting because I felt fine so that’s more than likely why!

 

[Bobbleowl90]

I’m going for my gender scan this morning and I’m so excited!! I can’t believe how quickly it’s come around.

 

[Gossipgirl993]

This thread is getting way too mumsnetty 🥱

I’ve thought the same.

I don’t know why some people are just out to get others though, like is there nothing better to do. It is ruining the thread.

 

[anything at all]

Still here
Labour and delivery has been busy with emergencies today so not had the hormone drip at 4 like they said. They’re handing over to the night shift staff so hopefully find out what’s happening soon.

to anyone that hasn’t fully/or is the process of packing your hospital bags: ear plugs
also bring something to do that isn’t just your phone, I didn’t think I’d need anything at all (didn’t expect to be here this long before baby!) but I’ve been so bored and I did bring my phone charger but they said I couldn’t plug it in here, could only use their pat tested ones which you could borrow for a £10 deposit !

 

[fairylights2000]

Someone in the antenatal ward snores as loud as my husband and I genuinely think I'm losing my mind.

 

[baxter2021]

At my wits end, rant incoming. 40+2 weeks today and had a sweep earlier this week. Midwife was able to perform it and was 1-2cm dilated. Had a bit of a bloody show and then nothing else has happened.

Woke up and thought my waters were trickling yesterday but then dry the rest of the day. The midwives said just to keep an eye on it. I’d literally give anything for the contractions to start because feels like I’ve been pregnant for a million years.

To top it off our toddler has developed chicken pox and that’s complicated our childcare plans thankfully me and my husband had it as children, but we’ve still managed to get a bad cough from him and we’ve barely slept a wink in days.

I’m just so ready for the baby to be here, I could cry.

 

[Luisa18]

Does anyone else find themselves feeling guilty whenever they eat anything that isn’t fruit / veg / protein!?
Just had my first maccies cheeseburger (no bun because intolerance) & chips since pre-pregnancy, after a Greek salad for lunch that wasn’t at all enough
Everyone around me makes such a fuss of only being ‘good’ - hate that term!!! So I feel it’s making me majorly paranoid about what I eat!
Someone remind me 1 little burger & chips is fine

I just smashed an entire package of Maryland cookies. You’re doing good boo

 

[WotsitG1]

TW-

Feel totally fed up! Had my appointment at the breast clinic for the patch of skin where the pores look larger. First consultant said didn’t look like anything sinister… no other symptoms ect. Likely a pregnancy related matter. Went for ultrasound…. Lady doing it said she can see thickened skin and really unusually she could see my pores on the ultrasound…but she doesn’t often see pregnant ladies. she said they would be looking for inflammatory breast cancer but my other symptoms and the fact it’s got no worse doesn’t point to it…. Thankfully it’s got alittle better over time.
Back to consultant he said I have two options to leave it and see what it does or take biopsy today. I opted for biopsy, as I just want to know. After biopsy he said he would be expecting it to come back all clear and just this symptom alone isn’t a sign of cancer. That he suggested biopsy just to rule anything sinister out so I can forget about it all. I feel totally totally confussed…. Logically surely it’s a good thing the biopsy was optional today, and that he can see no other signs…but the sonographer comments threw me off! Feel like I’m living in waiting for bad news all the time and for everything to come crashing down.

 

[Borntorun]

Feeling frustrated this evening. I had my 32 week growth scan today and they were really happy with how baby is growing, said everything is measuring as it should be and I’m on the 51st centile (last visit was 49th), measured fluid and all fine etc etc. this afternoon had a call with my diabetic midwife as I’ve got GD and she suggested starting insulin because my fasting numbers are still high. I’ve declined, I don’t want to go on insulin and I can’t see the issue if the baby is measuring as he should be and has made steady growth since my last visit? I just can’t see how this makes sense when they’re saying everything is looking good

I know no one wants to go on insulin, but I’m wondering if it’s perhaps worth reconsidering? Maybe your midwife didn’t explain it very well, but keeping your blood sugars stable isn’t just about keeping the growth of the baby normal. Unstable blood sugars affects how well your placenta works. This is why women with gestational diabetes are considered higher risk for having a stillbirth, because if your sugars aren’t stable it can cause your placenta to fail. Babies also get used to living in a high sugar environment, and when born struggle to maintain their own sugars and thus can end up needing an admission to NICU for IV glucose if they can’t maintain their own sugar levels by feeding alone. Also scans are like a photograph: it means the growth is fine today, but it means nothing about the next 5+ weeks. If you know these risks that’s fine and it’s your decision. It’s just these are big risks and it’s good to be informed

***not giving medical advice as I know that’s not allowed. Just stating risks from my own experience

 

[Gossipgirl79]

Just wondering if anyone else is struggling with family members shoving their ideals about raising a child on to you?
I've got my brother in law telling me to make sure that his parents get to babysit and have baby overnight (he has kids but they never stay at their grandparents), my in laws nagging about getting the nursery finished & telling me I need to make sure I breastfeed & I need to avoid a c-section & folk saying I need to be ready for the guests straight after I'm out of hospital coz they'll be coming round.

I'm 28 weeks & already wondering if I can disappear after I give birth to somewhere remote .

Starting to feel like when you get pregnant your opinions, feelings & choices are irrelevant.

Sorry for the rant, just do not know where else to turn without causing drama.

I had my baby 10 days ago and had alllll this before I gave birth…in the end, I was 4 weeks early, was an emergency c-section and breastfeeding is proving tricky due to various things I won’t bore you with. When they’re here, you’ll feel SO protective that you’ll do things your way cos they’re your baby and you know best. For now, I would try and smile and give a non-comital “we’ll just need to see how things go.” Then when baby is here, it’s easier to say “we’re figuring out what works best for us/we’re taking things one day at a time/that’s great that worked for you, we’re still getting to know each other.” Good Luck

 

[FatherJackHackett]

Just got our cot only 21 weeks so some may view it as a bit early but I want to be organised as much as possible. Just getting real now, super excited to meet the new arrival x

 

[Heyguysswipeup]

So exciting to click the next poll response 20 weeks today, I have my scan in a few hours. Isn’t it incredible you go from ‘hmm I’m not sure if what I feel is the baby’ to ‘there’s no mistaking that’s the baby’ in a matter of days

 

[WhatABore]

She is amazing for being 4 weeks early! Over 6lbs so I’m scared to think what she would have been at full term. I’m frustrated with the lack of mobility….won’t go into details (unless anyone really wants me too and I’ll put it behind a spoiler) but ended in an emergency c-section (and for fellow mums who did the PBC Hypnobirthing course, I did ask…is this an unplanned c or an emergency? So I’m not saying it lightly) so I’m sore, but she’s worth it all.

If you're happy to go into more detail, then that would maybe be good for some
Behind a spoiler as you say.
I personally found after my first that reading into all the different things that could "Go wrong", made me feel so much more prepared.

With my first, I stuck to all positive straight forward birth stories and it was a bit of a shock to the system when my birth didn't follow that!
So reading other birth stories made me so much more prepared when things went "wrong" with my second!

 

[WeHadFunRight]

Got my GTT #2 this morning… trying to go through all the stuff I need to do before I leave the house and all I can think is BREAKFAST BREAKFAST.

HELP!

 

[Itsallthecheese]

Been awake since 5 after falling asleep on the sofa at 8 my app tells me I’ve only got 67 days left till my due date which is unreal.

Mines 30... I keep checking my calendar thinking it's a mistake

 

[TheSilverFox]

OMG slightly off topic but I asked a pregnancy-related question on mums net earlier (never really looked at the website before) WOW people are brutal on there! I can't believe anyone complains about Tattle lol. Do people just lurk there for the sole purpose of being nasty?! I'm so confused why anyone would dare to ask a question there anymore unless they are in the mood for an argument

 

[I’mThankyou_]

Aww man, what have I done now? I was just trying to diffuse the tension 🥲

It wasn't though.
It was a dig a young mums. Like they don't already face enough judgement. There's a girl on here who was young and posted for advice. It just defeats the object.
As a previously young mum. It gets my back up how quickly people are to judge because of their age.
I'm 30 and still get judged for having my first child young. I am still judged for looking "young" so I don't think it defused any tension. Age doesn't come into being a parent. I've seen amazing mums at 16 and shit mums at 36.

 

[WeepingCassandra]

Baby is now doing a full can can show and I feel much less pressure over my bump now! Poor bugger was probably just sleeping in protest at me running around all day

 

[WhatABore]

Keith, is a beautiful name for a boy

Or girl.
We're not sexist here.
In my experience